Joyful Courage for Parenting Teens Eps 178: Beyond Birds and Bees with Bonnie J Rough
Today’s guest is Bonnie J. Rough, who is an author, journalist, and speaker focusing on families, health, education, parenting and sexuality. Her latest book is Beyond Birds & Bees: Bringing Home a New Message to Our Kids about Sex, Love, and Equality. has written recently for the New York Times on t
eaching young children about boundaries and consent
and
the value of childhood crushes
, The Atlantic on both the link between
and
, the Washington Post on
why it’s important to teach sex ed in mixed-gender groups
, and New York Magazine on
raising kids without sexual shame
. Join us!
"What I learned is that the focus on helping kids wait longer is really not and should not be the end all. It’s really more about how can we prepare them to have a positive experience.”
“The Dutch parents who I met and the American ones too who have inspired me on this really are prioritizing their relationship with their kids over their ideals about what and when their kids will do things.”
“If we have those open lines of communication we actually have more control than if we forbid.”
“The more open and transparent we can be with our kids the better.”
What you’ll hear in this episode:
- Cultural differences between the US and Amsterdam around gender equality, nudity, and sexuality
- Normalizing conversations about sexuality
- Separating nudity from eroticism
- Differences in sexual health outcomes between US and Dutch teenagers
- Ways to keep lines of communication open with your kids
- Double standards applied to boys and girls
- Why helping your child maintain cross-gender friendships
- The importance of knowing your kids’ friends
- What the research says about teenage sex
- What to do when you feel you’re late to the party in talking to your kids about sex
- The importance of not having an agenda when having those curious conversations with kids
- Owning when we feel awkward or uncomfortable
- Navigating fear and baggage to become available for conversations with our kids
- Expanding our own knowledge base to have better conversations
Where to find Bonnie:
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