

The KYLO Show
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Welcome to The KYLO Show, a weekly podcast hosted by Danny Silk and Brittney Serpell. Join us as we answer your questions and share practical tools for building and protecting healthy relationships. This podcast is your guide for how to Keep Your Love On no matter what and pass on legacy to the next generation. Tune in to discover how whole healthy families are going to save the world!
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Dec 1, 2025 • 27min
How to Build a Culture That Heals
Danny and Brittney explore the crisis facing churches today, diving into the perils of king-style leadership that isolates pastors. They discuss the importance of healthy accountability and the dangers of punitive responses in relationships. Insights on offering correction in marriages reveal the need for self-awareness and valuing differences. The hosts differentiate between healthy and toxic shame, emphasizing that true repentance means more than just saying sorry. They provide practical steps to foster truth, trust, and community for healing and restoration.
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Nov 17, 2025 • 25min
Navigating Disconnection in Family, Church, and Leadership
Danny and Brittney Serpell tackle the tough topic of maintaining connections in relationships, even when faced with criticism. They emphasize the importance of communicating needs without demanding change and highlight that true conflict resolution should focus on connection rather than being right. Insights on accountability in church leadership reveal the dangers of unchallenged authority. They also discuss how fostering genuine connection in parenting leads to healthier relationships. Throughout, they model the power of love and personal peace.
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Nov 3, 2025 • 26min
Connection Before Correction: How to Guide Your Kids Without Losing Their Hearts
In a lively discussion, parenting experts tackle the importance of connection over correction. They reveal how to address overcorrected kids and provide insights on engaging reluctant teens. The hosts suggest practical strategies for managing sibling rivalry and fostering reconciliation among siblings. Listeners learn that when kids say 'I don’t know,' it’s often a protective response, which calls for creating a safe environment. The conversation emphasizes leading with humility and repairing trust through genuine connection.
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Oct 20, 2025 • 29min
Launching Kids with Love and Restoring Trust in Family
Explore the nuances of transitioning from parent to consultant as kids grow up. Discover how to maintain connection rather than control as relationships evolve. Gain insights on the supportive role of grandparents, emphasizing indulgence over authority. Learn practical steps for repairing damaged relationships through humility and honest conversations. Uncover ways to foster trust and intimacy in marriage, enhancing emotional connections. Embrace vulnerability and shared truths to strengthen family bonds across generations.
Oct 6, 2025 • 27min
Narcissists, Responsibility, and Big Emotions
In this engaging discussion, the hosts delve into the challenges of dealing with narcissism in relationships, emphasizing that trying to change a partner is often futile. They introduce the KYLO 5 framework to help maintain connection while setting healthy boundaries. The conversation shifts to parenting, highlighting the importance of teaching responsibility in children and validating their emotions. Listeners gain insights into how to handle big emotions and encourage self-control, all while fostering a supportive home environment.
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Sep 22, 2025 • 21min
Humility, Anger, and Parenting Through Disconnection
Dive into the dynamics of humility in marriage, where it serves as a superpower to de-escalate conflict and rebuild trust. Discover how immediacy in addressing disconnection can prevent emotional fires from spreading. Explore practical strategies for managing anger and recognizing the hurt that underlies it. Learn the evolving roles of parents as they transition from leaders to coaches with their teens and adult children, emphasizing empowerment and trust over control. Transformative truths and relatable stories make this discussion essential for navigating relationships.
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Sep 8, 2025 • 27min
Hosting God at Home and Healing in Marriage
Discover how to invite God into your home through creativity and playfulness, enriching your family's spiritual growth. The conversation dives into cultivating healthy communication and boundaries in relationships, promoting love over fear. Learn to navigate deeper issues with respect and understanding, and respond to triggers with humility. The Kylo Five model offers practical tools for intentional interactions. Embrace a dynamic approach to faith that thrives in everyday moments, transforming ordinary life into a powerful spiritual journey.
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Aug 25, 2025 • 24min
The Five Words That Heal Disconnection
Dive into a heartfelt conversation about healing disconnection in relationships. Discover five key words that can transform communication and foster connection. Explore the importance of personal accountability and vulnerability in mending rifts. The discussion shifts to understanding God as a nurturing figure, reshaping narratives of earning love. Personal stories reveal the profound impact of father-daughter connections in spiritual growth. Packed with insights and practical tools, this dialogue offers a path to deeper connections with God and loved ones.
Aug 11, 2025 • 21min
How Are You Experiencing Me?
In this special live episode from Springfield, Oregon, Danny and Brittney take audience questions that range from pursuing ministry after a life-changing injury to creating a culture of connection and growth in your home. From practical parenting tips to the power of asking, “How are you experiencing me?”, this episode is full of wisdom, humor, and heartfelt encouragement. Whether you’re building a new path forward or just trying to maintain peace in your household, this episode offers the tools and truth you need to stay connected and keep growing.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to transition into a ministry career while supporting your family.
Why courage is a key part of developing confidence and calling.
The importance of unity with your spouse when stepping into ministry.
What it means to stay hungry for growth and embrace discomfort.
Simple, powerful ways to protect connection in marriage and parenting.
Key Takeaways:
Commitment precedes courage, and courage builds the confidence needed to follow your calling.
Ministry is a team effort—your spouse needs to be fully on board to walk in unity and power.
Growth requires discomfort. Staying in the process brings clarity, fruit, and family breakthrough.
“How are you experiencing me?” is one of the most transformative questions you can ask in any relationship.
In a culture of connection, disconnection is treated like a four-alarm fire—nothing else matters until it’s resolved.
Join the Conversation:What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Jul 28, 2025 • 15min
Family Revival, Foster Parenting and the Fear of the Lord
In the final episode recorded live at Jesus Pursuit Church in Albany, Danny and Brittney tackle two powerful questions. First, they speak directly to foster parents navigating the challenges of building family culture when children come from difficult backgrounds. Then, they offer deep insight into the biblical meaning of “the fear of the Lord,” clarifying how it differs from the fear of punishment. This episode is full of wisdom, practical parenting tools, and spiritual clarity for anyone walking through uncertainty or leadership in their home.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to create a healthy home culture as a foster or first-time parent.
Practical tools for building trust, structure, and stability with a child in transition.
The difference between punishment-based parenting and love-based leadership.
What the fear of the Lord truly means—and how it leads to wisdom.
Why heaven’s justice is always about reconciliation, not punishment.
Key Takeaways:
Lead on purpose: Whether you're parenting biological or foster children, the culture of your home should be built intentionally, not accidentally.
Aim small, miss small: Start with attainable goals and celebrate every win—especially when parenting in difficult circumstances.
Punishment isn’t power: True power in parenting and leadership comes from consistent love, not control.
Fear of the Lord = fear of disconnection: It’s not about punishment; it’s about protecting your relationship with God.
God’s justice reconciles: Unlike the world’s justice that demands retribution, heaven’s justice leads to repentance, reconciliation, and restoration.
Join the Conversation:
Are you a foster parent or navigating a new season of parenting? Have you wrestled with the meaning of “fear of the Lord”? We’d love to hear your reflections—join the conversation at www.thekyloshow.com.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.


