Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens

Discover how divorced parents can better support their tweens during the upheaval of split custody. The idea of children feeling like 'human ping-pong balls' illustrates the emotional toll of constant transitions. Learn about ideal setups, like parents rotating while kids stay put, and why that benefits stability. Explore flexible visitation plans that adapt as teens gain independence. Dr. Lisa shares essential co-parenting principles to minimize conflict and practical tips for easing the adjustment process.

Lying in kids is often a developmental phase rather than a character flaw. Parents learn how to help their children navigate the complexities of honesty without projecting fears. Discover the reasons behind why children lie, including anxiety and the need for privacy. The importance of emotional responses is emphasized, as managing reactions can foster a safe environment for truth-telling. Plus, explore the difference between guilt and shame, and how to encourage conscience-building through repair rather than punishment.

Seventh-grade boys face unique developmental challenges that can lead to feelings of inadequacy and susceptibility to harmful influences. The discussion highlights how school environments may unintentionally favor girls, leaving boys feeling overlooked. Strategies for parents include fostering open communication and encouraging confidence through diverse activities. Insights into how figures like Andrew Tate exploit these vulnerabilities are shared, emphasizing the importance of supportive role models in boys' lives. Understanding these dynamics can help guide boys through critical developmental phases.

Navigating the chaos of adolescence and menopause can feel overwhelming. Discover why both hormonal changes create emotional turbulence at home. Learn to recognize the normal mood shifts in teens and embrace your own menopausal symptoms as legitimate health issues. With insights from personal experiences and practical tips, find ways to connect with your teen, even in silence. This conversation empowers parents to respond with empathy, fostering understanding and compassion within the family.

Discover the intricate link between anxiety and sleeplessness in teens. Learn why puberty shifts sleep cycles, and when nighttime worries become concerning. Explore practical strategies to calm racing minds before bed, like writing down worries and establishing soothing rituals. Understand the importance of normalizing anxiety for adolescents, reassuring them that feeling anxious is part of growing up. This insightful dialogue offers parents tools to help their kids create healthier sleep habits and tackle worries head-on.

Navigating conversations about alcohol and marijuana with teens can be daunting. Experts discuss the importance of starting these talks early, ideally in seventh grade, while focusing on safety over judgment. They unpack how parents' own substance use can influence their kids’ perceptions. Listeners learn about the risks associated with high-potency marijuana and the complexities of edibles. Practical strategies are offered, including allowing kids to deflect peer pressure using 'parental excuses' to keep communication open and supportive.

How do you get your kids to like each other… or at least stop fighting all the time? If you’re parenting tweens and teens, sibling conflict can feel endless. One moment they’re laughing together, the next they’re at each other’s throats. You want them to grow up valuing each other, but the daily bickering (and your role in it) can leave you wondering: Am I making things WORSE? In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan dig into the complex world of sibling relationships. With warmth, humor, and research-backed insight, they unpack why siblings pull away in adolescence, how parents can support their bond without forcing closeness, and what really matters in the long run. 💡 YOU’LL LEARN: - Why siblings often distance themselves during the tween and teen years - How comparisons and “fairness” struggles can fuel conflict - When parents should step in—and when to step back - Why forced apologies backfire (and what to do instead) - Practical ways to build connection through one-on-one time and family experiences - Why taking the long view helps parents worry less about today’s fights Sibling relationships are complicated, but you don’t have to navigate them alone. Dr. Lisa offers strategies that are both realistic and compassionate, helping you set the stage for healthier family dynamics now and stronger sibling bonds later. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com Episode keywords: sibling rivalry, sibling conflict, teen conflict, family dynamics, parenting tips, sibling relationships Podcast keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

Here’s the good news: today’s tweens and teens talk openly about mental health. Here’s the not-so-good news, sometimes they inaccurately diagnose themselves or organize their emerging identities around a diagnosis. So what happens when your child insists they’re depressed, and you’re not sure whether it’s sadness, distress, or something more serious? In this episode of “Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens,” Dr. Lisa Damour and Reena Ninan unpack how to navigate these deeply sensitive conversations with empathy and clarity. You’ll learn how to validate your child’s feelings without reinforcing restrictive labels, and how to guide them toward healthier ways of understanding themselves. 💡 YOU’LL LEARN: - The key differences between sadness and depression - How to validate your teen’s experiences while being mindful about diagnostic labels - Why TikTok and peer culture are shaping the way kids talk about mental health - How to help your child find belonging and identity beyond mental health labels - The critical question every parent must ask if a child says they’re depressed With warmth, expertise, and practical strategies, Lisa and Reena help you approach these moments with confidence and compassion so your teen feels heard, but not boxed in. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com Episode keywords: teen mental health, depression, anxiety, parenting teens, TikTok labels Podcast keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence

Joanna Schroeder, a writer and media critic focused on parenting, and Christopher Pepper, a health educator, share their insights on raising emotionally healthy boys. They discuss why many boys shut down emotionally and offer practical strategies for parents to engage them meaningfully. The conversation covers vital topics like teaching consent, combating harmful online influences, and fostering compassion over toughness. Their warm advice empowers parents to break through barriers and connect with their sons more deeply in today's complex world.

What happens when your tween or teen turns to AI for advice… or even FRIENDSHIP? Today’s kids sometimes experiment with AI chatbots in ways that many parents don’t see coming. While some of their interactions may be harmless, the risks are real. In this episode of Ask Lisa: The Psychology of Raising Tweens & Teens, psychologist Dr. Lisa Damour and journalist Reena Ninan unpack the hidden dangers of AI companions, the developmental vulnerabilities of younger teens, and the steps every parent can take to keep kids safe without overreacting. 💡 YOU’LL LEARN: - Why AI “companions” can be especially dangerous for tweens and young teens- How AI captures kids’ attention using hyper-personal data- The real risks: sycophantic affirmations, harmful advice, no safety nets- Warning signs your child may be overly dependent on AI- The most effective guardrails: keeping tech out of bedrooms, building skepticism, and starting ongoing conversations- How strong parent–teen relationships are the ultimate protection against manipulative technology This conversation turns anxiety into actionable, compassionate guidance, helping you protect your kids while staying connected in a rapidly changing digital world. Follow and subscribe to our YouTube channel where you can see all our latest video episodes: https://youtube.com/@asklisapodcast And follow us on YouTube, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn @AskLisaPodcast, @Lisa.Damour, @ReenaNinan. Checkout Dr. Lisa’s website for more resources: https://www.drlisadamour.com/ Ask Lisa is produced by: https://www.goodtroubleproductions.com Episode keywords: AI teens, parenting tech, digital safety, teen AI risks, AI dangers, parenting guide, teen technology, AI companions, digital parenting Podcast keywords: ask lisa podcast, dr lisa damour, reena ninan, psychology, parenting, podcast, teens, tweens, parenting teens, parenting tweens, teen parenting, tween parenting, parenting tips, parenting advice, positive parenting, parenting podcast, teen behavior, tween challenges, raising tweens, raising teens, parenting hacks, parenting help, family dynamics, kids podcast, mental health, teen mental health, attachment styles, emotional intelligence