Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens

Today is a solo show! I am sharing about what is happening in the Joyful Courage community these next few weeks:Adolescent Mental Health Mini Summitwww.joyfulcourage.com/mhminisummitPodcast Recap LIVES added to the Patreon communitywww.patreon.com/joyfulcourageOther topics that I am speaking into: Resentment on the journey Making self care happen Being in choice And making choices that allow us to let go Being a model Transformation starts with us How are you showing up for your family?? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr. Dan Siegel, an acclaimed child psychiatrist and author, and Dr. Tina Bryson, a pediatric psychotherapist and co-author, explore the critical role of parental presence in shaping children's development. They discuss the importance of secure attachment, emphasizing the power of repair in parenting. The guests introduce the concept of 'Me + We' identity, illustrating how understanding one’s own past can improve parenting. With practical stories, they highlight that presence is more vital than perfection for nurturing resilience and emotional health in kids.

Today is a solo show, reflecting on 2019 – the celebrations, the lessons, all of it. I am so grateful for the community and the love you send me and each other on the daily!!See you in the new year!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Aparna Venkataraman. Aparna is a parent coach, meditation teacher, motivational speaker and global wellness advocate for doTERRA essential oils. Her approachable nature, strong intuition and problem solving skills guide her in supporting parents of babies, toddlers and teens to empower themselves and build healthy relationships with one another through effective communication, confidence building and light hearted mindfulness techniques.She values authenticity, which you all know is one of my favorites, a kind nature, motivation, love, compassion, gratitude and humor as key components of a beautiful life. She’s here to share ways that families can relieve stress through self care, mindfulness and effective communication. Join us!"Self care means to me to find ways to connect back to what is lighting me up, what is helping me to find peace and stay connected to my authentic self.”“There are simple things you can do each day that can help you to create a routine where you're feeling connected to yourself and not just waiting until the weekend until you have much more time”“We can put a lot of pressure on ourselves to be a certain way and to show up in the world as somebody who has it all together. When we're really actually stressed, really, really stressed on the inside.”What you’ll hear in this episode: Self-care beyond manicures and exercise  Why self care doesn’t have to wait for the weekend  The pressure to keep up appearances How to tell when you’re connecting to your authentic self What is intrinsic self care The power behind finding our why  How spirituality can be helpful  The role of breath in self care Stress, parenting and mindfulness  Tips for learning mindfulness  Ways to start small in your mindfulness  Laughter as stress relief   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

SOLO SHOW!I have shared about going to therapy – and quite a few of you have reached out and shared that this has prompted YOU to find this kind of support in your community – SO HAPPY!I told you how I shopped around and chose on that I thought was the right fit. I had actually had some one I trust and worked with suggest that somatic therapy was really the fit I wanted, so that is what I looked for.Even after shopping around, after a few sessions, I felt unsatisfied with the experience. IT felt slow and directionless. Now, this could ABSOLUTELY say something about me, right? Have I spoken before about my need to get things moving and FIX problems???I have another friend that told me that I would LOVE who she was seeing – it’s a man, interestingly enough I thought I wanted to work with women but I LOVE THIS GUY. And while he isn’t solving my problems and going into “fix it” mode – the masculine energy is what I am noticing is supporting the work. But it also feels balanced because there does seem to be spaciousness, but my experience of the time spent with him feel directional.So, all that to say that you all have permission to change up your mental health team if something feels off. Unapologetically.Today I want to talk about something that has been coming up for me, AND with some of my clients. I have a feeling you are all going to relate with this as well.So let me set this up and you can decide if you can relate….You are looking ahead to the weekend. Everyone is going to be home on Sunday and you would really like to have a family day, time together doing something…. Maybe you’ll all decide to go to a movie or do a project, but you know that time together is something you all need and Sunday is the perfect time….Sunday rolls around and your partner gets busy with a home improvement project that looks like it is going to last all day, one of you kids has made plans with friends and gets irritated when you tell him nope, you have to be home. And maybe the other child is looking for “alone time” rather than “together time.”We are all in this together, friends!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Tonya Dalton. Tonya is a productivity expert, writer, speaker and founder of Inkwell Press Productivity Company, a company centered around productivity tools and training. she released her book The Joy of Missing Out on October 1, she's going to share a little bit about her book with us. Tanya is also the mother of two teenagers and really knows what it means to be the leader of a family. Join us! " I love that it feels like a permission slip. Like I feel like I have permission to just stop chasing my tail.”“We're filling our calendars, but we're not really filling our souls.”“it's really about mindful living. It's really about living with intention.”“Productivity is not about doing more. It's about doing what is most important.”“Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.”“None of us truly have it all together all of the time.”“Balance is a myth.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The glorification of busy The obligation and pressure to be busy  How not being busy makes us feel about ourselves  How being busy keeps us from nurturing ourselves and others  Quality over quantity  Embracing imperfection Releasing the need to be busy  “Shoulding” on ourselves and why that’s not helpful  Living mindfully with intention Prioritizing activities instead of trying to do all the things Letting go of “Some Day” Syndrome The stories we tell ourselves and unreasonably high expectations Getting curious about our responses to life  Examining our comfort zones and if they are serving us How releasing perfectionism supports connection Letting people lift you up as a gift to them Family as a team Sunday planning as a ritual Division of labor based on team member needs and supporting each other Belonging and significance and filling each other’s buckets Encouraging ownership and buy in with your kids Letting go of balance Finding flexibility in the mess   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is a solo show.I missed you all last week…. As you know, I am in the throes of navigating my own parenting journey and sometimes that means stepping away from my professional work to focus on my family.For all of you out there who are feeling like you are the only one struggling on this path, it simply IS NOT TRUE. We all have our own way of sharing with the world, and many people just don’t. They keep the hard stuff to themselves, leaving the rest of us thinking that their lives are easy-breezy.This podcast, and this episode, is my way of pulling back the curtain and sharing from am deeply authentic place. The Joyful Courage community is a place for all of us to bring our whole, vulnerable selves.There is plenty to worry about on the parenting path, especially as our kids transform into teens and beyond. When is the fear useful, and when is it getting in the way of hearing our own wise, intuition? I explore that today.I hope you enjoy it! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

My guest today is Hunter Clarke-Fields. Hunter is a yoga and mindfulness coach, the host of the Mindful Mama Podcast, and supporter of moms near and far. She is also a mama herself and walks her talk with her two daughters. I had the great pleasure of being a guest on Hunter’s podcast and am thrilled to host here on the Joyful Courage Podcast.Hunter’s book, Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids is available now, and I am super honored to share her wisdom with you all today.Where to find HunterRaising Good Humans Book Page: Raising Good Humans Book.comFacebook Page: Hunter Clarke-Fields, Mindful Mama MentorInstagram: Mindful Mama MentorTwitter: HClarkeFieldsLinkedIn: Hunter Clarke-Fields Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week is a solo show and I am totally going free style. There aren’t much for show notes, I hope you listen and that what is shared resonates with you. We are all in this together! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Jaynay C. Johnson. Jaynay is a therapist, speaker and author, dedicating much of her time and energy to serving adolescent girls and their families. From suffering from teen depression to being written off from family and teachers as being just another troubled teen, Jaynay has always been a firm believer that at any given moment you have the power to say "This is not how the story is going to end." Jennay chose to take control of her story, choosing to dedicate her life to uplifting and empowering the leaders of tomorrow. Jaynay's body of work includes published books, magazine features, radio interviews and multiple guest appearances. A lady of elegance, poise, motivation and hope for tomorrow's leaders Jennay embodies an uplifting message and presentation style that she believes the ones coming behind her will need in order to reach their greatest potential. Join us!"I think the space where parents miss a great opportunity is to empathize.”“The reality is phones are not bad. Internet is not bad. It's a tool.”“If as the parent, you're constantly making the choices for them, you're almost telling them that you don't think that they can make good decision.”“It is important for us all to just take a proactive approach and have conversations around the best practices of social media, the best practices of having a phone. And I think we just need to be doing that more frequently than we are.” What you’ll hear in this episode: The evolution of the concept of adolescence The audacity of “I know, because I was a teenager.” Empathy and raising teens Giving teens enough information to make informed decisions The value of appropriate openness Intergenerational differences The role of mobile phones and when they tend to be introduced to Gen Z Important conversations to have about phones with your kids Big issues facing teens and their parents Emotional intelligence and how it factors into the decision of which paths to pursue Timing of college and the need to be open minded Teaching your kids to trust themselves Challenges facing teens and families of color Being cognizant of cultural differences  What does Joyful Courage mean to you?So joyful courage means to me that, although it can be rough to have certain conversations and to pull out some of the, you know, darker sides of life, I find joy knowing that once we pull them out, they get a chance to see the light. And from there, everything goes up and up. So that's what it means to me, that I had the courage to pull it out. But then you're happy because it's out and once it's out, it can breathe.Where to find Jaynay:Instagram | Facebook | Twitter | Website Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices