In this engaging discussion with Tanis Allen, a certified IFS therapist and author, listeners dive into her journey within the IFS community since the '90s. Tanis reveals insights from her new workbook designed to make IFS accessible, emphasizing how awareness marks the start of healing. She breaks down how to recognize and work with your internal parts, sharing her favorite transforming Four Drawing Exercise. With a focus on shared learning and personal reflection, this conversation offers invaluable tools for anyone interested in IFS.

In this engaging discussion, Crystal Jones, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and IFS Trainer, and Pam Krause, a Certified IFS Therapist and Senior Lead Trainer, delve into the evolution of the Internal Family Systems model. They share personal journeys, emphasizing cultural inclusivity and the evolving expression of Self Energy across different communities. The duo also debates the relevance of the 6 F's, providing fresh perspectives on their importance for newcomers. Their camaraderie and shared experiences highlight the power of mentorship in the therapeutic journey.

On today’s podcast we celebrate 200 episodes of The One Inside! I take the guest’s seat as my podcasting partner and co-producer, Jeff Schrum, leads the interview. We reflect on six seasons of guests, the show's impact on my life and work with clients, and why unblending is the real magic of IFS. We also dive into creative projects on the horizon, including my new mini-book on numbness and launching The One Inside Substack community.  Key Takeaways: Jeff and I talk about the fun behind the scenes of finding guests, editing interviews, creating show notes and graphics, and releasing an episode. My favorite part of the IFS model, and how I use it in my daily life. How six years of hosting this podcast has shaped not just my work, but my personal life and how I relate to my own parts. “Unblending is the hard part.” We get into why unblending is the heart of the IFS model, and how simply creating space between parts can be transformational. My controversial opinion on unburdenings. “There are a million reasons not to do the thing.” We talk about parts that hold us back from starting creative projects—whether it’s a podcast, book, or blog—and how to work with them. My likes and dislikes...like how I like unblending, and how I dislike when my parts won’t unblend. See also: maple syrup, apple cider, and movie theater popcorn.  "If I waited every other week to meet with my IFS therapist, IFS wouldn’t be in my bones. You have to be doing this every day. Even if it’s just small moments of awareness. That’s the work."   This episode is full of laughs, reflection, and some behind-the-scenes stories you haven’t heard before. I hope you enjoy it! Episode Sponsor: IFS Institute IFS Institute is now enrolling for the ALL-new IFS Online Circle program, a  6-month foundational course for professionals looking to provide an IFS lens to their practice.  This updated and enhanced program offers fresh insights, expanded demonstrations, and deeper experiential exercises, all led by two of the Institute's top trainers, Pam Krause and Crystal Jones. Take a sneak peak at The One Inside Substack community Check out The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 2 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

On today’s podcast, I chat with Ruth Culver, a Level 3 trained and certified IFS practitioner. We look at Ruth’s Survive and Thrive Spiral, a visual map that connects the nervous system and IFS in a way that just makes sense. We also talk about her work with IFS Constellations, a group process that brings parts work into a shared, somatic experience, and Drawing into Self, a creative way to explore and externalize parts through colors, lines, and shapes. Key Takeaways: “Parts all have stories, don’t they?” Ruth explains how mapping parts onto her Survive and Thrive Spiral can help people unblend and understand their nervous system responses. How can we recognize if we’re in Flop, Fix, or Flow? Ruth introduces these simple but powerful words to track nervous system states and move toward Self Energy. We can be in multiple nervous system states at the same time.  Ruth describes how different parts may be in fixing mode, collapsing mode, or Self Energy mode—all at once. How does IFS Constellations allow for deeper healing? Ruth shares how this group process creates profound moments of witnessing, connection, and transformation. What happens when we let parts express themselves through drawing? Ruth walks us through Drawing into Self, a process that invites parts to communicate beyond words. Favorite Quote: "So, to me, the healing process is story-based, and it is imaginative. At the core of healing is a reimagining. And that’s what we can do with story." – Ruth Culver About Ruth:   Ruth Culver is a Level 3 trained & Certified IFS Practitioner based in Brighton UK, working with adolescents, adults and groups in private practice. After 25 years in charity event management, she burned out, re-trained as a hypnotherapist then found IFS in 2017. Her passion for embodiment and externalisation has led to 3 IFS integrations: 1. The Survive/Thrive Spiral: 2. IFS Constellations, and 3. Drawing into Self.    Episode Sponsor: Pisgah Coaching Institute   Check out The One Inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 2 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

In this conversation with Jodie Benveniste, an IFS-trained psychologist and author, storytelling emerges as a profound tool for self-discovery and healing. Jodie shares how her personal journey through IFS therapy enriched her fiction writing, particularly in her YA romance novel "Never, Not Ever." The discussion delves into the idea that characters mirror our inner selves, how fiction creates a safe space for transformation, and the heart-expanding nature of romance. Explore how narratives can reframe our experiences and foster emotional growth!

On today's episode, I'm joined by Lara Krawchuk, a grief expert and IFS certifed therapist, to explore how the Internal Family Systems model helps us understand and tend to grief. We discuss continuing bonds, meaning making, ambiguous loss, grief-worthy losses, and unbraiding current loss from exiled trauma. While I have parts that avoid thinking about and discussing grief, Lara offers such a hopeful perspective on the grieving process and I'm so excited to share this episode with you.  Key Takeaways: Grief is not about severing bonds, but shifting how we relate to them. Disenfranchised grief, like the end of a relationship or loss of health, is grief-worthy too. Grief invites us to explore the deeper meaning behind our losses and what they reveal about ourselves. Grief is both/and -- we are allowed to feel both grief and joy.  Welcoming grief, rather than trying to "move on," is crucial for healing. Turn towards grieving parts and allow them the space to be heard and honored. The importance of "unbraiding" exiled pain from present losses: "Does the part know this is different from the original Exile is has always protected?"  Continued bonds with those we've lost can be a profound source of comfort. Favorite Quote: "Self is not freaked out by grief. Self is an exquisite witness to all pain." — Lara Krawchuk About Lara: Lara Krawchuk is the owner and clinical director of Healing Concepts in West Chester, Pennsylvania, and the co-founder of Healing Perspectives, a continuing education resource for helping professionals looking to heal themselves, help their clients, and heal a broken-hearted world. She is an IFS certified therapist and consultant, a speaker, adjuct professor, and author with a passion for supporting those living with grief.    Check out The One inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

Ralph De La Rosa, a psychotherapist and meditation teacher, shares his transformative journey through PTSD and addiction. He discusses the powerful role of meditation in accessing Self Energy, emphasizing that instead of suppressing painful emotions, we should approach them with warmth and compassion. Ralph connects Buddhist principles with Internal Family Systems, highlighting the importance of reparenting our internal parts. He advocates for starting with Self rather than rushing into pain, illustrating how radical self-compassion can lead to profound healing.

Rick Kahler, a certified financial planner and financial therapist, discusses how Internal Family Systems can revolutionize our relationship with money. He highlights the emotional drivers behind financial decisions, introducing concepts like money scripts and financial protectors. Rick reveals how legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors and emphasizes the often-ignored role of financial shame. His insights challenge listeners to explore their hidden beliefs, leading to greater clarity and freedom in finance.

John Palmer, a certified IFS practitioner and seasoned couples therapist, dives deep into the dynamics of intimate relationships. He highlights how the Intimacy From The Inside Out (IFIO) approach fosters self-awareness and communication. The discussion covers the importance of differentiation during conflicts and how past experiences shape present interactions. Palmer explains tracking sequences in relationships to identify protective cycles and emphasizes the transformative power of Self-Led communication in healing and growth.

In this enlightening talk, Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, dives into the intricate relationship between our inner parts and love. He emphasizes the importance of understanding our emotional perspectives to deepen our connections. The meditation invites listeners to explore their beliefs about love in a safe space, encouraging self-reflection and compassion. His unique blend of psychology and Catholicism offers profound insights on navigating personal relationships with authenticity.