Empowered Relationship Podcast: Your Relationship Resource And Guide

About this Episode What would happen to your family or loved ones if life threw an unexpected curveball tomorrow? Would they feel protected, supported, and prepared, or left to navigate a stressful maze of financial questions and paperwork on their own? In a world where change is the only constant, financial preparedness is an act of love that too often gets pushed aside for another day. But when the unimaginable happens, being unprepared isn’t just stressful—it can have lasting effects on your sense of security, your relationships, and your peace of mind. In this episode, you’ll discover how to take control and approach financial planning as a tool for caring for yourself and those you love. With honest stories from personal experience, practical checklists, and expert strategies for navigating life’s transitions like widowhood, blended families, and sudden loss, you’ll learn why clarity is the best gift you can give to your family. This episode offers actionable steps for organizing vital documents, starting tough conversations, and building the kind of foundation that keeps everyone cared for—no matter what the future holds. Donna Jean Kendrick is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ practitioner and founder of Sephton Financial. After losing her first husband suddenly in 2013, Donna navigated widowhood with three young children, inspiring her to support families in transition through financial planning. She is the host of the Wisdom and Wealth Podcast and author of A Guide to Widowhood, and A Guide for Blended Families. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  05:40 Navigating blended family dynamics and the process of adjustment. 13:25 How being financially organized eased the pain of loss. 14:38 The gift of clarity: Preparing financial documents for loved ones. 18:16 Facing the emotional side of financial planning in relationships. 21:57 Practical tips for document organization. 26:22 How to overcome overwhelm and take stock of your finances. 29:06 Building a financial foundation: Net worth, liabilities, and spending plans. 33:50 Finding your system: Partner roles and routines in managing finances. 36:00 Best practices for couples discussing and organizing their finances. 39:21 Joint vs. separate accounts: Customizing financial approaches for couples. 40:35 Planning for retirement and avoiding resentment. 46:07 Financial conversations for new couples and the value of prenuptial agreements. Mentioned A Guide for Blended Families (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) A Guide to Widowhood Workbook (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Don’t Leave Your Loved Ones Without Answers (webinar link) Annual Credit Report Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Donna Jean Kendrick Websites: donnajeankendrick.com Facebook: facebook.com/DonnaJeanKendrick YouTube: youtube.com/@donnajeankendrick Instagram: instagram.com/donnajeankendrick TikTok: tiktok.com/@donnajeankendrick Podcast: open.spotify.com/show/27h7hxaS2YRb2JJz6R4K9I Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode When love turns toxic, it can be almost impossible to see clearly through the confusion, self-doubt, and emotional chaos that follow. If you've ever found yourself trapped in a cycle of hope, heartbreak, and uncertainty within a relationship, you’re not alone—and there’s a reason why breaking free can feel so overwhelming. The hidden dynamics of pathological partnerships and trauma bonds often keep people stuck, questioning their worth, and struggling to understand why things never seem to get better. In this episode, listeners are offered insight and validation as the conversation unpacks the complex nature of trauma bonds and toxic relationships. You’ll discover how these destructive patterns form, what psychological traits might make someone more susceptible, and why distinguishing between harmful behaviors and truly pathological intentions is so important. With practical guidance and real-life examples, this episode shines a compassionate light on the path toward healing, empowerment, and, for those who need it most, a way out. Affectionately known as Dr. Nae, Dr. Nadine Macaluso is a therapist specializing in trauma healing and personal transformation. Her life inspired the character Naomi Belfort in The Wolf of Wall Street. After overcoming personal challenges, she earned a Master's degree in counseling and a Ph.D. in Somatic Psychotherapy. Dr. Macaluso helps individuals recover from trauma bonds, C-PTSD, and shame. She is also the author of Run Like Hell: A Therapist's Guide to Recognizing, Escaping, and Healing From Trauma Bonds. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:28 Dr. Nadine Macaluso’s personal journey and the roots of her work on trauma bonds. 09:49 Defining trauma bonds and the role of intermittent reinforcement in toxic relationships. 13:35 Intent, power imbalance, and the pathological partner in trauma bonds. 16:11 Pathological intent vs. reactive behaviors and repair. 19:20 Understanding Cluster B personality disorders and their impact on relationships. 21:23 Empowering the victim over diagnosing the pathological partner. 24:11 Who is most susceptible to trauma bonds? 28:16 Questioning labels: Codependency, attachment, and rethinking victim narratives. 32:34 Attachment styles, developmental trauma, and their role in toxic relationships. 34:31 Cultural myths about love, media influence, and the hope that keeps people stuck. 37:20 Reducing shame, cognitive dissonance, and reconnecting with self. 42:47 The process of leaving: Safety, planning, and overcoming guilt. 44:30 Post-traumatic growth: Finding strength, hope, and empowerment after leaving a toxic relationship. Mentioned Run Like Hell (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Women Who Love Psychopaths (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Big 5 Personality Quiz  Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Evolve in Love (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Connect with Dr. Nadine Macaluso Websites: drnae.com Facebook: facebook.com/drnaelmft X: x.com/i/flow/login?redirect_after_login=%2Ftherealdrnadine YouTube: youtube.com/c/TheRealDrNadine Instagram: instagram.com/therealdrnadine LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/therealdrnadine TikTok: tiktok.com/@drnaelmft Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you truly alive in your relationships, or just going through the motions? In a world overflowing with distractions, many of us drift into autopilot—checking boxes, chasing benchmarks, and hoping real connection will fall into place. But without genuine presence and intention, lasting intimacy becomes elusive, leaving us depleted, disconnected, and wondering why meaningful fulfillment always seems out of reach. In this episode, discover how the science of connection can transform the way you approach your closest bonds. Through a blend of psychological insight and practical wisdom, you’ll learn why authentic connection is at the heart of emotional well-being, how to bring mindfulness and curiosity into your daily interactions, and why appreciating yourself and those around you isn’t just nice but vital. Tune in for actionable strategies to break free from autopilot, nurture deeper intimacy, and truly feel alive while you’re living. Adam Dorsay is a licensed psychologist and host of the notable podcast SuperPsyched. He recently released his book Super Psyched: Unleash the Power of the 4 Types of Connection and Live the Life You Love. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  08:43 The essential role of connection: Defining disconnection in mental health. 11:58 Cultural distractors and the brain’s bias against authentic connection. 15:10 Making mindful choices: Savoring life’s simple moments. 17:31 Beginner’s mind in relationships: Staying curious with long-term partners. 22:18 Experiencing awe: microdosing wonder and expanding consciousness. 25:03 The power of appreciation: How gratitude fuels authentic connection. 27:21 Authenticity, integrity, and the impact on genuine presence. 33:12 The four circles of relating to self and others. 35:47 Aligning choices with your values. 37:39 Simple ways to reconnect with others. 41:26 Reclaiming joy and presence in everyday life. Mentioned SuperPsyched: Dr. Dorsay’s Award-Winning Podcast Super Psyched (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Super Psyched (book page) Emotions: The Data Men Miss | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSantaClaraUniversity (YouTube link) (video) Friendships in Adulthood: 5 Things to Know | Adam Dorsay | TEDxSanLuisObispo (YouTube link) (video) How to Fall in Love with Questions (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Evolve in Love (program) Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Adam Dorsay Websites: dradamdorsay.com Instagram: instagram.com/dradamdorsay Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Is your relationship quietly unraveling, and you’re not sure what to do next? Facing the possibility of divorce can feel like your world has been turned upside down, leaving you trapped between fear, uncertainty, and the heartbreak of not knowing what comes next. Too often, couples get lost in a whirlwind of painful emotions, making rushed decisions that can have long-term consequences for themselves, their children, and their extended families. In this episode, you’ll discover practical tools and compassionate insights designed to support couples sitting at the crossroads of staying together or parting ways. Learn how to recognize the early warning signs of relationship distress, approach difficult conversations with honesty and courage, and understand the deep-seated reasons why so many people struggle to speak their truths. You’ll also find guidance on how to stabilize your emotions, slow down the decision-making process, and move forward, whether by rebuilding your connection or ending things as peacefully as possible. This episode offers hope, clarity, and a path to navigate one of life’s toughest transitions with greater awareness and intention. Dr. Becky Whetstone is a writer, author, and marriage and family therapist obsessed with relationship dynamics since she was young. She writes in an entertaining and informative way, and after many of her life experiences, she wants to change how we handle marriage, separation, divorce, and post-divorce dynamics. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:58 Becky’s story and why she cares about marriage crisis. 10:04 Why support is needed even when divorce is decided. 15:33 Why taking time to calm down matters. 20:19 Warning signs that a relationship is in trouble. 23:27 Hiding unhappiness can hurt a marriage. 25:24 Having hard conversations with your partner. 30:10 Why people avoid talking about problems. 32:49 Facing relationship problems like an adult. 36:20 How attachment styles affect marriage crisis. 39:29 The need for self-work and growing as a person. 42:06 How divorce affects everyone in the family. 46:58 Lessons learned from divorce. 51:01 Where to find help and resources. Mentioned I (Think) I Want Out (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Uncoupling (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Facing Codependence (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 373: How To Embrace Ambivalence When Making Big Relationship Decisions — An Interview With Rachel Zamore Evolve in Love (program) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress – (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Becky Whetstone Websites: MarriageCrisisManager.com Facebook: facebook.com/relationshipcrisismanager X: x.com/DoctorBecky YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UCTB7JNDz6Uic8Xtdt_3YMhw Instagram: instagram.com/doctorbecky/# TikTok: tiktok.com/@drbeckyatgoodinside?lang=en Threads: threads.com/@doctorbecky Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Do you ever feel like intimacy and sexuality come with a set of rules no one can quite explain, and yet everyone expects you to follow? So many of us find ourselves struggling to meet society’s expectations around relationships, sex, and what it means to be fulfilled, only to discover that the realities of our experiences rarely match the myths we’ve been told. From changing hormones to evolving desires and the pressure to fit into cultural norms, finding authentic connection while honoring our true selves can feel overwhelming and, at times, isolating. In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of redefining intimacy and sexuality beyond outdated scripts and rigid expectations. The conversation explores how our needs and desires naturally shift over time, why it’s crucial to look inward and tune into our individual truths, and how to break free from patterns and pressures that simply don’t serve us. Through lived stories, practical insights, and compassionate guidance, listeners are invited to reflect, challenge ingrained beliefs, and embrace the freedom to write their own definitions of love, connection, and well-being, whatever stage of life or relationship they’re in. Dr. Erika Schwartz is the founder of Evolved Science in New York City, specializing in bio-identical hormone therapy for health optimization, disease prevention, and longevity. With over 30 years of experience, she advocates for a holistic approach to wellness, linking hormones with diet, sleep, and stress management. A best-selling author and expert in functional medicine, Dr. Erika frequently appears in major media and hosts the Redefining Medicine podcast. She is committed to empowering patients and transforming healthcare. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  04:43 The role of individual work in relationship dynamics. 08:06 Integrating holistic health and relationship well-being. 11:59 Challenging cultural myths about intimacy and sexuality. 15:03 Navigating life stages: hormones, relationships, and expectations. 19:48 Breaking away from conventional life paths. 21:06 Exploring sexual fluidity and honoring individual choices. 25:57 The importance of listening to your body and biology. 28:01 Complexities of tradition vs. authentic alignment. 34:59 Embracing change: Letting life and relationships evolve. 47:20 Rewriting relationship commitments and living authentically. Mentioned The Intimacy Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Hormone Solution (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Redefining Medicine (podcast) Evolve in Love – Next level – Book Your Discovery Call Evolve in Love (program) Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Dr. Erika Schwartz Websites: drerika.com | eshealth.com Facebook: facebook.com/drerika.schwartz | facebook.com/evolvedscience X: twitter.com/drerika YouTube: youtube.com/user/DrErika Instagram: instagram.com/drerikaschwartz | instagram.com/eshealth LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/erika-schwartz-md-987666 | linkedin.com/company/evolved-science Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Conflict in relationships isn’t just inevitable—it’s normal, healthy, and, perhaps most importantly, an opportunity. Yet, the tension between wanting deep connection and authentic acceptance, while also holding onto individuality, can feel like a tightrope walk. How do couples move beyond judgment and misunderstanding to experience radical acceptance and true intimacy, especially when old patterns, unresolved hurts, and competing needs seem to pull them apart? In this episode, listeners are guided through the complex terrain of navigating differences in long-term relationships. With practical strategies rooted in attachment science, trauma awareness, and mindful communication, this conversation dives into how curiosity, compassion, and proactive agreements can transform even the most challenging dynamics. Expect actionable insights on building repair after conflict, balancing “me” and “we,” and creating a thriving relationship where both partners—and the partnership itself—can grow. Whether you’re in the thick of recurring arguments or simply seeking a deeper, richer connection, this episode offers real tools to help you rediscover joy, security, and growth together. Carolyn Sharp, LICSW, is an experienced couples therapist with 25 years of expertise in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. She helps couples build vibrant, secure relationships through coaching, workshops, and retreats. Carolyn’s passion and extensive training inspire her work in creating joyful, healthy connections. She is the author of FIRE IT UP: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  06:14 How Carolyn Sharp found her calling in couples therapy. 09:25 The complexities of long-term relationships and the importance of learning healthy relationship skills. 12:16 Can couples truly grow together without losing themselves? 15:44 How curiosity becomes a secret weapon in relationships. 18:14 Navigating identity and boundaries: Individuality within relationships. 21:29 Understanding the origins of conflict: Attachment patterns and family system dynamics. 26:46 Proactive communication: The importance of planning and ‘owner’s manuals’ in relationships. 33:31 Relationship needs as a third entity: Maintaining the ‘us’ in times of stress. 35:41 Repairing relationship injuries 39:30 Recognizing and addressing unresolved hurt: Signs and solutions. 42:21 Learning how to apologize and repair: Overcoming childhood patterns and building new skills. 47:59 How tiny moments of repair lay the foundation for lasting trust. Mentioned Fire It Up (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Essentia’s website (*Affiliate link) Stratami™ Organic Mattress (This is the mattress we purchased) (*Affiliate link) Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) (*Affiliate link) Connect with Carolyn Sharp Websites: carolynsharp.com Facebook: facebook.com/carolyn.sharp.528 Instagram: instagram.com/secureconnectionscoaching LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/carolyn-sharp-2948407 TikTok: tiktok.com/@secureconnectionscoach Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Can you really have it all—an ambitious, thriving career while also nurturing a deeply satisfying romantic relationship? Or does chasing professional success mean sacrificing love and connection at home? For many high achievers, pursuing career goals brings unexpected loneliness, relationship strain, and an exhausting sense of self-abandonment. The pressure to perform at work often leaves little time or energy for building intimacy, leading countless professionals to quietly wonder: Why does succeeding at work come so much easier than succeeding at love? In this episode, listeners are invited to reexamine this all-too-common belief that career ambition and a fulfilling love life are mutually exclusive. Through frank discussion and real stories, this conversation unpacks the hidden patterns that cause us to disconnect from ourselves and our partners, amidst the demands of professional life. By exploring psychological frameworks, practical strategies, and embodied personal growth, the episode offers actionable insights to help you move beyond self-sabotage, redefine success, and create space for both professional achievement and authentic, secure relationships. Katarina Polonska is a Science-Backed Relationship Coach, Published Gender Dynamics Social Scientist (University of Oxford M.St), Founder of the Successfully in Love® Method, ex-Regional VP of a global Behavioral Science Firm, and Podcast Host with guests like John Gray, of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, NY Times Bestseller Marci Shimoff, and Christina Tracy Stein, daughter of world-renowned Brian Tracy. As an accredited coach since 2007, she helps ambitious professionals become Successfully in Love®. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  08:35 How high achievers self-abandon for success. 14:42 Debunking the “either/or” myth for career and love. 19:05 Finding balance: Shifting from sacrifice to flow. 27:41 Katarina’s three pillars for relationship transformation. 36:48 Navigating growth: Solo vs. couples work. 43:47 Real-life example of creating change in marriage. 49:07 Resolving self-sabotage and expanding capacity. Mentioned How to Go From Second-Guessing Yourself, Avoiding Hard Decisions, and Feeling Disconnected To Trusting Yourself, Knowing Exactly What You Want, and Creating Freedom, Trust, Intimacy, and Connection - In 90 Days (video) Essentia’s website Stratami™ Organic Mattress Classic REM5 Active Mattress - (The mattress we wish we could have gotten for the cooling feature) The SIL (Successfully in Love®) Podcast The Big Leap (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Katarina Polonska Websites: katarinapolonska.com Facebook: facebook.com/katarinapolonska Instagram: instagram.com/katarinapolonska LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/katarina-polonsky Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Ever feel like you’re going through life with an invisible weight holding you back—old hurts, unspoken fears, or emotional “constipation” clogging your sense of connection with yourself and others? Many of us are conditioned to avoid our discomfort, stuff down our feelings, or simply muscle through, only to discover that real joy and closeness remain just out of reach. The struggle to feel truly seen, cared for, and emotionally vibrant isn’t just personal—it’s a modern epidemic. In this episode, you’ll discover how to build emotional health and resilience by learning to recognize, honor, and skillfully process your feelings. Through practical analogies—like emotional “potty training”—and grounded, compassionate guidance, you’ll explore why authentic emotional connection is the missing link to deeper relationships and personal well-being. Whether you’re seeking more intimacy, healing old scars, or just want to feel more fully alive, this conversation offers real-world tools and gentle permission to let your feelings move—and gently transform your life from the inside out. Rachel Kaplan, MA, MFT, is a licensed psychotherapist and host of the acclaimed Healing Feeling Sh*t Show podcast. Kaplan has studied yoga, meditation, and hands-on healing practices in India and Nepal, earned a master’s degree in counseling psychology from the California Institute of Integral Studies, and trained in cutting-edge trauma modalities such as EMDR. Her “Inner Talks That Heal” TEDx talk explores the internal relationship between our loving and wounded parts. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  07:49 Rachel’s personal journey of healing. 15:42 Avoidance, dissociation, and the societal struggle to stay present. 17:46 The importance of feeling both pain and growth. 22:52 How to recognize, accept, and let go of your emotions in a healthy way, instead of suppressing or avoiding them. 24:00 How emotional constipation develops: Childhood, suppression, and the need for emotional movement. 30:18 Practical steps to reconnect with and care for hidden or neglected parts of yourself. 37:50 How unmet needs and hidden parts show up with partners. 41:49 Self-responsibility in emotional processing: Navigating attachment styles and reactions. 45:37 Vulnerability, repair, and building emotional resilience in relationships. 51:42 Further resources: Rachel’s book, podcast, and ways to continue learning. Mentioned Author Rachel Kaplan introduces FEEL, HEAL, AND LET THAT SH*T GO (*YouTube video) Feel, Heal, and Let That Sh*t Go (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) The Power of Your Other Hand (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) ERP 346: Accessing Relatedness & The Priority Of Connection — An Interview With Gabriel Kram ERP 423: How To Transcend Trauma (And The Effects Experience In Relationship) — An Interview With Dr. Frank Anderson Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Rachel Kaplan Websites: thefeelingsmovement.com Facebook: facebook.com/HFSSwithRachelKaplan YouTube: youtube.com/@thefeelingsmovement Instagram: instagram.com/healingfeelingshitshow LinkedIn: .linkedin.com/in/rachel-kaplan-ma-mft-68355436 TikTok: tiktok.com/@thefeelingsmovement Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode Are you feeling disconnected from your own pleasure, physically present but emotionally absent during intimate moments? For many, the path to sexual fulfillment can feel blocked by a haze of stress, routine, numbness, or the pressure to reach a specific end goal. In a world where busyness and performance often take center stage, it’s all too easy to lose touch with the authentic, embodied experiences that deepen intimacy and bring lasting joy to our relationships. In this episode, listeners are guided through the steps to rediscover and reclaim embodied pleasure in their sexual and relational lives. The conversation dives into practical, somatic approaches that help individuals and couples slow down, tune in, and get curious about what truly makes them feel alive—moving beyond goal-oriented sex to something richer and more connected. Expert insights and real-life stories illuminate how noticing sensations, embracing vulnerability, and practicing new skills can unlock not just sexual satisfaction but a greater sense of confidence, communication, and intimacy overall. Susan Morgan Taylor, MA, is a leading somatic sex therapist who helps couples deepen their intimacy and create lasting, fulfilling connections. With over 25 years of experience in somatic healing, she developed The Pleasure Keys Process™, a powerful approach to reigniting sexual and emotional harmony in relationships. After a personal awakening from a sexless marriage, Susan became passionate about helping others remove obstacles to pleasure, love, and orgasm. She is also the creator of the Pleasure Keys Retreats and host of the Sex Talk Café Podcast. When not working, she enjoys hiking and singing karaoke in the mountains of Western North Carolina. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:49 The role of somatic awareness in sexual connection. 09:18 Unlocking the first step toward pleasure. 13:53 Susan’s personal journey from sexless marriage to full-body orgasm. 19:13 Overcoming tension and numbness to rediscover sexual sensitivity. 22:55 Redefining orgasm: Moving beyond the goal-oriented experience. 27:11 Embracing discomfort and obstacles to deepen intimacy. 35:29 Notice, name, negotiate: a framework for couples facing sexual mismatch. 37:45 Radical accountability and communication in sexual relationships. 43:09 Prioritizing pleasure: initiation, desire, and direct versus indirect routes. 47:30 How direct pleasure sensitivity impacts every area of life. 52:01 Understanding polarity, giving and receiving, and closing reflections. Mentioned The Pleasure Keys eBook (link) (ebook) ERP 287: How To Engage In The Art Of Giving And Receiving: Using The Wheel Of Consent – An Interview With Dr. Betty Martin Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Susan Taylor Websites: pathwaytopleasure.com Facebook: facebook.com/susantaylorma Instagram: instagram.com/susanmorgantaylor Podcast: sextalkcafe.net Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.

About this Episode In many relationships, there's an ongoing struggle to balance personal growth with relational harmony, often leaving couples feeling stuck and disconnected. The issue at hand is not just about communication or compatibility—it's about understanding and nurturing the deeper psycho-spiritual connection that binds two individuals. In this episode, we dive into the essential pillars that can positively transform your relationship from a psycho-spiritual perspective. We'll explore how being responsible for your own happiness sets the stage for healthier dynamics, the importance of viewing friction as an opportunity for growth, and how prioritizing your relationship can foster a secure, joyful bond. Moreover, by examining the potential for purpose both individually and as a partnership, this discussion offers tangible insights and spiritual practices to help you create a more meaningful and fulfilling connection with your partner. Rachel Glik is a licensed professional counselor with 30+ years as a couples and individual therapist in private practice. Since 2014, she has been a regular feature on the Fox 2 AM show in St. Louis as a relationship and mental health expert. She is the author of A Soulful Marriage: Healing Your Relationship With Responsibility, Growth, Priority, and Purpose. Check out the transcript of this episode on Dr. Jessica Higgin's website. Episode Highlights  03:40 Embracing personal growth and the role of spiritual guidance. 08:03 The four pillars framework: A path to self-relationship and personal responsibility. 12:18 Scientific meets spiritual: Harmonizing psychology and Kabbalah in relationships. 16:47 Unlocking personal power through vulnerability and self-awareness. 20:05 Exploring purpose and positive impact as a couple. 27:55 Spiritual practices and the journey towards Kabbalah. 30:39 Balancing personal growth with relational dynamics. 32:55 Creating a relational sanctuary: The art of sacred connection. 37:20 Transition from romance to synergy in long-term relationships. 39:21 Navigating threats and traumas by trust in relationships. 42:28 Destined growth and mutual support in spiritual partnerships. Mentioned A Soulful Marriage (*Amazon Affiliate link) (book) Evolve in Love (program) Connect with Dr. Rachel Glik Websites: drrachelglik.com Facebook: facebook.com/rachel.glik.7 X: x.com/rachelglik Instagram: instagram.com/drrachelglik Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship  Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins  Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation  LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins  Twitter: @DrJessHiggins  Website: drjessicahiggins.com   Email: jessica@drjessicahiggins.com If you have a topic you would like it to be discussed, please contact us by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.  Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.  Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.  Thank you!   *With Amazon Affiliate Links, I may earn a few cents from Amazon, if you purchase the book from this link.