The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

Happy 1st Birthday to The One Inside! On this quick solo episode, I check in to offer Thanks to all the guests who said "Yes!" and to all the listeners who shared the podcast with clients, friends, family, and peers. I read from my new fav book, "Soul Talk" and remind us all of this calming essence inside available to us all, at all times. Even in times of pandemic. Put a candle in something and blow it out with me! So much love and gratitude- Tammy

Chris Sullivan, a dedicated advocate for integrating Internal Family Systems (IFS) into business, discusses how the principles of IFS, particularly the 8Cs radar chart, can revolutionize workplace dynamics. He emphasizes using IFS as a communication tool to enhance self-awareness in teams and cultivate deeper client relationships. The conversation also touches on the importance of preparation in sales, exploring how understanding love languages and fostering effective dialogue can strengthen personal and professional connections, especially during challenging times.

Lead trainer for the IFS Institute, Mike Elkin, discusses topics like shame, moral meaning, addiction, pain, panic attacks, couples therapy, and healing through Internal Family Systems therapy in an engaging and insightful conversation.

Karen Locke, author of 'Self Compassion Day by Day,' discusses the importance of daily IFS practices, exploring feelings, connecting with parts, and seeking group support. She highlights the relevance of recognizing 'workaholic' parts during challenging times and emphasizes the power of inner resources and self-compassion in navigating life's complexities.

Julia S. and I planned to meet to talk about IFS and Addiction but that is not what happened. A lot of our plans are getting changed these days and it is causing a lot of our parts to react. Two days before our recorded podcast, Julia's County was ordered to 'Shelter in Place' due to the Coronavirus. This morning as I am writing this, two days after our meeting, all of California is now following the same order. It sounds like this epi is doom and gloom but it is not! Julia offers us hope and laughter. As someone well connected to the recovery community, she offers us pertinent terms as "avoid the deliberate manufacture of misery" and "pick up spiritual tools laid at my feet and use them." This sounds like IFS to me: parts who feel afraid and go to what worked to calm us in the past and Self who says I am here with you. She asks, "Am I listening to my Self as much as I'm listening to my Parts?" She walks through looking at her/our current situation through the lens of the 8 Cs: what does clarity say, what does compassion say, etc. Julia created an incredible IFS resource where she expands on the definitions of the 8 C's of Self leadership and uses a radar image as an assessment tool. Email me at tammysollenberger@comcast.net if you want a copy! Enjoy and take care- Tammy   To join SF Bay Area recovery meetings go to: https://sites.google.com/view/bayareazoomaameetings?fbclid=IwAR3YaDx133Y3sK3OGViH2uyC7ys7XACx2SshNSHnf8oxmvmluWQXdnfMwR0 To find online recovery meetings go to: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1FotwE5g0AX0edZ29XyJfLF9U0WVn7_OYECfRtn1hV1U/edit#gid=0  

Derek Scott and I decided to meet to talk about how we can support our community during difficult time. IFS brings many gifts to our bodies, minds, emotions, and to the world. Self leadership supports our parts feelings of helplessness and uncertainty, and then we can support the people we come in contact with in our families, our neighbors, our co-workers and clients. By the way, an hour after we finished recording this my son's school sent a lovely, heartfelt emailing cancelling classes. I started shaking and crying which was actually a completely unexpected response. I took a minute to be with my frightened parts as we talk about in this episode and felt an immediate shift to calm. I imagine I will return to being with this part over and over again in the next few weeks. Go listen- Take good care of all of your parts and one another. xoxo Tammy        

On today's episode I speak with Marushka Glissen, an assistant trainer with the IFS Institute about legacy burdens. Legacy burdens are the feelings, beliefs, perspectives, ways of being in the world, etc. which are passed on from generation to generation. A part of me doesn't want to tell you all we talk about because it is so powerful I want you just to listen. Another part of me who, probably like you, is picky about what I spend time listening to and will read this little blurb in a podcast episode before I commit. So, to honor that part in me- and in you- I will go ahead and tell you. Marushka's parents were Holocaust Survivors who were in Auschwitz. Her Dad was on Schindler's list. Not the movie, the actual list. Do you need to know more? For those parts I'll give some bullet points of what is inside this episode: - Importance of bearing witness - Epigenetics - Zen Peacemakers and Native Americans - Children of Alcoholics and Alcoholic burdens - Anxiety in legacy burdens And, we talk about the trees at Auschwitz. Go listen and enjoy!  To learn more about Marushka go to https://www.relationshipvisions.org/  

Lead trainer with the IFS Institute, Chris Burris, discusses therapist burnout, inner critics, and attachment wounds. He highlights the cycle of the critic, shame, and firefighter, and the importance of befriending our parts. Chris emphasizes that parts are fluid, not static, and explores completing unfinished business from our past.

Derek Scott, famous for his IFS YouTube channel, discusses parenting using IFS therapy. Topics include exiles, shame, power dynamics, grief, and healing suicidal parts. The conversation feels like friends chatting, with insights on dynamic teaching methods and the roles of firefighters in healing.