Navigating Disconnection in Family, Church, and Leadership
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Nov 17, 2025
Danny and Brittney Serpell tackle the tough topic of maintaining connections in relationships, even when faced with criticism. They emphasize the importance of communicating needs without demanding change and highlight that true conflict resolution should focus on connection rather than being right. Insights on accountability in church leadership reveal the dangers of unchallenged authority. They also discuss how fostering genuine connection in parenting leads to healthier relationships. Throughout, they model the power of love and personal peace.
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Ask For How You Want To Feel
Tell people what you need to feel, not what they must do next time.
Keep your love on, stay friendly, and protect your own peace while you repeat this.
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You Control Your Response
You do not get to turn your love off because someone refuses to change.
You control your response, not their behavior, and must protect the best part of yourself.
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Tell Your Parent How You Feel
Name your experience and invite connection by saying how you feel rather than accusing.
If your father won't receive it, love him well but limit time around him to protect your enjoyment.
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In this heartfelt and unfiltered episode from their stop in North Tonawanda, Danny and Brittney Serpell dive deep into some of the hardest relational dynamics—what to do when connection seems impossible. From family members who resist correction to church leaders who reject feedback, this episode explores how to keep your love on when everything in you wants to shut down.
Through honest audience questions and raw discussion, Danny and Brittney model what it means to stay powerful, protect your peace, and lead with love in your family, church, and community.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to communicate needs without demanding behavior change
Why your goal in conflict must be connection—not being right
What to do when your parent (or child) values control over relationship
How to maintain boundaries without turning your love off
Why accountability in leadership is essential for a healthy church
The difference between harmony and true connection in marriage and parenting
Key Takeaways:
Love doesn’t require agreement—it requires ownership. You can tell someone what you need without trying to control them.
Correction that flows through connection brings change—anything else feels like punishment.
When someone chooses being “right” over being in relationship, you still get to choose love and protect your peace.
Healthy leadership starts with accountability. If no one can give you feedback, you're not leading—you're ruling.
Raising whole and healthy kids is about consistent love, not perfection. Connection, not control, is your greatest legacy.
Join the Conversation: Have you struggled to stay connected to a parent, child, or leader who resists feedback? Tell us your story—your vulnerability can inspire healing in others.
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