The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Lead trainer for the IFS Institute, Mike Elkin, discusses topics like shame, moral meaning, addiction, pain, panic attacks, couples therapy, and healing through Internal Family Systems therapy in an engaging and insightful conversation.

Karen Locke, author of 'Self Compassion Day by Day,' discusses the importance of daily IFS practices, exploring feelings, connecting with parts, and seeking group support. She highlights the relevance of recognizing 'workaholic' parts during challenging times and emphasizes the power of inner resources and self-compassion in navigating life's complexities.

Julia S. and I planned to meet to talk about IFS and Addiction but that is not what happened. A lot of our plans are getting changed these days and it is causing a lot of our parts to react. Two days before our recorded podcast, Julia's County was ordered to 'Shelter in Place' due to the Coronavirus. This morning as I am writing this, two days after our meeting, all of California is now following the same order. It sounds like this epi is doom and gloom but it is not! Julia offers us hope and laughter. As someone well connected to the recovery community, she offers us pertinent terms as "avoid the deliberate manufacture of misery" and "pick up spiritual tools laid at my feet and use them." This sounds like IFS to me: parts who feel afraid and go to what worked to calm us in the past and Self who says I am here with you. She asks, "Am I listening to my Self as much as I'm listening to my Parts?" She walks through looking at her/our current situation through the lens of the 8 Cs: what does clarity say, what does compassion say, etc. Julia created an incredible IFS resource where she expands on the definitions of the 8 C's of Self leadership and uses a radar image as an assessment tool. Email me at tammysollenberger@comcast.net if you want a copy! Enjoy and take care- Tammy To join SF Bay Area recovery meetings go to: https://sites.google.com/view/bayareazoomaameetings?fbclid=IwAR3YaDx133Y3sK3OGViH2uyC7ys7XACx2SshNSHnf8oxmvmluWQXdnfMwR0 To find online recovery meetings go to: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1FotwE5g0AX0edZ29XyJfLF9U0WVn7_OYECfRtn1hV1U/edit#gid=0

Derek Scott and I decided to meet to talk about how we can support our community during difficult time. IFS brings many gifts to our bodies, minds, emotions, and to the world. Self leadership supports our parts feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, and then we can support the people we come in contact with in our families, our neighbors, our co-workers and clients. By the way, an hour after we finished recording this my son's school sent a lovely, heartfelt emailing cancelling classes. I started shaking and crying which was actually a completely unexpected response. I took a minute to be with my frightened parts as we talk about in this episode and felt an immediate shift to calm. I imagine I will return to being with this part over and over again in the next few weeks. Go listen- Take good care of all of your parts and one another. xoxo Tammy

On today's episode I speak with Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute about legacy burdens. Legacy burdens are the feelings, beliefs, perspectives, ways of being in the world, etc. which are passed on from generation to generation. A part of me doesn't want to tell you all we talk about because it is so powerful I want you just to listen. Another part of me who, probably like you, is picky about what I spend time listening to and will read this little blurb in a podcast episode before I commit. So, to honor that part in me- and in you- I will go ahead and tell you. Marushka's parents were Holocaust Survivors who were in Auschwitz. Her Dad was on Schindler's list. Not the movie, the actual list. Do you need to know more? For those parts I'll give some bullet points of what is inside this episode: - Importance of bearing witness - Epigenetics - Zen Peacemakers and Native Americans - Children of Alcoholics and Alcoholic burdens - Anxiety in legacy burdens And, we talk about the trees at Auschwitz. Go listen and enjoy! To learn more about Marushka go to https://www.relationshipvisions.org/

Lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Chris Burris, discusses therapist burnout, inner critics, and attachment wounds. He highlights the cycle of the critic, shame, and firefighter, and the importance of befriending our parts. Chris emphasizes that parts are fluid, not static, and explores completing unfinished business from our past.

Derek Scott, famous for his IFS YouTube channel, discusses parenting using IFS therapy. Topics include exiles, shame, power dynamics, grief, and healing suicidal parts. The conversation feels like friends chatting, with insights on dynamic teaching methods and the roles of firefighters in healing.

Tiffany Morgan, a knowledgeable IFS therapist with a rich background in eating disorder treatment, shares her transformative journey. She discusses the internal dynamics of eating disorders, emphasizing the importance of self-witnessing and compassion for protective parts like her anorexic aspect, 'Ann.' Tiffany illustrates how understanding these parts can lead to emotional harmony. The conversation delves into the balance of nurturing and healing through the Internal Family Systems model, reflecting on personal growth and the power of inner narratives.

I wish I could express how full and amazing this episode is with Natalia. Here are just some of the gifts she offers and topics we cover: - Parts are always in fight or flight; our protective system is engaged. Breath practices with Kundalini yoga help the manual activation of the parasympathetic nervous system. They help activate Self energy (calm, clear minded, confident, creative, etc.). - Playing small. - Expansion and Contraction. - Importance of daily Three Minute practices. - Fists of Anger- breath, movement, mantra. Allows the angry parts (or any intense emotion) to speak and have a voice. Bring this up (and other parts who wish to speak) intentionally and then clear them by bringing up Self energy, calming the nervous system and building internal connection. - Age of Information to Age of Aquarius- this was fascinating! We are shifting from healing/answers coming from outside of us to inside. (Sound familiar my incredible IFS family?) - Through Kundalini practices and technology we can get to a place quickly and effectively where we can heal and connect to ourselves. Natalia has seen quick transformation with sleep disruption, work difficulties, panic attacks, heartbreak and grief. - We can activate the conscious mind. We can activate and command Self energy to be present. We tell lots of stories. We laugh. It is fun and interesting. We end with a one minute Meditation using the mantra 'satnam.' Check out all Natalia is doing here: https://www.aquariancounseling.com/ Follow/friend/subscribe to her on all the socials- Instagram, Facebook and YouTube. Enjoy!