Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

Stacy Matulis, Founder of Alchemy Somatics and a somatic healer specializing in trauma integration, shares insights on navigating the freeze response in relationships. She explains how feeling anxious or shutting down during interactions stems from nervous system overwhelm. Stacy discusses the vital role of emotional connection in healing trauma and emphasizes the importance of processing feelings gradually. Listeners learn how early experiences shape adulthood and discover transformative practices for overcoming emotional barriers.

Ever wondered what different women say when they get really real about their last relationship? How about why they do growth work — and what it looks like for them?Here, I take you behind the curtain to give you a peek at exactly that. This is an amalgam episode with responses from over over ten women who answered three questions:What’s the biggest thing you learned in your last relationship?What’s a memorable time a man showed up for you or honored you in some way?Why do you do growth work and what does that look like for you?---When it comes to love, sex, relationships, and personal growth work, one thing is always true: more compassion is always better. So here’s to increased understanding, empathy, and joy — and of course, more healing. ---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Dive into the world of intimate connections as four women share what truly excites them during oral sex. They discuss the vital role of communication and understanding, highlighting the importance of emotional connections over scripted experiences. The conversation flows from personal anecdotes to reflections on vulnerability, including how eye contact can enhance intimacy. Discover the techniques that not only improve pleasure but also create a deeper bond, transforming encounters into unforgettable experiences.

When your partner gets anxious or upset, do you feel like it's your fault or that you have to fix it immediately? How able are you to stay grounded and feel your own self, even amidst her storm/upset?Ever found yourself doing anything to calm her down -- because your sense of being OK was contingent upon her feeling OK? (We find this common in the men with whom we work.Here, we talk about how to stay grounded even when she's going through it. We outline how to know what's actually going on for you in those moments, how to "interrupt" the sense of compulsion around fixing it, and what a deep offering it is to maintain your own, separate nervous system instead of merging with hers.As Jason says, now that he has become more skilled in this area, “I can be connected to her without being swallowed up by what’s going on for her.”Whether it's in sex, dating, or a committed relationship, you will be more stable, reliable, and frankly sexy partner when you learn to master this.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)---Memorable quotes from this episode:“When she would get dysregulated, I would get dysregulated."“Avoiding conflict often tends to create more conflict.” “If my partner isn’t feeling well, it feels like it’s my fault.” “Oh wow, her nervous system is not my nervous system.” “I’m here with it, whatever it is — and I’m being impacted.”“It’s OK to be messy and imperfect.”

Rosanne Delaney, an expert on betrayal trauma, dives deep into the emotional turmoil of infidelity and its aftermath in relationships. She discusses the healing journey for those betrayed and emphasizes the importance of support and therapy. Listeners will find insights on rebuilding trust, navigating personal growth, and the transformative power of community. With a blend of personal narratives and practical advice, Rosanne highlights that healing is possible and that no one has to face these challenges alone.

In this engaging discussion, Jason Lange, a specialist in transforming shame, and Luke Adler, an expert in emotional healing, tackle the heavy topic of shame's grip on sexuality and personal power. They share powerful personal stories of vulnerability and healing, illustrating how confronting shame can lead to liberation and deeper connections. The conversation emphasizes the importance of open communication and compassion in overcoming generational fears and building authentic relationships. Emotional well-being's impact on physical health is also explored.

Ever experienced porn addiction (and had that affect your love relationship), contended with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, or been worried about what your cock looks like? Then you'll feel right at home with this episode.Here, several men in our community share their unvarnished truth with their own voices. They forthrightly and vulnerably answer 3 questions:What's a major lesson you learned in your last relationship?What's a sexual challenge you've had and how have you addressed it?Why do you choose to do consciousness work?I believe you'll find the raw truth from other men on the path to be illuminating, inviting, and reassuring all at the same time. I couldn't be prouder of these men, and all of you men who are out there learning, transforming, and growing.---Work with usWant to go deeper than the podcast? Jason and I are ready to work with you! We specialize in helping men break old patterns and transform their sex & love lives for good.To see if there's a fit for our flagship program Pillars of Presence, book a call here. Start anytime. (https://evolutionary.men/apply/)

Violet Lange, an advocate for women's sexual empowerment, dives into the transformative power of self-pleasure practices for women. She discusses how these practices not only enhance personal well-being but also positively affect relationship dynamics. The conversation touches on overcoming societal taboos and trauma related to female sexuality, and the importance of open communication in navigating intimacy. With a playful twist, Lange shares clever slang for self-pleasure, encouraging a fun and open dialogue around women's sexual health.

Jason Lange, a relationship expert and coach, dives deep into the nuances of emotional vulnerability in relationships. He discusses the concept of 'opening' a woman, sharing personal stories of both connection and disconnection. Highlights include the importance of validating emotions over dismissing them, fostering intimacy through honest dialogue, and the parallels between emotional fitness and therapy. Jason emphasizes how physical touch and safety can enhance emotional bonds, ultimately guiding listeners towards healthier relationships.

"When I was at my worst, I didn’t know there was a way out."Sometimes in life we get stuck. We don't know how to deal with big feelings, so we self-medicate -- with alcohol, or porn, or weed, or food.But often the self-medication gets in the way of things we really want -- love; intimacy; healthy, connected sex; joy.You may think of 12-step programs as solely for alcoholics, but they're far mroe comprehensive. There are programs for porn addiction, codependency in relationship, sex & love addiction, and for those who are loved ones of an addict (or adult children of parents who were addicts).*Addiction and recovery profoundly affect your sex and love life, and here, speaker and 12-step mentor Mark Wilde delves into his own story, and how his journey has positively impacted his marriage.In his words, as he grew and healed and learned to lead: "When I became more vulnerable and expressive, I had reciprocation and energy from her that I’d not experienced before ... our relationship began to ascend dramatically."If you want to feel inspired and uplifted, listen on.*These groups are: Codependents Anonymous (CODA), Porn Addicts Anonymous (PAA), Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), Al-Anon (for the loved ones of those who struggle with addiction).---Evolutionary Men RetreatReady to do the work live? Join us in Northern California for an epic time connecting with nature, making friends, and healing your bodymind. This sold out last year and the year before. As of this episode dropping, we've got 1 slot left.Labor Day weekend (last weekend of August), 2024.To sign up or learn more, go here.---Memorable quotes from this episode:"My parents passed away, my marriage ended, and it got bad.""Alcohol became a solution to deep-seated issues that had carried on since childhood."“I still felt myself wearing lots of masks and building up lots of walls.”“How am I going to placate and keep the peace and make her happy?"“When I did work with my body, I felt the unlocking of everything.”---Mentioned on this episode:What Happened to You?