On today's episode, I'm joined by Lara Krawchuk, a grief expert and IFS certifed therapist, to explore how the Internal Family Systems model helps us understand and tend to grief. We discuss continuing bonds, meaning making, ambiguous loss, grief-worthy losses, and unbraiding current loss from exiled trauma. While I have parts that avoid thinking about and discussing grief, Lara offers such a hopeful perspective on the grieving process and I'm so excited to share this episode with you.  Key Takeaways: Grief is not about severing bonds, but shifting how we relate to them. Disenfranchised grief, like the end of a relationship or loss of health, is grief-worthy too. Grief invites us to explore the deeper meaning behind our losses and what they reveal about ourselves. Grief is both/and -- we are allowed to feel both grief and joy.  Welcoming grief, rather than trying to "move on," is crucial for healing. Turn towards grieving parts and allow them the space to be heard and honored. The importance of "unbraiding" exiled pain from present losses: "Does the part know this is different from the original Exile is has always protected?"  Continued bonds with those we've lost can be a profound source of comfort. Favorite Quote: "Self is not freaked out by grief. Self is an exquisite witness to all pain." — Lara Krawchuk About Lara: Lara Krawchuk is the owner and clinical director of Healing Concepts in West Chester, Pennsylvania, and the co-founder of Healing Perspectives, a continuing education resource for helping professionals looking to heal themselves, help their clients, and heal a broken-hearted world. She is an IFS certified therapist and consultant, a speaker, adjuct professor, and author with a passion for supporting those living with grief.    Check out The One inside Self-Led merch at The One Inside store Watch video clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net

Ralph De La Rosa, a psychotherapist and meditation teacher, shares his transformative journey through PTSD and addiction. He discusses the powerful role of meditation in accessing Self Energy, emphasizing that instead of suppressing painful emotions, we should approach them with warmth and compassion. Ralph connects Buddhist principles with Internal Family Systems, highlighting the importance of reparenting our internal parts. He advocates for starting with Self rather than rushing into pain, illustrating how radical self-compassion can lead to profound healing.

Rick Kahler, a certified financial planner and financial therapist, discusses how Internal Family Systems can revolutionize our relationship with money. He highlights the emotional drivers behind financial decisions, introducing concepts like money scripts and financial protectors. Rick reveals how legacy burdens shape our financial behaviors and emphasizes the often-ignored role of financial shame. His insights challenge listeners to explore their hidden beliefs, leading to greater clarity and freedom in finance.

John Palmer, a certified IFS practitioner and seasoned couples therapist, dives deep into the dynamics of intimate relationships. He highlights how the Intimacy From The Inside Out (IFIO) approach fosters self-awareness and communication. The discussion covers the importance of differentiation during conflicts and how past experiences shape present interactions. Palmer explains tracking sequences in relationships to identify protective cycles and emphasizes the transformative power of Self-Led communication in healing and growth.

In this enlightening talk, Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist and co-founder of Souls and Hearts, dives into the intricate relationship between our inner parts and love. He emphasizes the importance of understanding our emotional perspectives to deepen our connections. The meditation invites listeners to explore their beliefs about love in a safe space, encouraging self-reflection and compassion. His unique blend of psychology and Catholicism offers profound insights on navigating personal relationships with authenticity.

Join Dr. Dan Siegel, a pioneering psychiatrist and author known for his work in Interpersonal Neurobiology, and Joan Ryan, an Enneagram educator dedicated to personal growth, as they delve into the fascinating intersection of the Enneagram and Internal Family Systems. They discuss how personality shapes our experiences and survival strategies while highlighting the importance of integration for true wholeness. Discover the PDP model’s insights on motivation and the complementary nature of these frameworks in achieving greater personal freedom and understanding.

Gabby Bernstein, a #1 New York Times bestselling author and Level 2 trained IFS practitioner, joins the discussion to share insights from her transformative new book, Self Help. She emphasizes the power of connecting with our protective parts to foster healing and the importance of unblending for emotional clarity. Gabby explores how manifesting can align us with our true selves, teaching that even small moments of connection can lead to significant change. Curiosity and community play pivotal roles in this journey towards self-discovery and growth.

Join Dick Schwartz, the founder of the Internal Family Systems model, as he reflects on his legacy and the late Derek Scott’s impact on IFS. Discover the challenges of preserving the model's integrity amid rising training demands. Schwartz opens up about integrating spirituality into his work and explores how IFS can expand beyond therapy into leadership and AI. The conversation concludes with a heartwarming recount of his first date with Jeanne, revealing the personal touch behind his professional journey.

In this engaging conversation, Dr. Peter Malinoski, a clinical psychologist and IFS Level 3-trained practitioner, shares how he integrates Internal Family Systems with Catholic spirituality. He discusses the challenges parts face in feeling safe to love and be loved, while offering insights into healing attachment wounds. A fascinating experiential exercise invites listeners to connect with their inner parts, enhancing self-love and fostering deeper relationships. Peter emphasizes the importance of internal harmony as a key to flourishing connections.

On today's episode I chat with Mel Galbraith, Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (Internal Family Systems Counselling Association), to discuss her journey of grief, leadership, and transformation following the passing of Derek Scott, founder of IFSCA. Mel shares deeply personal stories about her connection with Derek, the legacy he left behind, and how stepping into a leadership role has shaped her life and relationship with her parts. Our conversation touches on the complexities of grief and the ways IFS has been instrumental in navigating Mel's professional and personal challenges. She also discusses exciting new initiatives at IFSCA, including advanced courses and community connection opportunities, ensuring Derek’s vision continues. Key Takeaways: Grief often reveals deep attachment wounds, serving as a trailhead for healing and growth. Leadership through a Self-Led lens involves embracing imperfection, authenticity, and connection with all our parts. How can grief and loss act as a catalyst for personal transformation and deeper connection to Self? IFSCA’s new offerings like Stepping Deeper and Demo Days Authentic connection and shared passions can create profound bonds Mentioned in this episode: For more information about IIFSCA and to sign up for the IFSCA newsletter The demo with Rick Kahler and Mel: Full Demo. Internal Financial Systems. IFS + Money Parts. Photo of Zoomer and Tom About Mel Galbraith: Mel Galbraith, MSW, RSW, is a Certified IFS Therapist and Chief Operating Officer of IFSCA (IFS Counselling Association), a leadership role she inherited from the late Derek Scott. With a deep commitment to community and IFS education, Mel continues to build on Derek’s vision while navigating her own journey of grief and transformation. _______________________________________________________________________________ Watch video Clips from select episodes on  The One Inside on YouTube Follow Tammy on Instagram @ifstammy and on Facebook at The One Inside with Tammy Sollenberger. Jeff Schrum co-produces The One Inside Podcast. He is a writer, counselor, and IFS Level 1 practitioner.   Are you new to IFS or want a simple way to get to know yourself? Tammy's book, "The One Inside: Thirty Days to your Authentic Self" is a PERFECT place to start.  Sign up for Tammy's email list and get a free "Get to know a Should part of you" meditation on her website Tammy is grateful for Jack Reardon who created music for the podcast. Jack is a graduate of Derek Scott’s IFS Stepping Stones Program.   If you are interested in sponsoring an episode or two of The One Inside Podcast please contact Tammy at tammysollenberger@comcast.net