Matthew Fray, author and coach known for his book 'This Is How Your Marriage Ends,' shares his journey of self-discovery following his divorce. He delves into the factors that lead to relationship breakdowns, emphasizing how the gradual erosion of trust can be devastating. Matthew discusses the importance of validating partners and nurturing emotional skills to foster intimacy. He also highlights the role of relational education in parenting, advocating for a more compassionate approach to building healthier relationships.
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Trust Erosion Ends Relationships
Trust erosion, not loss of love, often ends relationships.
Small emotional 'paper cuts' accumulate and destroy trust over time.
This Is How Your Marriage Ends, A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships
This Is How Your Marriage Ends, A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships
Matthew Fray
Themes: Marriage, Relationships, Commitment, Divorce, Trust, Intimacy
Summary:
One night during his divorce, Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the 18 year old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was a jerk and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband.
As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he’d learned from his failed marriage, his post – “She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes By the Sink” — was read over four million times. Now, his book, This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships, is set to release this month.
Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counselling couples, the book exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behaviour patterns in their own lives. I am so excited to have Matt on today to dive into it all!
Discover:
Why most relationships or marriages come to an end (even if we’re still in love)
The subtle ways we erode trust in our relationships
Two foundational habits you can focus on to build more trust and intimacy within your relationship
What it means to validate your partner
Links:
This Is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships by Matthew Fray
Matt's Blog - Must Be This Tall to Ride
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