The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Self Inquiry, Ego, Liberation, Awareness, Mental Health, Spirituality Summary: This week I’m SO excited to be joined by a trailblazer and icon whose work has deeply impacted my life: Byron Katie. Tune in to discover the powerful method of inquiry born directly out of Byron Katie’s experience that allows you to release yourself from suffering and access the wisdom that always exists within you. In 1986, at the bottom of a ten-year spiral into depression and self-loathing, Byron Katie woke up one morning in a state of joy. She realized that when she believed her stressful thoughts, she suffered, but that when she questioned them, she didn’t suffer, and that this is true for every human being. Her simple yet powerful process of self-inquiry, which she calls The Work, consists of four questions and the turnaround, which is a way of experiencing the opposite of what you believe. Byron Katie has been bringing The Work to millions of people for more than thirty years. Her books include the bestselling Loving What Is, now in a revised edition, I Need Your Love—Is That True?, A Thousand Names for Joy, and A Mind at Home with Itself. Discover: Four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light A powerful way to handle and reframe criticism A simple tool to identify the cause of your stress and suffering The profound freedom that comes with questioning and turning around your thoughts 00:00 Intro 00:56 What is “The Work”? 03:48 The four questions 09:05 Ego 13:54 Is it true? 22:19 The world is divided 24:58 Stop thinking 32:07 Self-realization, until it’s lived, has no power 34:12 It’s all perfect 36:04 Defensiveness 39:25 Judge your neighbor worksheet 50:46 Turning around your thoughts Links: Instagram | @byron.katie Facebook | @theworkofbyronkatie YouTube | @theworkofbk Podcast | The Work Worksheet | Judge Your Neighbour Join her for At Home with BK on Zoom every Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday from 9-10 a.m. Pacific Time. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Attachment Theory, Conflict, Relationships, Intimacy, Parenthood Summary: Today I’m joined by John Kim and Vanessa Bennett for a wonderful conversation discussing the core themes from their new book, “It’s Not Me, It’s You,” including how to navigate differences in your relationship.  John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) and Vanessa Bennett are not only licensed therapists and relationship coaches but master plate spinners. Writing books, hosting podcasts, creating mental health content, and raising their toddler are just a few of those spinning plates. Before their worlds collided, they each experienced the painful expiration of long term relationships which thrust them into their inner journeys, personal therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people relationship better. As a couple, they are committed to being transparent about their baggage, bullsh*t, and the slippery knots of their own imperfect relationship to help illuminate the surprising issues that hinder all of us from finding, enjoying, and sustaining love. Discover: How to navigate different love languages Framing your differences as opportunities Tips for navigating conflict with your partner The difference between doing life with someone vs. doing life at or around them 00:00 Intro 04:00 Therapists are human too 07:20 Writing a book with your partner 10:03 Different love languages 16:55 The anxious/avoidant dance 19:07 Differences in relationship 23:33 It’s in the small moments 28:20 Handling conflict 35:11 Past relationships vs. now 39:00 Softness & vulnerability in relationship 41:00 Greatest challenges in couples 47:22 Being transactional 53:47 Clean anger is necessary    Links: Instagram: @vanessasbennett + @theangrytherapist TikTok: @thecodayoga + @theangrytherapist Pre-order Vanessa and John's new book, It’s Not Me It’s You, here. Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Relationship Coaching, Intimacy, Emotional Intelligence Summary: In today’s episode I’m joined once again by the insightful Jayson Gaddis. Tune in as we discuss some of the most common relational challenges we both encounter and how Jayson helps others both better understand relationships AND teach relational skills themselves through The Relationship School. Jayson Gaddis, author, podcaster, speaker, and “personal trainer for relationships”, is a global leader on interpersonal conflict and connection. He got tired of complaining that street-level relationship skills are not taught in school, so he founded The Relationship School, an impact-based company dedicated to helping individuals, couples and teams work out their differences in order to have indestructible relationships. His new book Getting to Zero: How to work Through Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships was voted Editors Choice, Best non-fiction, and Best Leadership and Business book in 2021 on Amazon.   Discover: The most common relationship challenges we both see A common root cause of unavailability  One question to ask yourself when you don’t know whether to stay or go The advantages of being a coach vs. a therapist How Relationship School differs from other trainings Our thoughts on why relationship skills aren’t taught in school 00:00 Intro 01:42 The problem of not having mutual partnership 03:28 The most common relationship challenges 05:10 Dating unavailability 06:35 Should you stay or go? 08:07 Ghosting 08:52 People transform their lives around their relationship pain 11:18 Becoming a therapist 16:45 Group beliefs influencing individual beliefs  20:21 Breaking out of old systems 23:22 Challenging the client 29:18 Hearing feedback 33:46 Teaching how to handle conflict 35:19 Success of a relationship shouldn’t be measured by length 36:59 Movies modeling real life 40:02 Apologizing & conflict repair   Links: Instagram | @jaysongaddis Website | relationshipschool.com Relationship Coach Certification Program | Visit this link to apply! Jayson's team interviews everyone that comes into the program. Once accepted, you will get a massive discount of $1000 at checkout when you use the promo code CREATETHELOVE Book | Getting to Zero I’m Sorry: How to Apologize and Why It Matters with Dr. Harriet Lerner | Part 1 | Part 2  Embracing Conflict with Jayson Gaddis - The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Dating, Red Flags, Infidelity, Forgiveness, Attachment Theory Summary: I’m super pumped to be joined by Jeff Guenther, aka @therapyjeff for today’s episode. I’ve been watching Jeff distill complex information and break down relational challenges online in such a consumable and digestible way for some time now, so to sit down with him today and go deeper into allllll things romantic relationships is an honour. Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health. Discover: Green flags to look for on a date Why knowing your own red flags is essential for a healthy relationship The best time to ask “what are we?” When it’s okay (and can actually benefit your relationship) to crush on someone else Red flags to watch for when you crush on someone else 00:00 Intro 01:48 Starting an online presence 05:05 Back to (relationship) basics 06:08 Blaming your parents 08:00 Do you need to forgive in order to heal? 11:30 Stop talking shit about your ex 13:15 Know your own red flags 16:44 Assuming good intent 20:20 Asking for reassurance 26:56 Actions vs. words 30:45 Having needs is sexy 35:21 Anxious/avoidant attachment 37:54 Having a crush on someone while in a relationship 51:07 Red flags when you have a crush 53:10 Thinking relationally Links: Website | therapyjeff.com & therapyden.com Instagram | @therapyjeff TikTok | @therapyjeff Patreon | @therapyjeff Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Self-Worth, Anxiety, Self-Esteem, Emotions, Boundaries Summary: In 2015, having worked in the world of TV for eight years, Sophie Dear was signed off work due to anxiety and insomnia. Feeling pretty broken, she retrained as a yoga teacher and started a journey of inner work. Then, very suddenly at the end of 2019, Sophie's 10 year relationship and marriage broke down. She jumped on a plane to Bali in March 2020 with a plan to work out what she truly wanted.  After stumbling across my work on Instagram, she took my Become a Boundaries Badass and Crushing Codependency courses, both of which had a huge impact on her relationships and self-worth. Sophie now works as a self-worth empowerment coach and is very much enjoying her best life. As she explains in this episode, re-discovering her self-worth has been her biggest journey and I'm honored to have played a part in it! Discover: Tangible tips for building self-worth How having boundaries will change your life in the best way Having compassion for your old patterns and survival strategies 00:00 Intro 01:21 Sophie's story 05:25 Allopathic medicine being symptom oriented 08:32 Effects of being unkind to yourself 10:30 Yoga and self-worth 17:03 Seeking your true self 18:26 Feeling seen for the first time 21:32 Growing up with a sick parent 23:41 When you become what you’ve been seeking 25:07 Every feeling you feel is valid 27:02 Boundaries and codependency 31:26 Survival strategies as superpowers 33:11 Having space for difficult and vulnerable conversations 38:42 Focusing on expansion rather than your limitations 39:27 Change starts when you start seeing your self-worth 42:48 We are wired to survive, not for happiness 46:04 Rituals for self-worth Links: Website | www.sophiedear.com Instagram | @_sophiedear, @move.and.inspire Move & Inspire: Get $35 off here using the code CREATETHELOVE Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Overcoming Fear, Speaking Your Truth, Authenticity, Alignment, Integrity Summary: So often, we allow the human in us - the part that has fears and limiting beliefs - talk us out of what feels right on a soul level. We talk ourselves out of taking courageous action, starting something new, laying a boundary, having a conversation, moving in a new direction… because stepping into the unknown is scary AF. It’s much easier (and more comfortable) to stay in the spaces, cycles and patterns that are already working and familiar. But the reality is this: when we know we can become more and we don’t answer the call, the pain of misalignment will eventually catch up. Which brings me to where I am today: realizing I have not been fully liberated and in integrity on @createthelove for some time. I’ve been holding back my full expression on social media, afraid of how I might be received — but I realize that in doing so, I don’t get to be all of me and you don’t get to know all of me. I came here to speak what is true for me, and be committed to building bridges. But one cannot build bridges when ones does not have a bridge between the parts of themselves they are afraid of expressing. So here I am: expressing. Join me for this special solo episode as I dive deeper into what has sparked this evolution and what to expect from me going forward as I step into a more aligned, more expressed, and more liberated version of myself. Thank you for being on this journey with me! Discover: Why committing to telling the truth changes everything An intimate letter to you, my community, on how my platform is evolving My thoughts on cancel culture, nuance and discussion How to step into a space of curiosity when you disagree with someone’s beliefs 00:00 Intro 01:31 Fearing the unknown 03:37 Don’t listen to the human in you 06:20 Let the truth that lives within you also live outside of you 09:12 Committing to telling the truth 12:16 Creating the love 17:34 Don’t get stuck in someone else’s expectations 19:59 Be curious about anything you’re not allowed to criticize 21:37 Cancel culture 27:20 Tolerating different beliefs 30:09 Stop wasting your time focusing on other people Links: Watch this episode on Youtube Sign up for my newsletter here Watch my recent IG Live on this topic The Impacts of Lockdowns with Dr. Jay Bhattacharya Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Health, Personal Responsibility, Mindset, Food Systems, Resilience, Medical Autonomy, Longevity Summary: They say when the student is ready the teacher arrives, and that was exactly the case with today’s guest, Dr. Tyna Moore. With nearly three decades of experience in the medical world, Dr. Tyna Moore, ND, DC is a leading expert in holistic regenerative medicine and resilient health. Traditionally and alternatively trained in science and medicine as both a Naturopathic Physician and Chiropractor, she brings a unique perspective to those wishing to build a more robust foundation in their health and well-being. She is a podcast host, author, speaker, kettlebell devotee and mother as well as a fierce advocate for health autonomy and personal responsibility, which she helps others improve through her many offerings at drtyna.com and on her podcast, The Dr Tyna Show. Join us as we talk about the importance of metabolic health in our overall wellbeing, how we ended up in the sea of metabolic dysfunction we see today, plus Dr. Tyna’s top strategies for improving your health and resilience. Discover: Dr. Tyna’s journey from chronic illness as a young adult to thriving in her forties Simple strategies to improve your metabolic health and see noticeable shifts in your mood, energy levels and inflammation levels The role of mindset and personal responsibility in building optimal health How to build resilience against chronic and acute disease 00:00 Intro 01:07 Importance of presenting data and the truth 06:57 Pain and vanity 10:45 Information is empowering 13:09 Microbiomes are contagious 17:19 Unrealized food disorder 21:06 Strength training and its benefits 28:38 How to work on metabolic health 31:27 The food supply is adulterated  35:51 Sugar is satan 38:22 Making things conducive to longevity 39:45 Canceling and vilifying information rather than understanding the discomfort 43:45 There are demons among us 47:44 Easily influenced 56:16 The metabolic revamp Links: Instagram | @drtyna The Metabolic Revamp Challenge The Dr. Tyna Show Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Liberation, Masculinity, Patriarchy, Karma, Relationships, Self-Awareness Summary: John Wineland is a renowned author, teacher and speaker who guides both men and women in the realms of life purpose, relational communication, sexual intimacy and embodiment. I’ve admired John’s work for years, incorporating many of his teachings into my own journey. Join us for this episode where we explore a new vision of awakened masculinity — one rooted in conscious awareness, unflinching responsibility and true leadership. One that invites men to feel deeply, disavow numbness and turn away from ego-driven dogma that has harmed women, the planet, and men themselves. John's embodiment-driven teaching draws from not only over 30 years of experience of his own Buddhist meditative practice but from 13 years of intensive study and practice with renowned Yogic Intimacy teacher, David Deida. Drawing from Deida's revolutionary framework, as well as the deep lineages of Vajrayana, Tantra, Kundalini yoga, Taoist and Iron Shirt Qigong traditions, John seeks to create a profound experience for men and women longing to express their deepest desires with open, fierce and loving hearts. His new book, From The Core, shares a practical guide to redefine, heal and re-embrace masculinity in our world. Discover: How masculinity and what it means to be a valuable male within a relationship, community and society — is being redefined The value of integrating the masculine and the feminine within Simple practices to invite more presence, awareness and depth to your relationships 00:00 Intro 00:38 A new paradigm of masculinity 04:44 What is a liberated man? 08:36 Integrating the masculine and feminine within 10:35 Liberate yourself from patterns 13:58 The myth of the good husband 17:31 Why we resist liberation 19:42 Changing your karma  24:40 Make space for your inner self 26:57 Men want depth 30:28 Grief and anger 32:00 Beauty and awe 34:09 Love is not transactional 39:27 Killing the teacher 41:35 Internal patriarchy 43:24 Having a partner who challenges you 46:19 How to relate to the feminine 47:11 Toxic masculinity Links: Instagram | @john_wineland Workshop | The Virtual Workshop Series by John Wineland  Book | From the Core: A New Masculine Paradigm for Leading with Love, Living Your Truth & Healing the World by John Wineland  What Femininity Wants with John Wineland | The Mark Groves Podcast Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards   Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Healing, Health, Holistic Health, Emotions, Self-Expression, Authenticity Summary: I often talk about the deep impact both our relationships and emotional health have on our physical health, so this week I’m thrilled to be diving deeper into the subject with the one and only Dr. Christian Gonzalez. Join us for a beautiful conversation about why authentic self-expression and releasing suppressed emotions is so important for the health of your body, mind and spirit. Dr. G took an interest in many fields of medicine, but it wasn’t until his mother passed of cancer that he decided to shift his focus to oncology. There he found a passion for helping people optimize their health by preventing chronic disease and he soon realized that cancer was not simply nutritional or exercise-based, it was much more than that.  As he studied this concept more, Dr. G became passionate about environmental medicine as well as the mind, body, and spirit connection. Everything is connected, from the foods we eat to the way we think and interact with the world and the people in our lives. These seemingly small factors all play a large part when it comes to our health and longevity. Because of this, Dr. G has shifted from working with patients to focusing his energy on mass education. He is the host of the excellent Heal Thy Self podcast, which focuses on giving people the tools they need to truly heal from the inside out and highlights some of the top medical professionals in the industry. Discover: How the relationships we have with our home, the environment, and the people in our lives all play a role in the development of chronic disease The deep impact your emotional health has on your physical health Why authentic self-expression is so important The pathway to healing suppressed emotions and unhooking from unhelpful protective mechanisms 00:00 Intro 02:26 How Dr. G got started in the medical field 06:15 Pivoting into Naturopathic Medicine 11:06 Healing from suppressed emotions and trauma 17:34 The cost of resisting your true emotions 25:15 Letting yourself feel “negative” & “unlovable” emotions 32:06 The role of nutrition and supplementation 37:04 Authentic self expression can protect you from toxic environments Links: Instagram | @doctor.gonzalez Website | docgonzalez.com Podcast | Heal Thy Self with Dr. G Mark Groves on Heal Thy Self with Dr. G Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Birth, Birth Control, Reproductive Health, Body Autonomy, Informed Consent Summary: This week I’m joined by powerhouse Ricki Lake to discuss her fascinating new documentary, The Business of Birth Control. Sixty years after the pill revolutionized women's emancipation, this new documentary examines the complex relationship between hormonal birth control and women’s health and liberation. Weaving together the stories of bereaved parents, body literacy activists and femtech innovators, the film reveals a new generation seeking holistic and ecological alternatives to the pill. In this episode we explore the risks and side effects of the pill your doctor probably didn’t tell you about, unethical drug trials, the advantages of being in tune with your body and cycle, holistic alternatives to the pill, and so much more! Discover: The risks and side effects of the pill your doctor probably didn’t tell you about Real stories of people who have experienced harmful side effects from birth control The problem with labeling and lack of informed consent when it comes to the pill   00:00 Intro 01:51 What motivated Ricki to educate in the reproductive space 04:30 Home birth  07:04 Re-education about birth control 11:04 Side effects of birth control 17:23 Tragic stories from birth control use 19:43 Labeling and information 21:44 Understanding your rights and choices 23:01 Tracking menstrual cycle 25:44 How to navigate through this  28:03 Christianity and sexual abstinence 30:27 Importance of sex education 33:20 What Ricki’s most proud of in terms of the film 34:57 Challenging & questioning other people’s beliefs 41:37 Hypocrisy in religion 43:46 People hate it when we question the status quo 45:33 Giving birth on your own terms 47:52 Finding love   Links: Stream The Business of Birth Control in the US & Canada - use code CREATETHELOVE for 50% off! International Audiences: Join the waitlist to watch The Business of Birth Control Watch The Business of Being Born Business of Birth Control | Instagram Ricki Lake | Instagram Cured Nutrition's Joseph Sheehey on the Mark Groves Podcast Check out my course Dating 101! Sweetening the Pilll with Holly Grigg Spall The War on Nature with Dr. Nathan Riley Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands