Heal Your Heartbreak

In today’s episode, I’m joined by internationally bestselling poet and author Courtney Peppernell to talk about her deeply personal new book, Out of the Ashes. Courtney opens up about her seven-year relationship that ended in emotional abuse and infidelity, and what it was like to recognize the toxic dynamics only in hindsight. We explore how she navigated feelings of shame, guilt, and even imposter syndrome as someone whose career centers around writing about love and connection. Courtney shares how therapy, creative expression, and rebuilding trust in herself helped her heal—and why learning to embrace difficult emotions, especially anger, is essential to recovery. We also discuss the difference between healthy and emotionally abusive relationships, what it means to “rise from the ashes,” and how to reconnect with your intuition after heartbreak. This is a powerful conversation about reclaiming your voice, rebuilding self-worth, and knowing that your best days still lie ahead.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's episode, I'm joined by international best-selling author Amber Rae of the book Loveable, who shares her incredible story of breaking free from a nine-year sexless marriage after realizing she was living out a "good girl" narrative that kept her needs and desires suppressed. Amber and I dive into the difficult process of coming to terms with a relationship that looks good on paper but isn't fulfilling in reality, how meeting a soulmate became the catalyst for honesty and change, and the often-unspoken shame around discussing intimacy issues within relationships. We talk about rationalizing our way into staying, the courage it takes to leave, and the even deeper work of healing childhood wounds and learning to show up authentically in a new relationship. Amber also shares what it was like navigating others’ judgments, processing her family history, and building a partnership based on true connection and willingness. Whether you’re questioning your relationship or seeking permission to honor your own needs, this conversation is all about finding freedom and self-love on the other side of heartbreak.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s listener episode, I’m interviewing Chris, a man in his late 30s living in Arizona who is nearly two years out from a relationship that was marked by a classic anxious-avoidant dynamic. Chris opens up about navigating repeated breakup and reconciliation cycles with his ex, coming to terms with patterns of emotional unavailability, and the challenging process of finally walking away for good. We talk about what taking a full year to be single and focus on self-growth looked like for him, the deep patterns he noticed (both in his ex and himself), and how therapy and community support helped him rebuild his confidence after feeling completely lost. Chris also shares how dating again after a long break led him to a new, much healthier relationship, and what it’s been like to rewire old patterns and experience genuine emotional safety with a partner. This conversation is a refreshing look at heartbreak, healing, and growth from the male perspective, and I know so many listeners will relate to Chris’s story.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving deep into one of my favorite—and most powerful—tools for breakup recovery: contrary action. I talk about how, in the midst of heartbreak, your thoughts and feelings can often steer you in the wrong direction, and why doing the opposite of what you feel like doing can be a true game changer. I share actionable ways to put contrary action into practice, how routines can support your healing, and why building self-trust and self-esteem really starts with showing up for yourself—especially when it feels hardest. I also discuss the tricky balance between listening to your feelings and pushing yourself just enough, providing tips for what to do when motivation is at its lowest. If you’re feeling stuck or unsure how to move forward, this episode is for you!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s expert episode, I’m joined by Dr. Robert Biswas Diener, pioneer in positive psychology and co-author of the book “Radical Listening.” We dive into the power of radical listening—what it actually looks like, why it’s so hard to practice during breakups, and how improving your listening skills can radically change how you process heartbreak and receive support. Dr. Robert and I talk about why loneliness is so prevalent right now, how to coach your friends and family to be better listeners, and why so many people feel misunderstood during a split. We also dig into why it’s important to understand your motives when you’re listening—or when you’re sharing—and how to ask for the kind of support you need, whether that’s to be heard, hugged, or helped. Plus, we cover what to do when you have to listen to things you really don’t want to hear (like “I don’t want to be in this relationship anymore”) and how so much clarity actually comes from hindsight listening. This conversation is packed with practical advice for anyone navigating heartbreak, wanting to be a better support system, or looking to have healthier conversations—breakup or not.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s episode I’m joined by none other than Diego Perez—who many of you know as Yung Pueblo. This was such a pinch-me moment for me, getting to sit down with the author behind so many of my favorite books, and especially his newest release, “How To Love Better.” Diego opens up about his relationship with his wife and how their journey became the foundation for this new book. We talk about self-awareness, the idea of impermanence in relationships (and why we resist change so much), and how working on ourselves transforms the quality of our connections. Diego also shares his thoughts on how to accept breakups, when it might be time to let go, and why letting an incompatible relationship drag on can be an injustice to everyone involved. Whether you’re healing from heartbreak, looking to grow in your single life, or reflecting on what you want in your next relationship, there’s so much wisdom packed into this conversation. To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s solo episode, I’m diving into a term I’ve seen popping up everywhere lately—“discard”—especially in the context of avoidant attachment styles and breakups. I share how I started noticing this lingo in my Q&As on Instagram, did some research, and why the use of “discard” really doesn’t sit right with me. I break down why I believe using this term is harmful, how it can lower self-esteem, invalidate your relationship experience, and make moving forward so much harder. I also touch on the dangers of getting too wrapped up in therapy-speak and diagnostic labels instead of just allowing yourself to process the real sadness and pain of heartbreak. If you’ve felt “thrown away” in a blindsided or one-sided breakup, this episode is for you—I hope it helps you feel seen and reminds you not to tie your worth to someone else’s inability to commit.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Bob Rosen, a psychologist and New York Times bestselling author, dives deep into the complex world of attachment and detachment. He explores how our attachments can hinder healing after breakups, emphasizing the importance of embracing uncertainty. Bob discusses the nuances of self-love, the role of community support, and how perfectionism can trap us. He provides practical strategies for processing pain and rethinking our narratives, encouraging listeners to see healing as an ongoing practice rather than a one-time fix.

In today’s expert episode I’m joined by Britt Frank—author, speaker, and licensed neuropsychotterapist—who has been on my wish list for ages. We dive deep into the connection between breaking free from an addiction to substances and breaking free from an ex, and Britt so beautifully shares why our brains actually are on our side (even when it doesn’t feel like it!). We talk about why feeling “stuck” after a breakup is so common, the power of micro yeses in healing, and how to stop fighting with our own minds during heartbreak. Britt also explains how aligning different parts of our minds can help us move forward, and we get super real about grief, shame, and wiring our brains for healthier relationships. Plus, we discuss Britt’s latest book, Align Your Mind, and her previous book, The Science of Stuck, both of which are game changers for anyone struggling with breakups. This conversation is packed with compassion, actionable tools, and so many “ah-ha” moments—I can’t wait for you to listen!To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today’s listener episode, I’m talking with Dionne, a proud Gen Xer who shares her story of a six-and-a-half-year, very on-again, off-again relationship that was marked by several breakups—some lasting just a weekend, others stretching to six months. We discuss how easy and addictive the breakup-get-back-together cycle can be, especially for those with anxious attachment styles, and the emotional toll it takes over time. Dionne opens up about the moment she finally decided to choose herself and the power of sticking to no contact after their final breakup. We also touch on the importance of self-compassion, learning from past patterns, and making empowered choices as you move forward in healing. I know so many of you will resonate with Dionne’s self-awareness and reflection, and I hope this episode inspires anyone who is struggling to break free from a similar relationship cycle.To find out which Break Up Bestie Course is right for you, click the link to take the quiz and get matched with the best solution for you: https://breakupbestie.typeform.com/to/x0WglwDOTo get my course bundle Heal Your Break Up, go to https://www.breakupbestie.com/heal-your-break-up-course and use the code PODCAST for $25 off!To learn about all of my courses: https://www.breakupbestie.com/coursesTo join Healing Hearts Club for FREE: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1021288124899873Get a copy of The Breakup Workbook here!See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.