ERP 268: How To Save & Transform A Sexless Marriage - An Interview With Irene Fehr

In today's episode, I talk with Irene Fehr. We discuss how to be better prepared to navigate long-lasting intimacy and deal with the extensive range of emotions that come with long-term relationships. We also talk about what emotions may be activated and how we can learn new perspectives on our relationship by becoming more curious and explorative.

Ending up in a sexless marriage when she lost her libido, Irene felt shame around not sexually wanting her partner. She shut down and withdrew from life because she thought there was something wrong with her as a woman. From this point, Irene wanted to help other couples rediscover the magic of sex in all different stages to have a fulfilled intimate sexual experience, no matter how long a couple is together.

Listen in to learn why looking outside of your relationship to fix a sexless marriage won't work, how couples can create connection sex, and how Irene helps couples navigate and access needs and sexual desires.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.)

Bio

As a Sex and Intimacy Coach, Irene Fehr, MA, CPCC, has helped hundreds of committed couples to add sex and passion into sexless relationships and fall in love with each other again. She is no stranger to her clients' complaints, having recovered from the all-too-common story of "happy marriage turned sexless" when she lost her libido. You can read Irene's perspectives on sex, sexual desire in a long-term relationship, and women's libido in HuffPost, Cosmopolitan, Refinery29, and ScaryMommy.

In this episode, Irene Fehr & Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss: 

• Why friction sex has a shelf life and limits
• The three types of sex during stages of relationships
• How sex can get repetitive for couples
• Why women can lose their libido
• How stress can reduce your sex hormones
• Why friction sex is fueled by drugs and alcohol
• Where attachment is a factor in sex and relationships
• How sex can turn into a battleground for validation
• The three sex myths people fall into
• How couples can allow for quality time together and more touch
• The importance of making enough quality time together
• Messaging around the arousal journey
• Why you need to create space around your body as a woman

 

Mentioned

• Visit Irene Fehr on the web
• Free 3-video training “How to Want Sex Again"
• Three types of sex as background

 

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