On Attachment

A couple of weeks ago, I shared my thoughts on if “once a cheater, always a cheater” is true, and today I’m continuing the conversation around the reasons why people cheat in a relationship and getting curious around what’s driving these behaviours. For some people this may be a challenging episode to listen to, so please make sure you’re in the right mindset to listen.We'll cover:Wounds around worthinessDisconnection and lonelinessFeeling like it’s the easy way outBeing seen through rose coloured glassesUse the code JUNE50 for 50% off 3 masterclasses or the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm joined by Vienna Pharaon. Vienna is a licensed marriage & family therapist, creator of the hugely successful @mindfulmft Instagram account, and recently published author of The Origins of You. Vienna has the gift of conveying complex and emotionally dense topics with such nuance. Today she joins me on the podcast to talk about origin wounds and how they impact patterns in relationships as adults and how we can honour our pain and experience.We'll cover:What happens when you hide behind a façade of being "fine"The five origin wounds (worthiness, belonging, trust, safety and prioritisation)Why we might struggle to explore our family dynamicsWhat happens when we avoid being in pain properly Finding peace with the painFind Vienna on Instagram or via her website.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

When you really want a relationship, enjoying being single can be something incredibly challenging. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m diving into how to enjoy being single when all you really want is a relationship.We'll cover:Owning your desire for a loving, healthy relationshipBeing grateful in the presentWhat it means to actually enjoy your life being singleUse the code PHOENIX for $150 off the Higher Love Course - https://www.stephanierigg.com/higher-loveHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I’m sharing five communication and conflict mistakes that I often see people making in relationships and what you can do instead to bridge a positive connection with your partner.We'll cover:Why we shouldn’t avoid the hard conversationsWhat happens when we suppress our emotionsHow to express your desires with your partnerWhy we shouldn’t expect our partners to be mind readers Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

Cheating within relationships can cause so much pain, grief and sensitivity around betray and infidelity. In today's Q&A style episode, I’m sharing my thoughts on if people can really change if they’ve cheated in the past and advice for people in the situation with concerns that their partner may not stay faithful.We'll cover:Learning from mistakesThe messy feelings that lead to infidelityTending to needs that aren’t being metExpressing self awareness and regretHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm talking with NY-based coach, teacher and speaker, Connor Beaton about the challenges men are facing in our modern society. Connor and I talk through how understanding the experience of men better, we can cultivate healthier relationships and happier and more fulfilled lives. Note: while On Attachment aims to be as inclusive as possible, this conversation is focused primarily on male-female relationships and the dynamics that can arise therein. We know that's not everyone's experience, so feel free to take from this episode what resonates with you, and leave what doesn't. We'll cover:Numbing out pain from childhood and using unhealthy coping mechanismsStopping the cycle of running away from yourselfWhat it looks like inside a relationship when men are lacking confidence & competenceHow vulnerability can be practised with menWhat makes a great relationshipFind Connor Beaton's work on Instagram (@mantalks), check out his courses and membership on his website, and be sure to purchase his best-selling book Men's Work.Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm unpacking the concept of "the one". When it comes to relationships, many of us have absorbed the conditioning that there is some perfect person out there for us - and our only job is to find them. This can lead us down a rabbit hole of doubt, comparison and low self-worth.We cover:why the idea of "the one" is unrealistichow it can lead us to doubt our perfectly normal, healthy relationshipthe unexpected reason why we might seek out "the one"Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm sharing 5 tips on how to love someone well. So often, we think we are being loving towards someone - when really, we are pursuing our own agenda of loving them with strings attached. We love in order to get something in return, and then feel secretly resentful when things don't go our way. So instead, I'm sharing how to love someone in a way that feels pure and open-hearted.We'll cover:the importance of gratitude voicing appreciation and recognition of someone's contributionhow to accept someone rather than control or change themtaking responsibility for your own happinessstaying curious about your partner's inner worldHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, I'm answering the question of "How do I know if someone is avoidant or just not that interested in me?" This is a question I get A LOT - and the answer might surprise you.  I'm going to share a common misconception about avoidant attachment in early dating, as well as some hard truths about why we seek out people whose behaviour leaves us questioning whether they're interested or not. Highlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

In today's episode, we're talking all about nervous system regulation in the context of emotional wellbeing. As many of you know, I'm a big advocate of incorporating bottom-up, somatically focused tools and awareness as part of the bigger picture of growth and healing. And a key piece of that work is understanding how to understand and support your nervous system. We cover:why a healthy nervous system isn't about being calm all the timehow to expand your comfort zone and resilience in a safe, sustainable wayhow to make a daily practice out of nervous system regulationhow to counteract feeling powerless and overwhelmedbuilding a toolkit for nervous system regulation and self-soothingHighlighted Links Free Break-Up Training: The Top 3 Mistakes Keeping You Stuck After a Break-Up How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love Additional Resources Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website