The Mark Groves Podcast

Themes: Spirituality, Spiritual Awakening, Clairvoyance, Channeling, Medium Summary: This week I’m joined by one of the foremost spiritual channels working today — Paul Selig. Described as “a medium for the living,” Paul has the unique ability to step into and “become” the people his clients ask about, often taking on their personalities and physical characteristics as he “hears” them telepathically. In this episode, we discuss Paul’s backstory, how he discovered his clairvoyance and some of the wisdom he has channeled using his unique gift. Paul was born in New York City and received his master’s degree from Yale. A spiritual experience in 1987 left him clairvoyant. In his nine breakthrough works of channeled literature, including I Am the Word, The Book of Mastery, and the Beyond the Known Trilogy: Realization, Alchemy, and The Kingdom author and medium Paul Selig has recorded an extraordinary program for personal and planetary evolution as humankind awakens to its own divine nature. Discover: Life as an expression of divinity What it really means to “be of service” A unique way to look at forgiveness Messages to all of us from the guides 00:00 Intro 01:25 How it all started 05:01 Understanding the voices he hears 07:41 Evolution of the guide’s messages 10:14 Knowing who you are, what you are, and what you serve 18:57 Forgiveness is important 20:06 Everything hidden will be found 22:47 When you reject something, you can’t change it 25:56 The guides 30:16 Feeling energy 35:05 How transmission of messages happens 38:59 A message from the guides 43:36 Books and energies Links: Paul’s Instagram Paul’s Website The Kingdom - A Channeled Text by Paul Selig Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Self-Love, Self-Expression, Shame, Self-Care, Acceptance, Authenticity Summary: This week I'm joined by yoga teacher, author and my friend, Jennifer Pastiloff. In this episode we discuss how to live from a place of love, accepting and being true to yourself, self-compassion, finding beauty in unexpected places and so much more. Jen Pastiloff offers a unique style of teaching through her workshop “On Being Human”, which is based on her bestselling book of the same name. She describes these workshops as “a hybrid of yoga related movement, writing, sharing out loud, letting the snot fly, and the occasional dance party.” She has been featured on Good Morning America, New York Magazine, Health Magazine, CBS News and more for her unique teachings which she has taught to thousands of women in sold-out workshops all over the world.  Discover: One simple way to open yourself up to more beauty, miracles and love A morning prayer to help set yourself up for success each day Why inspired action needs to follow awareness in order to make meaningful change Each new day as an opportunity to begin again Owning your flaws and showing up anyway 00:00 Intro 00:59 Are you who you say you are? 02:36 Operating from love 06:31 Talk to more strangers 09:54 Don’t lose the child in you 13:31 Create your morning prayer 19:27 Make mistakes and begin again 22:22 Owning your messiness 24:34 Taking inspired action 26:27 Surround yourself with people who inspire you 29:22 Don’t take yourself too seriously 32:35 Choose your struggle 37:14 Jen’s experience of going deaf 42:44 Cancel culture 44:51 Social hierarchy 48:26 Shame 51:00 Seeking validation vs. being true to yourself 56:03 Give yourself permission Links: Jennifer’s Instagram Jennifer’s Website Jennifer’s Book: On Being Human: A Memoir of Waking Up, Living Real, and Listening Hard Join us on the Mine’d app!  Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Propaganda, Media Literacy, News, Persuasion, Social Media Summary: Today I’m joined by Renee Hobbs, who is an expert in digital and media literacy education. She's the author of Mind Over Media: Propaganda Education for a Digital Age and for 30 years has helped educators across four contents integrate digital and media literacy into all subject areas and grade levels. In this episode, Renee unpacks what propaganda is, why we should be aware of it, and how it really affects and influences us. A topic as timely as ever these days! Discover: How propaganda works and why developing critical thinking skills around all types of media is so important How media messages shape our culture and society How powerful language is as a persuasive tool The importance of curiosity and seeking out divergent perspectives Increasing your capacity for complexity and critical thinking 00:00 Intro 00:49 Information in today’s era 02:35 Propaganda is everywhere 04:19 News and facts 06:03 Definition of propaganda 09:02 The power of language 15:29 Media’s role in society 19:36 Conspiracy theories 20:25 Stereotypes vs. embracing complexity 23:55 Self-interest is inescapable 27:02 Manage your rage 29:57 Propaganda is in the eye of the beholder 31:54 Searching for opposing beliefs 34:55 The learning journey with podcasts 37:50 Learning by creating media Links: Mind Over Media Website Contemporary Propaganda Gallery Set Your Motivation Media Education Lab Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Mental Health, Purpose, Career, Self-Awareness, Reflection   Summary: Today I’m joined by best-selling author, podcast host and mental fitness strategist Marc Champagne. In Mark’s book, Personal Socrates, he explored the pointed questions that stimulate our mental fitness and teach us how to direct our internal narrative to work for us instead of against us. Marc studied the prompts and practices of legends such as Kobe Bryant, Maya Angelou, Robin Williams, James Clear, Coco Chanel, Stephen Hawking, and many others to bring clarity, intentionality, and possibility to every aspect of reader’s lives. In this episode, Marc unpacks what he’s learnt about the mental fitness practices and reflective questions shaping the lives of some of the most successful and brilliant thinkers in the world.  Discover: The simple daily practice almost all successful/impactful people have in common Staying motivated, even at your lowest moments How journaling can help you understand yourself better Questions for increased self-awareness 00:00 Intro 00:50 Leaving a secure job 06:11 Failing and starting again 11:40 Micro-moments of motivation 14:34 Top 3 mental fitness habits 16:42 One question away from a different mindset 18:41 Importance of self-reflection 20:15 Journaling 25:42 What we’re pretending not to know 27:22 Why we’re afraid of slowing down 32:08 The hard to answer questions 35:51 Personal Socrates 40:53 Definition of mental fitness 45:39 Be in a state of possibility   Links: Marc Champagne’s Instagram Behind The Human Podcast Behind The Human Website Personal Socrates: Questions That Will Upgrade Your Life from Legends & World-Class Performers    Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Inner Peace, Mental Health, Purpose, Belonging, Self-Expression   Summary: Today I'm joined by my friend and the host of The Mental Wealth Podcast, Kaylor Betts. In this episode, Kaylor shares what it means to be both mentally healthy and wealthy, and how to cultivate inner peace in an increasingly chaotic world.  Kaylor Betts is a rising star in the mental health space; with a growing following and a hard hitting, buzzworthy podcast, The Mental Wealth Podcast. Kaylor is a contrarian and holds no punches when speaking out against mainstream opinion. He faced his mental health head-on, tackled his long history with anxiety and depression and has since taken a deep dive into studying human optimization to create a brand around what he calls ‘Mental Wealth’. Working with clients around the world, he is relentless in his passion to change lives and help us all understand how to live life beyond what we thought was possible.   Discover: What mental wealth is and how to create it Creating purpose in your life vs. discovering your purpose What to do when self-expression threatens belonging Getting comfortable with facing the uncomfortable   00:00 Intro 00:40 Having mental wealth 03:07 Discovering purpose 08:58 Belonging and being accepted 12:53 Handling hate and having inner peace 15:49 Beliefs you had as a kid affect you as an adult 19:17 Allowing people to accept a new version of you 27:26 Importance of humility 30:11 Becoming mentally healthy and wealthy 36:24 Living consciously  42:13 Be the observer of your thoughts 44:20 Dealing with procrastination 48:12 Danger vs. fear   Links: Kaylor Betts Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/thekaylorbetts/?hl=en The Mental Wealth Podcast | https://www.mentalwealthpodcast.co/ The Mental Wealth Academy | https://buildmentalwealth.co/ Why the Past 10 Years of American Life Have Been Uniquely Stupid by Jonathan Haidt | https://bit.ly/3tSbgDw   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Human Biases, Victimhood, Cancel Culture, Virtue Signaling, Morality   Summary: Lately I’ve been feeling motivated to explore my own (and what seems to be the world in general’s) edge around having hard conversations. What shapes binary/black and white thinking, and what has created the inability to speak about subjects that have become so hypersensitive? How can can we disagree with love and curiosity? It seems that more often than not, we cease talking about certain things altogether because it’s easier to avoid cancellation, the possibility of being critized, and conflict. But whenever we do this, we don’t actually serve our communities, our society, or the world as a whole. I’m so excited for you to hear this conversation with Cory Clark and was blown away by the research she shares about human biases, victim mentality, and more. It gave me the opportunity to explore my own personal biases and to bring light to the things that I don’t even see about myself and the way I see the world. I hope it does the same for you. Cory Clark is the Director of the Adversarial Collaboration Project at University of Pennsylvania and a Visiting Scholar in the Psychology Department. She received her PhD in Social and Personality Psychology and Quantitative Methods from University of California, Irvine and formerly worked as an Assistant Professor of Social Psychology at Durham University in the United Kingdom and the Director of Academic Engagement for Heterodox Academy. Among other things, she studies political biases (on both the left and right) and how moral and political concerns influence evaluations of science among everyday people and scientists alike. She writes a Psychology Today blog called The AntiSocial Psychologist and occasionally co-hosts the YouTube channel and podcast, Antisocial Psychologists.    Discover: How victimhood can be used for manipulation/to gain very real benefits Why we tend to cancel other people for having different opinions How research shows that being perceived as a victim can justify immoral behavior   00:00 Intro 01:27 Social media reinforces our beliefs 03:46 Competition in research 06:34 Being biased is human nature 11:14 The bias blindspot 12:52 Vicitmhood and the evolutionary benefits of playing victim 21:26 Justification of immoral behaviors 26:24 Emotional manipulation & victim playing 33:57 Victim and virtue signaling 39:46 Obsessive passions versus harmonious passions 41:56 Having a different opinion 43:32 Verbal versus physical violence 46:40 Extremist people 56:47 Participating in canceling by refusing to talk about it 1:00:50 Taking things to social media instead of talking about things privately 1:04:25 Being held accountable for what we say 1:07:20 Self-censorship   Links: Cory’s Website | https://www.coryjclark.com/ Cory Clark’s Twitter | https://twitter.com/ImHardcory Psyphilopod Podcast | https://bit.ly/3mUpeAP The Antisocial Psychologist Youtube | https://bit.ly/3HsCgyY The AntiSocial Psychologist Blog | https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-antisocial-psychologist   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at https://www.curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at http://organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at http://createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Self-Awareness, Trauma, Healing, Self-Love, Relationships   Summary: Today I'm joined by my dear friend and founder of Rising Woman, Sheleana Aiyana. In this episode we explore the importance of becoming aware of your patterns in relationship, where they came from and ultimately, how to transcend them to become “the one” you seek. Have you ever felt like people leave you for the exact same reason or that you date the same type of person… Every. Single. Time? These patterns are something that need to be acknowledged if we want to understand ourselves better and call in the healthy relationship we crave – both with ourselves and with another. Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationships as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One.   Discover: The effects of media on how we view relationships & how it encourages our addiction to chaos Why we tend to numb our pain & how we can start being aware of it Why we should normalize (and celebrate!) the mundane parts of relationships  00:00 Intro 01:26 Becoming the One 03:30 Media affecting our views on relationships 07:41 Ignoring old beliefs and working on your own patterns 12:52 Why we numb our pain 21:19 Trusting love again & healing 24:59 How your childhood experiences affects your behavior now 27:38 Awareness of old patterns 32:00 How being vulnerable can inspire others 34:28 How we actually block love from coming our way 37:01 Learning how to love healthily  41:16 Normalization of boredom in relationships   Links: Sheleana Aiyana | Instagram  Rising Woman | Instagram Rising Woman | Facebook Rising Woman | Website Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Marriage, Love, Relationships, the Cinderella Complex, Breakups Summary: Today I'm joined by the wonderful duo that is Beau Nelson and Shannon Heth, authors of Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy. In this episode, we speak about our society’s obsession with having a fairytale love story and happy endings. As kids, we’ve all heard the story of how Cinderella or other fairytale princesses found their prince charming, got married, and lived happily ever after, giving us unrealistic expectations of how relationships should be when we become adults. Listening to this episode will help you see the reality of a being in a relationship and how you can create the ending you desire. Shannon Heth is a marketing and communications specialist who crafts creative strategy and stories for global brands. The president and founder of public relations agency Milk Creative Communications, her client work has appeared in The New York Times, Vogue, Bon Appetit, and the Los Angeles Times. An accomplished storyteller, Shannon has also penned a number of articles for newspapers and magazines. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her two young sons. Beau Nelson is a creator. As an internationally recognized celebrity makeup artist he has worked with women like Kristen Stewart, Zoe Kravitz, Christina Hendricks, and Iman. As a photographer/director, he has collaborated with legendary brands like Chanel, Tom Ford, Dior, Violet Grey, and Chantecaille Cosmetics. And as a multi-passionate creative, he’s been involved in countless other artistic endeavors from fragrance development, to songwriting, to visual art. Beau has spent years studying and practicing principles of personal transformation and lives in Los Angeles, California. 00:00 Intro 01:30 Cinderella, You Bitch 05:56 The fairytale trap 10:01 Being responsible versus taking responsibility 12:19 Separating reality from fantasy 15:36 Stop finding happiness in other people 19:00 Sometimes breakups are a good thing 22:58 The problem with idolizing weddings & marriage 29:01 Problematic language used to describe love 32:57 Getting out of the fairytale trap 39:53 The magic of starting conversations with strangers 46:34 Acknowledging your feelings & celebrating yourself   Discover: The reason why so many of us live with a “Cinderella complex” and how we can get out of this fairytale trap Why Shannon and Beau think breakups are a good thing The importance of celebrating your achievements and recognizing your feelings   Links: Shannon Heth | Instagram  Beau Nelson | Instagram Cinderella, You Bitch: Rescue Your Relationships from the Fairy-Tale Fantasy   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Conflict, Patriarchy, Individualism, Sexuality, Masculinity Summary: Today I'm honoured to welcome Terry Real back on the podcast. An internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Real has worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists to help people create the connection they desire in relationships. His groundbreaking, bestselling book, I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, established him as one of the most respected voices in the treatment of men and male depression and his expertise on men’s mental health and relationship issues have been featured on Good Morning America, The Today Show, 20/20, The Oprah Winfrey Show and in The New York Times, among many others. In his practice, Real works with couples on the brink of disaster; he sees how individualism and patriarchy poisons our most intimate relationships. The excellent news: warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. In Terry's new book, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, he shows people how to stop working on themselves as individuals and start working on their relationship as a couple.   Discover: How to move beyond your traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness - the consciousness of us How patriarchy poisons our intimate relationships What's happening in your body when you're activated in conflict — plus scripts to help you move beyond your knee-jerk reactions and into your wiser, more collaborative self What's really behind defensiveness How men are programmed to squash what is most needed in their intimate relationships: vulnerability   Links: Check out Terry's first episode on the Mark Groves Podcast: The End of Women Caretaking Men terryreal.com US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Themes: Relationships, Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, Sexuality, Communication Summary: The Multiamory Podcast was created by Emily Matlack, Dedeker Winston, and Jase Lindgren in 2014 to fill the lack of voices about polyamory who were young and accessible to a modern audience. They were also tired of hearing all the same old, traditional, sometimes toxic dating advice. After years of creating episodes, connecting with listeners, and growing an amazing community, they have broadened their own views on relationships and are now helping people in a wide variety of relationship formats from polyamory, to monogamy, to Relationship Anarchy. Emily, Dedeker, and Jase believe in looking to the future of relationships, not maintaining the status quo of the past. They value ethics over tradition, and believe that a healthy world is one where everybody has agency in their relationships. Today, with three and a half million podcast downloads and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to providing the best possible transformational information, including new research, practical communication tools, a diverse group of guest experts, and more.    Discover: Different types of monogamy (yes, they exist!) The variety of ways that non-monogamy is practiced How Emily, Jase and Dedeker came together as a triad and some of the challenges they faced What do to if you’re in a monogamous relationship and want to explore non-monogamy Links: www.multiamory.com Instagram: @multiamory_podcast Twitter: @Multiamory  Patreon: patreon.com/multiamory  Polysecure by Jessica Fern Multiamory Relationship Radar   Sponsors: Cured Nutrition | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% all products at curednutrition.com/createthelove Organifi | Use code CREATETHELOVE for 20% off all products at organifi.com/createthelove Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands