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Jun 8, 2021 • 48min

ERP 271: How Forgiveness Plays A Powerful Role In Relationship - An Interview With Judith Belmont

Holding on to the past may seem like gaining power over things that cannot be changed, but the opposite is true. Judith Belmont, motivational speaker, author, and psychotherapist for 40 years, advises that forgiving makes you and your relationship happier and more loving. Forgiveness is essential to become free of the pains of the past. The hurt may never leave, but it can be managed positively so that you no longer have to bring it into your relationship and instead focus on the here and now. Judith is the author of 9 mental health and wellness books and therapeutic card decks, including Embrace Your Greatness and The Anxiety and Stress Solution Deck. Her books cover self-help, personal development, and tips and tools for therapists working with clients. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode:  04:17 Introduction to Judith Belmont 06:43 Forgiving does not condone an action that was taken. What it does is allow you to move on from your past and prevent another person from gaining power over you. 10:28 Reliving the hurt of the past means that you will never be free of it. This is the opposite of mindfulness which is defined as non-judgmental awareness. 15:41 People don't want to be wronged. Forgiveness may seem counterproductive to this sense of righteousness, but it allows you to overcome a former way of thinking that is no longer relevant to you and your life today. 17:02 In relationship, living your partner's narrative of you makes you at the mercy of someone else and distorts your self-esteem. 20:07 The hardest thing for most people is forgiving themselves as people are notoriously less forgiving of themselves than others. 23:31 Forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Forgiveness is giving up your righteousness that you were wronged or you wronged yourself, accepting what happened and growing from it. 28:58 Reclaim your power over your feelings. It is YOU who allowed yourself to feel something with someone else's actions. Be a victor instead of being a victim. 33:15 Feeling hurt is necessary to let you know that something wrong happened. In fact, some situations will deepen you because of the hurt. You can manage hurt instead of carrying it. 37:29 Judith's tips and strategies for forgiving others and yourself 40:11 Information on Judith's books, therapeutic cards, and website Mentioned Judith's website What is Your Forgiveness IQ? by Judith Belmont Judith's Amazon author page ERP 026: How to Repair & Resolve Hurt in Relationship ERP 123: Forgive For Love with Dr. Fred Luskin ERP 153: How to Repair a Breach of Trust in Relationship ERP 158: How to Resolve Resentment in Your Relationship Shifting Criticism for Connected Communication by Dr. Jessica Higgins Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    
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Jun 1, 2021 • 53min

ERP 270: How To Resolve Relational Trauma in The Body Through Dance & Movement - An Interview with Orit Krug

People who live with relational trauma develop hypersensitive nervous systems as a survival instinct. Orit Krug, an award-winning Board-Certified Dance and Movement Therapist, explains that this results in a disconnect between what the mind wants and the body feels, hindering us from experiencing true intimacy in loving relationships. Certain movements represent certain behaviors and desired ones can be triggered through dance and movement. As trauma is also expressed in physical posturing and habits, dance therapy can rewire new patterns of behavior through body movement and desire for a healthy and loving space. Orit has over a decade of experience helping women heal from past trauma and enjoy healthy lifelong relationships with their partners. Orit founded the “Mind Your Body” podcast and has been featured in Elephant Journal, ThriveGlobal, Authority Magazine, as well as quoted in SELF & INSIDER. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode:  01:52 Relationships are mirrors that reveal wounded aspects of ourselves. Addressing these ignored areas allows us to become better equipped in navigating long-term relational intimacy. 04:10 Introduction to Orit Krug: Her history of trauma and expertise in dance and movement therapy. 09:13 Trauma gets trapped in the nervous system and causes us to become hyper vigilant. Survival responses are designed to keep us safe and cannot be changed by simply adopting mindsets. 13:40 People living with trauma attract negative relationships that sabotage intimacy and pleasure because of its familiarity. 16:32 Recognize avoidant and numbing behavior patterns in intimate relationships that cause disconnects between mind and body. Getting triggered by these automatic reactions clouds our access to our higher brains and prevents sexual intimacy. 21:39 As memories of trauma are stored in our bodies as different sensations, dance and movement therapy provide a safe space to tune in again. This therapy also helps expand our window of tolerance for being vulnerable in a relationship. 29:44 Different movements represent different behaviors. How we hold our body is a habitual and physiological manifestation that prevents us from becoming the best versions of ourselves. 35:36 How dance therapy works: Revealing behavioral patterns in your relationship and feeling a space between your instinctive reactions and actual responses to heal from years of trauma 46:06 Information on Orit's free programs and Facebook group Mentioned The Wired for Love Website The Lasting Love Movement Group Orit Krug's Let Love In Program Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    
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May 25, 2021 • 57min

ERP 269: How To Break Free From The Nice Guy Syndrome That Is Holding You Back - An Interview With Dr. Robert Glover

The Nice Guy Syndrome has become the norm for so many men. Dr. Robert Glover, author of the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," comes on today's show to tell us how to unlearn this passive-aggressive persona, overcome sexual shame, and enjoy healthier relationships. Dr. Robert Glover shares his own history of living as a Nice Guy and the breaking points that told him enough is enough. He has spent over 30 years helping men and women get the love, sex, and life they want. His groundbreaking books, classes, podcasts, and seminars have helped form the foundation for a growing world-wide men’s movement. Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. In this episode:  02:42 Dr. Jessica Higgins revisits the Empowered Relationship Podcast intention to achieve long-lasting intimacy. 07:00 Introduction to Dr. Robert Glover and the "Nice Guy Syndrome." 10:20 Unpacking "Covert Contracts" and the paradigm of the Nice Guy 14:49 The Nice Guy Syndrome: Anxiety, shame, passive-aggressive behavior. Dr. Glover explains that this begins as an infant's precognitive response to pain that gets carried into adulthood. 23:23 No More Mr. Nice Guy teaches that there is a better alternative to the "default" roadmap of Nice Guys: Fear of confrontation, agreeing too much, and the inability to take a clear stand. 32:15 Nice Guys mindsets on expectations and attraction, including passive-aggressive behavior, are fundamentally flawed. 37:09 Pushing down wants and needs leads to problems with intimacy, living fantasy worlds, and porn. Too often, Nice Guys assume that they have to conceal their interest in a girl due to their sexual shame. 43:17 Tips and strategies: Dr. Glover gives practical advice so Nice Guys can take control and be honest with themselves. 52:41 How to contact Dr. Robert Glover   Mentioned robert@drglover.com Dr. Robert Glover's Website No More Mr Nice Guy Homepage Dating Essentials For Men Get your own copy of at No More Mr. Nice Guy at Amazon Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    
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May 18, 2021 • 48min

ERP 268: How To Save & Transform A Sexless Marriage - An Interview With Irene Fehr

In today's episode, I talk with Irene Fehr. We discuss how to be better prepared to navigate long-lasting intimacy and deal with the extensive range of emotions that come with long-term relationships. We also talk about what emotions may be activated and how we can learn new perspectives on our relationship by becoming more curious and explorative. Ending up in a sexless marriage when she lost her libido, Irene felt shame around not sexually wanting her partner. She shut down and withdrew from life because she thought there was something wrong with her as a woman. From this point, Irene wanted to help other couples rediscover the magic of sex in all different stages to have a fulfilled intimate sexual experience, no matter how long a couple is together. Listen in to learn why looking outside of your relationship to fix a sexless marriage won't work, how couples can create connection sex, and how Irene helps couples navigate and access needs and sexual desires. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, has helped hundreds of committed couples to add sex and passion into sexless relationships and fall in love with each other again. She is no stranger to her clients' complaints, having recovered from the all-too-common story of "happy marriage turned sexless" when she lost her libido. You can read Irene's perspectives on sex, sexual desire in a long-term relationship, and women's libido in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, and ScaryMommy. In this episode, Irene Fehr & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Why friction sex has a shelf life and limits The three types of sex during stages of relationships How sex can get repetitive for couples Why women can lose their libido How stress can reduce your sex hormones Why friction sex is fueled by drugs and alcohol Where attachment is a factor in sex and relationships How sex can turn into a battleground for validation The three sex myths people fall into How couples can allow for quality time together and more touch The importance of making enough quality time together Messaging around the arousal journey Why you need to create space around your body as a woman   Mentioned Visit Irene Fehr on the web Free 3-video training “How to Want Sex Again" Three types of sex as background   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    
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May 11, 2021 • 55min

ERP 267: 4 Healthy Ways To Manage Jealousy In Relationship - An interview With Dr. Joli Hamilton

In today's episode, Dr. Joli Hamilton speaks about jealousy, defining what jealousy is and approaching jealousy in a relationship. Jealousy isn't a simple emotion and is made in tangled layers of gross emotions we don't like to feel, such as sadness, anger, grief, arousal, and fear.   Jealousy reminds us that we love, lust, and desire someone that has this strange tone. Envy plays along with jealousy as we are wishing we had something someone else has. Insecurity plays a role as it's a root cause of intense jealousy and reduces our resilience in relationships.   Listen in to learn how to separate the feelings of insecurity from jealousy, what can be perceived as a threat in a relationship, and why we wish we could be protected from jealousy.   (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio Dr. Joli Hamilton is a research psychologist, best-selling author, TEDx speaker, and AASECT certified sex educator. She has spent the past two decades balancing a wild entrepreneurial spirit with a deep desire to have a secure, passionate partnership along with raising 7 kids along the way! Joli is committed to helping women create sustainable, soul-nourishing relationships without sacrificing their career dreams. In this episode, Dr. Hamilton & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  The definition of jealousy as it applies to relationships Why imagining our relationship being interrupted by another can provoke jealousy How insecurity plays into jealousy in a relationship Why envy results from insecurity Work we can do to improve our own self-esteem Types of threats people can perceive with jealousy The importance of why we need to feel like we have something to give in a relationship Variables that can affect jealousy in a relationship Why having mutual understanding is so important How childhood trauma affects jealousy Techniques for managing jealousy Why monogamy doesn’t protect you from feelings of jealousy Grief plays a significant role in jealousy Four ways to deal with jealousy   Mentioned Dr. Joli Hamilton on the web Polysecure the book   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!  
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May 4, 2021 • 43min

ERP 266: How To Access More Vulnerability & Curiosity During Difficult Conversations - An Interview With Shana James

In today's episode, Shana James and I talk about being more vulnerable and showing more transparency about our experience, intentions, and hopes and how this can help promote more intimacy in relationships.   When relating to others, on one end of the spectrum we can be people-pleasing and shame collapsing. On the opposite side, we can be controlling and dominant. Neither option leads to a fulfilling relationship. Whereas in the middle, we have a sense of assertiveness, strength, and having an open heart with transparency and vulnerability. Having a healthy balance and a dynamic exchange between two people centered around support is the most advantageous for building relationships.   Having a conversation based on "compassionate curiosity" without jumping to assumptions or conclusions can lead to great learning and understanding. The more you take leadership in the conversation, the more you can be available to feel your partner's fears.   Listen in to learn how to create a safe space for both partners, how to turn your emotional walls into doorways for conversation, and how to collaborate together for heightened sex and intimacy.   (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio For 15 years Shana James coached more than a thousand leaders, CEOs, authors and people with big visions to find love, step into more powerful leadership, start and grow businesses, create a legacy, and become more personally inspired and fulfilled.    Shana cuts through distraction and provides direct access to confidence, power and clarity. She is also a translator between women and men, providing effective tools to transform conversations and dynamics that have gone awry into connection. In this episode, Shana & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Humanity, trust and feeling safe inside relationships and at work How to show up for yourself in your relationship Why you don’t need to flip to the complete opposite side of an archetype Getting into a locked dynamic when one person in a partnership isn’t being vulnerable What challenging each other through love can look like How to motivate or encourage people who are afraid to be vulnerable Why practicing conversation with someone is important The importance of feeling seen and heard for females in a relationship   Mentioned Shana James Coaching on the web What 1000’s Men’s Tears Reveal Ted Talk by Shana James   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins  Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!  
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Apr 27, 2021 • 47min

ERP 265: How to Break Through Relationship Fears with Your SO - an Interview with Georgia Morley and Silver Storic

In today's episode, Georgia, Silver, and I chat about how to take a different perspective with your partner, how to know each other more deeply and have the ability to cultivate intimacy in relationship.   Prior to meeting, Georgia hadn’t thrived in relationships and Silver had essentially written them off completely. When Silver and Georgia entered into relationship, they decided to start to open up to each other as never before. They recorded every conversation and used their talking points to create their first book together.   We often aren't taught intimacy in our life. It can be helpful to reflect on which patterns are healthy and which are not. Then, you can practice shifting out of the unhealthy patterns, so that you can give yourself room to grow in relationship.   Listen in to learn how to hold space for each other in a relationship; self-development works as it applies to building your relationship with others and peering into a new relationship or aspect of your life.   (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio Georgia Morley is an Emotional Resilience Coach,CBT, relationship mentor with over 10 years experience working with women around addiction, physical and emotional body health, developmental trauma and sexual reclamation after abuse.   Silver Storic is an Author and Mentor boldly showing up as a Global Connection Ambassador, leading workshops and keynotes on Radical Truth and recovery from codependency. Silver co-authored the Amazon bestseller Better Business, Better Life, Better World - The Movement.   Together, Georgia & Silver share their life's work of freedom from codependent themes and painful relationship patterns that oppress relationships and keep couples from experiencing true intimacy in partnership. In this episode, Georgia, Silver, & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How to live a life of fulfillment and love The types of confines we put on our relationships How Georgia and Silver co-created their ideal relationship together The three elements of relationship Why wounds and trauma show up in our adult relationship Changing the somatic and cognitive experiences of your life Losing perspective of yourself and your relationship Acknowledging toxic aspects and relationships as unhealthy patterns How to have love leadership in your relationship Creating healthy practices for yourself and your relationship Living inside the feeling of discomfort   Mentioned Love, Life and Legacy  Follow on Instagram Check out their Facebook Group   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!    
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Apr 20, 2021 • 49min

ERP 264: How To Increase Your Emotional Intelligence In Relationship - An Interview with Robin Hills

In today's episode, Robin Hills and I chat about emotional intelligence and how your EI can improve your relationship. Robin talks about his life-long journey in developing EI skills for himself and what emotional intelligence looks like in action. As emotional beings, we can't manage our "emotional platter" all the time. There are times when we aren't feeling well, and we won't be at our EI best. In addition, we can find times to give others space when they need an emotional break. Self-awareness plays a significant role in emotional intelligence. Those with high self-awareness tend to be the people with good EI, and those with low self-awareness tend to have low EI. Working on self-awareness is a skill that can be used to reflect on how your preferences and behaviors are manifesting themselves. Listen in to learn why empathy is a significant part of acquiring EI, why it's OK for men to express emotions, and how EI starts when you are a baby. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio Robin is the director of Ei4Change, a company specialized in emotional intelligence, positive psychology and neuroscience. He has taught more than 100,000 students how to build resilience, increased self-awareness and understanding of others. His programs are today used in educational establishments in South Africa and India. He is the author of two books and has developed the experiential coaching methodology: Images of Resilience, and sits on the North West Committee of the Association of Business Psychology. In this episode, Robin Hill & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Variables that can affect your emotional intelligence How emotional intelligence is managing your emotions and understanding others emotions through understanding and empathy Why reflecting on self-awareness is a key element in moving toward EI balance The role empathy plays in emotional intelligence and relationships The importance of recognizing when others have a lower EI Toxic relationships and how that plays in emotional intelligence How Myers-Briggs and other tools can give you valuable personality information The way we process information is a big part of understanding how to communicate with another Tips for building emotional intelligence   Mentioned Visit Robin on the web Episode 199 How to Use Your Emotional Intelligence for Connection Part I Episode 200 How to Use Your Emotional Intelligence for Connection Part II Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins  Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!  
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Apr 13, 2021 • 49min

ERP 263: How To Develop 3 Key Qualities Of Positive Masculine Leadership - An Interview GS Youngblood

In today's episode, I'm chatting with GS Youngblood, a coach focusing on masculine energy. The values of clarity and leadership are what he uses as a basis for his model on masculine leadership. We talk about the masculine energy in relationship to the feminine energy and how each energy holds its own space in each relationship. GS's practice focuses on what men can do to get over their "nice guy" energy in trying to appease everyone. His blueprints show men how to respond from their masculine core without feeling like they have to control everything around them. Today, men are stuck in between taking control and pleasing their partner. GS's three-part blueprint shows men how to be grounded, create safety, choose to respond (rather than react) and to provide structure and clarity, which in turn greatly affects their relationship. Listen in to learn how men can be more embodied, how the elements of his blueprint provide structure, and how to create safety in relationship. (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) Bio GS Youngblood coaches men in relationships on how to live, love, and lead from their Masculine core. He specializes in “nice guys” who are with strong women. His teachings combine deep embodiment work with the framework of the Masculine blueprint from his book “The Masculine in Relationship”.   In his past life, GS was a high-tech executive in Sales and Marketing for 16 years, including founding and selling a company. The leadership practices of Silicon Valley, based on clarity and inspiration rather than control, are a major influence on the model of Masculine leadership he shares with his clients. In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  How to bring masculine energy out into the world and your relationship Details of each element of GS’s blueprint  Examples of how masculine energy works in a relationship The “nice guy” dynamic in a relationship How emotional pain takes a role in a relationship Where men are getting stuck in their masculinity How anxiety plays a role in stopping men from stepping into their masculine role Example verbiage to use when creating clarity in asking for what you want Why name calling your partner “crazy” is a bad choice for your relationship How to connect to your heart and your sense of embodiment   Mentioned Visit GS on the web Connect with GS on Facebook Follow GS on Instagram The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman by GS Youngblood (book)*   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!  
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Apr 6, 2021 • 44min

ERP 262: How Do I Know When My Relationship Has Reached An End

In today's episode, I will offer some input on what you want to be considering if you are doubting or questioning your relationship. Evaluating the choice to stay or go will matter depending on your commitment level, if you are dating or if you are in a long-term committed relationship or marriage.  Overall, it is tough to give a prescriptive answer that will fit everyone. Some standard deal-breakers make being in a relationship impossible or too harmful and painful such as abuse, addiction, or affairs. Other times, we may experience nuances that make it difficult to be clear about "should I stay or should I go." It is confusing when we get into trying to compare other people's experiences to our own. One situation may mean two completely different things in different relationships.   The majority of the time, when I am helping couples work with their pain, conflict, upset, discord, I see how they are both playing into the problematic dynamic. The dynamic of the relationship is usually the source of disconnect between a couple.   Listen in to learn how to improve your current relationship, dating traps you can fall into, and how to figure out what is a real dealbreaker for you with your boundaries and values.   (Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.) In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:  Common deal breakers in relationships Commitment level in relationship makes a difference when evaluating the relationship How to get clear about what you are experiencing in relationship When personal protection and defenses gets in the way of connecting in a relationship Limits and boundaries during dating Dating traps to avoid when seeking a healthy relationship How fantasy bonds can cloud decision making Learning about your boundaries and sense of value How to get clear on what you want in a relationship Warning signs for your relationship, which can be wake-up calls if you do the work   Mentioned How to Break Free from CoDependency Episode 260 How to Strengthen your Relationship from a Polyvagal Perspective - an Interview with Dr. Stephen Porges Episode 261   Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins   Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast:https://www.marisatcohen.com/book.html  Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!  

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