
The Mark Groves Podcast #198: This is How Relationships End with Matthew Fray
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Mar 21, 2022 Matthew Fray, author and coach known for his book 'This Is How Your Marriage Ends,' shares his journey of self-discovery following his divorce. He delves into the factors that lead to relationship breakdowns, emphasizing how the gradual erosion of trust can be devastating. Matthew discusses the importance of validating partners and nurturing emotional skills to foster intimacy. He also highlights the role of relational education in parenting, advocating for a more compassionate approach to building healthier relationships.
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Trust Erosion Ends Relationships
- Trust erosion, not loss of love, often ends relationships.
- Small emotional 'paper cuts' accumulate and destroy trust over time.
Invalidation Destroys Trust
- Habitual invalidation deeply damages relational trust.
- Failure to emotionally support your partner creates long-term relational injury.
Marriage Ends After Trust Lost
- Matthew's marriage ended after his wife lost her father and expressed no longer loving him.
- He realized he had slowly eroded trust over years through invalidation and defensiveness.

