Heal Your Heartbreak

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk about why loneliness is so prevalent right now, how to coach your friends and family to be better listeners, and why so many people feel misunderstood during a split. We also dig into why it’s important to understand your motives when you’re listening—or when you’re sharing—and how to ask for the kind of support you need, whether that’s to be heard, hugged, or helped. Plus, we cover what to do when you have to listen to things you really don’t want to hear (like “I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore”) and how so much clarity actually comes from hindsight listening. This conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating heartbreak, wanting to be a better support system, or looking to have healthier conversations—breakup or not.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Bob Rosen—psychologist, New York Times bestselling author, and business advisor—to dive into the concept of attachment, and specifically, how our attachments can hold us back in breakups and beyond. We explore key themes from his latest book, “Detached,” including the attachment to stability, the past, control, and even perfectionism. Dr. Rosen shares how these attachments are often rooted in fear, why learning to embrace uncertainty is so critical, and how self-love plays a pivotal role in healing after heartbreak. We also discuss the importance of community, the difference between detaching and disassociating, and practical strategies for letting go of what no longer serves us. If you’ve ever felt stuck after a breakup or struggled with moving on, this episode is packed with insight, actionable advice, and a reminder that healing is a practice—not a one-time event. To take the detachment assessment you can click here. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuck” after a breakup is so common, the power of micro yeses in healing, and how to stop fighting with our own minds during heartbreak. Britt also explains how aligning different parts of our minds can help us move forward, and we get super real about grief, shame, and wiring our brains for healthier relationships. Plus, we discuss Britt’s latest book, Align Your Mind, and her previous book, The Science of Stuck, both of which are game changers for anyone struggling with breakups. This conversation is packed with compassion, actionable tools, and so many “ah-ha” moments—I can’t wait for you to listen!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today's solo episode, I'm diving into the topic of hitting "rock bottom" after a breakup—what it really means, why it matters, and how it can actually be a catalyst for deep change and healing. I share personal stories and draw some powerful parallels to sobriety and recovery, discussing why so many of us avoid fully feeling the pain after a breakup and the ways we try to distract or numb ourselves to avoid that lowest point. We talk about the importance of allowing yourself to truly be "done," what that looks like (and doesn't look like), and why embracing the pain instead of fighting it can provide the motivation you need to start genuinely healing. If you're struggling to let go, stuck in a cycle with your ex, or afraid of facing the sadness, this episode is here to remind you that rock bottom can be a turning point—and that this, too, shall pass.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by New York Times bestselling author Laura Day to dive into her newest book, The Prism, through the lens of heartbreak and healing. Laura and I talk about why breakups are so uniquely painful, what happens in our brains and bodies when we lose a relationship, and how intuition and ego both play a role in how we cope. We get into the seven centers of the ego, how the structures of our previous relationships can become both comfort and prison, and Laura shares practical tools for redirecting your energy after a breakup—rather than just telling yourself to “stop thinking about them.” We also cover the phenomenon of telepathic communication with exes, how to cut those invisible ties, the importance of rituals around breakups, and why action and building new routines are essential to healing. If you want real, actionable advice to rebuild after heartbreak (plus a peek into Laura’s own story), this episode is packed with wisdom and support.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Judith Belmont, an experienced therapist and author of multiple self-help books, including her latest, “110 CBT Tips and Tools.” We dive deep into the practical side of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and how its tools can help you through a breakup. Judith shares the most common unhelpful thought patterns people get stuck in after heartbreak, like all-or-nothing thinking and fortune telling, and gives actionable advice on how to identify, reframe, and work through those thoughts. We also talk about the difference between healthy journaling and spiraling, how to build self-compassion, and why healing is about getting through—not just getting over—a breakup. If you’re looking for tangible ways to support yourself and shift your mindset while feeling seen in your grief, you won’t want to miss this conversation.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Isabelle Morley, a clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy and author of the recently released book They’re Not Gaslighting You. We dive deep into the rise and overuse of “therapy speak”—think labels like gaslighting, narcissism, and red flags—and how these terms, while validating for many, can sometimes stall real healing after a breakup. Dr. Morley and I discuss why we’re so quick to diagnose our exes, the emotional pay-off behind it, and how social media has amplified these trends in dating and relationships. We also explore how focusing on an ex’s pathology can keep us stuck, the real definitions behind words like “love bombing” and “gaslighting,” and how to safely navigate vulnerability and boundaries in new relationships. If you’re finding yourself lost in TikTok jargon or anxious about red flags, this episode will help you set the record straight and refocus your energy on real healing.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!Our Sponsors:* Check out BetterHelp: https://betterhelp.com/HEARTBREAK* Check out Happy Mammoth and use my code HEARTBREAK for a great deal: https://happymammoth.com* Check out Mint Mobile: https://mintmobile.com/heartbreakAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy