

The KYLO Show
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Welcome to The KYLO Show, a weekly podcast hosted by Danny Silk and Brittney Serpell. Join us as we answer your questions and share practical tools for building and protecting healthy relationships. This podcast is your guide for how to Keep Your Love On no matter what and pass on legacy to the next generation. Tune in to discover how whole healthy families are going to save the world!
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Oct 20, 2025 • 29min
Launching Kids with Love and Restoring Trust in Family
Explore the nuances of transitioning from parent to consultant as kids grow up. Discover how to maintain connection rather than control as relationships evolve. Gain insights on the supportive role of grandparents, emphasizing indulgence over authority. Learn practical steps for repairing damaged relationships through humility and honest conversations. Uncover ways to foster trust and intimacy in marriage, enhancing emotional connections. Embrace vulnerability and shared truths to strengthen family bonds across generations.

Oct 6, 2025 • 27min
Narcissists, Responsibility, and Big Emotions
In this engaging discussion, the hosts delve into the challenges of dealing with narcissism in relationships, emphasizing that trying to change a partner is often futile. They introduce the KYLO 5 framework to help maintain connection while setting healthy boundaries. The conversation shifts to parenting, highlighting the importance of teaching responsibility in children and validating their emotions. Listeners gain insights into how to handle big emotions and encourage self-control, all while fostering a supportive home environment.

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Sep 22, 2025 • 21min
Humility, Anger, and Parenting Through Disconnection
Dive into the dynamics of humility in marriage, where it serves as a superpower to de-escalate conflict and rebuild trust. Discover how immediacy in addressing disconnection can prevent emotional fires from spreading. Explore practical strategies for managing anger and recognizing the hurt that underlies it. Learn the evolving roles of parents as they transition from leaders to coaches with their teens and adult children, emphasizing empowerment and trust over control. Transformative truths and relatable stories make this discussion essential for navigating relationships.

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Sep 8, 2025 • 27min
Hosting God at Home and Healing in Marriage
Discover how to invite God into your home through creativity and playfulness, enriching your family's spiritual growth. The conversation dives into cultivating healthy communication and boundaries in relationships, promoting love over fear. Learn to navigate deeper issues with respect and understanding, and respond to triggers with humility. The Kylo Five model offers practical tools for intentional interactions. Embrace a dynamic approach to faith that thrives in everyday moments, transforming ordinary life into a powerful spiritual journey.

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Aug 25, 2025 • 24min
The Five Words That Heal Disconnection
Dive into a heartfelt conversation about healing disconnection in relationships. Discover five key words that can transform communication and foster connection. Explore the importance of personal accountability and vulnerability in mending rifts. The discussion shifts to understanding God as a nurturing figure, reshaping narratives of earning love. Personal stories reveal the profound impact of father-daughter connections in spiritual growth. Packed with insights and practical tools, this dialogue offers a path to deeper connections with God and loved ones.

Aug 11, 2025 • 21min
How Are You Experiencing Me?
In this special live episode from Springfield, Oregon, Danny and Brittney take audience questions that range from pursuing ministry after a life-changing injury to creating a culture of connection and growth in your home. From practical parenting tips to the power of asking, “How are you experiencing me?”, this episode is full of wisdom, humor, and heartfelt encouragement. Whether you’re building a new path forward or just trying to maintain peace in your household, this episode offers the tools and truth you need to stay connected and keep growing.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to transition into a ministry career while supporting your family.
Why courage is a key part of developing confidence and calling.
The importance of unity with your spouse when stepping into ministry.
What it means to stay hungry for growth and embrace discomfort.
Simple, powerful ways to protect connection in marriage and parenting.
Key Takeaways:
Commitment precedes courage, and courage builds the confidence needed to follow your calling.
Ministry is a team effort—your spouse needs to be fully on board to walk in unity and power.
Growth requires discomfort. Staying in the process brings clarity, fruit, and family breakthrough.
“How are you experiencing me?” is one of the most transformative questions you can ask in any relationship.
In a culture of connection, disconnection is treated like a four-alarm fire—nothing else matters until it’s resolved.
Join the Conversation:What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 28, 2025 • 15min
Family Revival, Foster Parenting and the Fear of the Lord
In the final episode recorded live at Jesus Pursuit Church in Albany, Danny and Brittney tackle two powerful questions. First, they speak directly to foster parents navigating the challenges of building family culture when children come from difficult backgrounds. Then, they offer deep insight into the biblical meaning of “the fear of the Lord,” clarifying how it differs from the fear of punishment. This episode is full of wisdom, practical parenting tools, and spiritual clarity for anyone walking through uncertainty or leadership in their home.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to create a healthy home culture as a foster or first-time parent.
Practical tools for building trust, structure, and stability with a child in transition.
The difference between punishment-based parenting and love-based leadership.
What the fear of the Lord truly means—and how it leads to wisdom.
Why heaven’s justice is always about reconciliation, not punishment.
Key Takeaways:
Lead on purpose: Whether you're parenting biological or foster children, the culture of your home should be built intentionally, not accidentally.
Aim small, miss small: Start with attainable goals and celebrate every win—especially when parenting in difficult circumstances.
Punishment isn’t power: True power in parenting and leadership comes from consistent love, not control.
Fear of the Lord = fear of disconnection: It’s not about punishment; it’s about protecting your relationship with God.
God’s justice reconciles: Unlike the world’s justice that demands retribution, heaven’s justice leads to repentance, reconciliation, and restoration.
Join the Conversation:
Are you a foster parent or navigating a new season of parenting? Have you wrestled with the meaning of “fear of the Lord”? We’d love to hear your reflections—join the conversation at www.thekyloshow.com.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jul 14, 2025 • 18min
How to Handle Controlling People and Mom Guilt with Confidence
In this live Q&A from the Albany tour stop, Danny and Brittney answer two deeply relatable questions: how to engage with controlling family members and how to overcome the crushing weight of mom guilt. With humor, honesty, and wisdom, they share practical tools for setting healthy boundaries, taking ownership of your emotions, and remembering your identity in Christ—especially in the high-stakes relationships of family. Whether you’re navigating toxic dynamics or second-guessing your parenting, this episode will leave you grounded, encouraged, and empowered.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why no one can control you without your permission.
How to communicate from a place of self-control and clarity.
What makes a powerful person and how to become one.
The difference between toxic shame and healthy conviction.
Why you were chosen to be your child’s parent—flaws and all.
Key Takeaways:
You are a powerful person: You have the God-given ability to control yourself and choose how you respond in every situation.
Control is an illusion: Others may use fear or manipulation, but you still get to choose how you show up.
Mom guilt is not from God: You were chosen to parent your children, and He equips you for every season—even the messy ones.
Healthy shame builds connection: When handled well, correction and conviction strengthen relationships and model growth.
Lead with love and truth: In parenting and family dynamics, your confidence, honesty, and humility create a culture of safety and growth.
Join the Conversation:
Are you learning to say “no” in a relationship where control once ruled? Or finding freedom from mom guilt in your parenting journey? We’d love to hear your story—join the conversation at www.thekyloshow.com.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 30, 2025 • 21min
Navigating Loss, Inheritance, and Joy in Difficult Seasons
Danny and Brittney tackle some of the most vulnerable and meaningful questions yet—from handling painful family inheritance situations to leading a business with integrity and learning to hold on to joy in the midst of grief. This episode offers wisdom, encouragement, and practical tools for staying powerful and connected during life’s hardest seasons. If you’re in a challenging time or walking alongside someone who is, this one will speak straight to your heart.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to respond with maturity and integrity during family inheritance conflicts.
Why staying a “good son” or “good sibling” matters more than what you receive.
How to lead a godly business that reflects Christ in culture, excellence, and kindness.
What it looks like to grieve powerfully and ask for help without losing yourself.
How to access joy and hope even when life feels overwhelming and dark.
Key Takeaways:
You control your response, not the outcome: When it comes to inheritance or injustice, you can choose honor, integrity, and connection regardless of others’ decisions.
Let your character lead your business: A godly business isn’t just about Christian language—it’s marked by the fruit of the Spirit and excellence in every interaction.
Ask for help when you're grieving: Owning your need is a powerful step toward healing. You don't have to grieve alone.
Joy is cultivated, not circumstantial: Don’t wait for life to go your way to choose joy. Build habits of gratitude and obedience that reconnect you to God’s presence.
Stay connected even when it’s hard: Grief and hardship can make you want to isolate—but choosing connection, even imperfectly, is part of staying powerful.
Join the Conversation:
Have you been in a season where joy felt far away? What helped you return to hope and connection? Share your story with us at www.thekyloshow.com—we’d love to hear from you.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Jun 16, 2025 • 25min
Confidence, Compatibility, and Choosing the Right Relationship
In this candid Q&A from the Bethesda tour stop, Danny and Brittney respond to questions on dating, identity, and how to build relationships that are both healthy and lasting. From practical wisdom on staying true to yourself in dating to the importance of aligning your life mission with your partner’s, this episode unpacks how to keep your love on from the very start. Whether you’re single, dating, or mentoring someone who is, you’ll gain insight on what it means to pursue connection with clarity, confidence, and community.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why self-awareness and confidence are critical before entering a relationship.
How to discern if you're adjusting yourself to be what someone else wants.
The importance of building relationships within the safety of community.
Why shared life vision and mission matter more than chemistry alone.
How early alignment can lead to long-term unity and growth.
Key Takeaways:
Don’t change your ticket: Choose relationships where your life mission and calling are already aligned—you’re heading the same direction.
Be confident in who you are: Healthy relationships start when both people know, like, and are developing who they are in Christ.
Stay in community: Surround yourself with trusted people who can speak into your relationships and help you stay grounded.
Chemistry fades—clarity lasts: Compatibility rooted in purpose and values is more sustainable than just emotional or physical connection.
Join the Conversation:
Have you ever changed your “ticket” to make a relationship work? What’s one area of your identity that you’re learning to love and protect? We’d love to hear from you—join us at www.thekyloshow.com and keep the conversation going.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.