Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide ERP 269: How To Break Free From The Nice Guy Syndrome That Is Holding You Back - An Interview With Dr. Robert Glover
The Nice Guy Syndrome has become the norm for so many men. Dr. Robert Glover, author of the book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," comes on today's show to tell us how to unlearn this passive-aggressive persona, overcome sexual shame, and enjoy healthier relationships.
Dr. Robert Glover shares his own history of living as a Nice Guy and the breaking points that told him enough is enough. He has spent over 30 years helping men and women get the love, sex, and life they want. His groundbreaking books, classes, podcasts, and seminars have helped form the foundation for a growing world-wide men’s movement.
Check out the transcript to this episode in Dr. Jessica Higgin's website.
In this episode:
02:42 Dr. Jessica Higgins revisits the Empowered Relationship Podcast intention to achieve long-lasting intimacy.
07:00 Introduction to Dr. Robert Glover and the "Nice Guy Syndrome."
10:20 Unpacking "Covert Contracts" and the paradigm of the Nice Guy
14:49 The Nice Guy Syndrome: Anxiety, shame, passive-aggressive behavior. Dr. Glover explains that this begins as an infant's precognitive response to pain that gets carried into adulthood.
23:23 No More Mr. Nice Guy teaches that there is a better alternative to the "default" roadmap of Nice Guys: Fear of confrontation, agreeing too much, and the inability to take a clear stand.
32:15 Nice Guys mindsets on expectations and attraction, including passive-aggressive behavior, are fundamentally flawed.
37:09 Pushing down wants and needs leads to problems with intimacy, living fantasy worlds, and porn. Too often, Nice Guys assume that they have to conceal their interest in a girl due to their sexual shame.
43:17 Tips and strategies: Dr. Glover gives practical advice so Nice Guys can take control and be honest with themselves.
52:41 How to contact Dr. Robert Glover
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