

The KYLO Show
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Welcome to The KYLO Show, a weekly podcast hosted by Danny Silk and Brittney Serpell. Join us as we answer your questions and share practical tools for building and protecting healthy relationships. This podcast is your guide for how to Keep Your Love On no matter what and pass on legacy to the next generation. Tune in to discover how whole healthy families are going to save the world!
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Aug 11, 2025 • 21min
How Are You Experiencing Me?
In this special live episode from Springfield, Oregon, Danny and Brittney take audience questions that range from pursuing ministry after a life-changing injury to creating a culture of connection and growth in your home. From practical parenting tips to the power of asking, “How are you experiencing me?”, this episode is full of wisdom, humor, and heartfelt encouragement. Whether you’re building a new path forward or just trying to maintain peace in your household, this episode offers the tools and truth you need to stay connected and keep growing.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to transition into a ministry career while supporting your family.
Why courage is a key part of developing confidence and calling.
The importance of unity with your spouse when stepping into ministry.
What it means to stay hungry for growth and embrace discomfort.
Simple, powerful ways to protect connection in marriage and parenting.
Key Takeaways:
Commitment precedes courage, and courage builds the confidence needed to follow your calling.
Ministry is a team effort—your spouse needs to be fully on board to walk in unity and power.
Growth requires discomfort. Staying in the process brings clarity, fruit, and family breakthrough.
“How are you experiencing me?” is one of the most transformative questions you can ask in any relationship.
In a culture of connection, disconnection is treated like a four-alarm fire—nothing else matters until it’s resolved.
Join the Conversation:What stood out to you in this episode? Share your insights on social media, leave a review, or send us a message—we love hearing from you!
Stay Connected:Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Jul 28, 2025 • 15min
Family Revival, Foster Parenting and the Fear of the Lord
In the final episode recorded live at Jesus Pursuit Church in Albany, Danny and Brittney tackle two powerful questions. First, they speak directly to foster parents navigating the challenges of building family culture when children come from difficult backgrounds. Then, they offer deep insight into the biblical meaning of “the fear of the Lord,” clarifying how it differs from the fear of punishment. This episode is full of wisdom, practical parenting tools, and spiritual clarity for anyone walking through uncertainty or leadership in their home.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to create a healthy home culture as a foster or first-time parent.
Practical tools for building trust, structure, and stability with a child in transition.
The difference between punishment-based parenting and love-based leadership.
What the fear of the Lord truly means—and how it leads to wisdom.
Why heaven’s justice is always about reconciliation, not punishment.
Key Takeaways:
Lead on purpose: Whether you're parenting biological or foster children, the culture of your home should be built intentionally, not accidentally.
Aim small, miss small: Start with attainable goals and celebrate every win—especially when parenting in difficult circumstances.
Punishment isn’t power: True power in parenting and leadership comes from consistent love, not control.
Fear of the Lord = fear of disconnection: It’s not about punishment; it’s about protecting your relationship with God.
God’s justice reconciles: Unlike the world’s justice that demands retribution, heaven’s justice leads to repentance, reconciliation, and restoration.
Join the Conversation:
Are you a foster parent or navigating a new season of parenting? Have you wrestled with the meaning of “fear of the Lord”? We’d love to hear your reflections—join the conversation at www.thekyloshow.com.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
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Jul 14, 2025 • 18min
How to Handle Controlling People and Mom Guilt with Confidence
Dive into relatable themes like navigating controlling family dynamics and overcoming mom guilt. Discover the power of self-control and the illusions of manipulation. Learn practical tools for setting boundaries and reclaiming your personal power in relationships. Understand the difference between healthy conviction and toxic shame that undermines your worth. This convo encourages you to embrace your role as a parent, flaws and all, while leading with love and truth. Get grounded and empowered!
Jun 30, 2025 • 21min
Navigating Loss, Inheritance, and Joy in Difficult Seasons
Danny and Brittney tackle some of the most vulnerable and meaningful questions yet—from handling painful family inheritance situations to leading a business with integrity and learning to hold on to joy in the midst of grief. This episode offers wisdom, encouragement, and practical tools for staying powerful and connected during life’s hardest seasons. If you’re in a challenging time or walking alongside someone who is, this one will speak straight to your heart.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to respond with maturity and integrity during family inheritance conflicts.
Why staying a “good son” or “good sibling” matters more than what you receive.
How to lead a godly business that reflects Christ in culture, excellence, and kindness.
What it looks like to grieve powerfully and ask for help without losing yourself.
How to access joy and hope even when life feels overwhelming and dark.
Key Takeaways:
You control your response, not the outcome: When it comes to inheritance or injustice, you can choose honor, integrity, and connection regardless of others’ decisions.
Let your character lead your business: A godly business isn’t just about Christian language—it’s marked by the fruit of the Spirit and excellence in every interaction.
Ask for help when you're grieving: Owning your need is a powerful step toward healing. You don't have to grieve alone.
Joy is cultivated, not circumstantial: Don’t wait for life to go your way to choose joy. Build habits of gratitude and obedience that reconnect you to God’s presence.
Stay connected even when it’s hard: Grief and hardship can make you want to isolate—but choosing connection, even imperfectly, is part of staying powerful.
Join the Conversation:
Have you been in a season where joy felt far away? What helped you return to hope and connection? Share your story with us at www.thekyloshow.com—we’d love to hear from you.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Jun 16, 2025 • 25min
Confidence, Compatibility, and Choosing the Right Relationship
In this candid Q&A from the Bethesda tour stop, Danny and Brittney respond to questions on dating, identity, and how to build relationships that are both healthy and lasting. From practical wisdom on staying true to yourself in dating to the importance of aligning your life mission with your partner’s, this episode unpacks how to keep your love on from the very start. Whether you’re single, dating, or mentoring someone who is, you’ll gain insight on what it means to pursue connection with clarity, confidence, and community.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why self-awareness and confidence are critical before entering a relationship.
How to discern if you're adjusting yourself to be what someone else wants.
The importance of building relationships within the safety of community.
Why shared life vision and mission matter more than chemistry alone.
How early alignment can lead to long-term unity and growth.
Key Takeaways:
Don’t change your ticket: Choose relationships where your life mission and calling are already aligned—you’re heading the same direction.
Be confident in who you are: Healthy relationships start when both people know, like, and are developing who they are in Christ.
Stay in community: Surround yourself with trusted people who can speak into your relationships and help you stay grounded.
Chemistry fades—clarity lasts: Compatibility rooted in purpose and values is more sustainable than just emotional or physical connection.
Join the Conversation:
Have you ever changed your “ticket” to make a relationship work? What’s one area of your identity that you’re learning to love and protect? We’d love to hear from you—join us at www.thekyloshow.com and keep the conversation going.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Jun 2, 2025 • 23min
Learning to Listen, Love, and Lead in Relationship
Dive into the world of relationships as the hosts tackle real-life questions about conflict and connection. They reveal how listening can transform emotional climates and how hurt often hides beneath anger. Discover the importance of curiosity in healthy communication and why self-awareness is key to thriving partnerships. With practical advice for newlyweds, they explore the journey of embracing differences to foster joy. Expect raw stories that challenge you to protect connection and embrace growth in all relationships.
May 19, 2025 • 27min
Navigating Family Dynamics with Courage and Clarity
This week on The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney take us to Vancouver, Washington, where they respond to powerful audience questions about family disconnection, political disagreements, and parenting through transition. Whether it's a daughter using "boundaries" to cut off relationship, a seventeen-year-old disrupting family game night, or a holiday skipped because of political differences, the heart of this episode is about restoring connection without compromising your values. With wisdom, laughter, and plenty of real talk, Danny and Brittney offer practical tools for loving your people without losing yourself.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
The difference between boundaries and punishment in relationships.
How fear drives disconnection—and how love casts it out.
Why adult children sometimes distance themselves and how to rebuild trust.
What to do when siblings in the same home become strangers.
How to build a culture of respect in your home through shared family values.
Key Takeaways:
Boundaries keep the door open for reconciliation. Punishment shuts it.
When a child disconnects, start by asking: “Do I have a mess to clean up?”
Family time is a culture you create, not an obligation you force.
Your job isn’t to control your adult kids—it’s to become a trusted friend.
Clarifying your family values (like a “Family Creed”) helps everyone know what’s expected and what matters most.
Join the Conversation:
Have you ever been on the receiving end of a "boundary" that felt more like rejection? Or maybe you're a parent learning to navigate new dynamics with adult children. We'd love to hear from you—join us at www.thekyloshow.com and tell us how you're learning to keep your love on.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
May 5, 2025 • 22min
Building Boundaries and Belonging
Whether you’re single, parenting adult children, or recovering from relational pain, this episode is packed with wisdom for staying powerful in the face of disconnection. Recorded live at Eden Church in Newcastle, Washington, Danny and Brittney answer real audience questions about singleness, narcissism, motherhood, boundaries, and healing from toxic relationships. They share stories, scriptures, and practical tools for cultivating healthy identity, confronting manipulation with courage, and protecting connection without enabling dysfunction. This is a must-listen for anyone who wants to build strong relationships without losing themselves.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
Why the KYLO 5 is essential—especially when you’re single.
How to create joy-filled, life-giving relationships that align with your purpose.
What real boundaries look like when dealing with manipulative or toxic adult children.
How to differentiate between your role and God's role in your child's life.
Why Jesus is the ultimate model of healthy boundaries.
Key Takeaways:
Singleness isn’t waiting—it's preparation: Cultivating self-love, healthy community, and clear boundaries now sets the stage for healthy connection later.
Love isn’t enabling: Setting boundaries with someone you love—even your child—isn’t cruelty, it’s wisdom.
You are not your child’s savior: Your job is to love them, not rescue them. Trust Jesus to be who only He can be.
Boundaries aren’t rejection: They’re protection—for you, and for the relationship.
Jesus had perfect boundaries: He never violated another person’s will, even in crisis. He honored self-control and invited ownership.
Join the Conversation:
Have you had to set a hard boundary with someone you love? How did you stay connected without being controlled? We’d love to hear your story. Connect with us online or submit a question at www.thekyloshow.com.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Apr 21, 2025 • 18min
When Feedback Fails: How to Stay Powerful with Defensive People
What do you do when your feedback is met with stonewalling, shutdowns, or accusations? In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney return with more live Q&A from their tour stop in Newcastle, Washington, tackling tough questions about feedback, conflict, narcissism, and relational disconnect. Through personal stories and real-life coaching moments, they offer wisdom for navigating relationships where feedback feels impossible and disconnection seems inevitable. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a one-sided relationship or struggled to confront dysfunction in love, this episode will equip you to stay powerful, connected, and courageous.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
What to do when someone resists or shuts down your feedback.
How to stay calm, clear, and connected when emotions run high.
Why asking “What did you hear me say?” is a game-changer for clarity.
The difference between repentance and self-justification in broken trust.
How to approach accusations of narcissism in a culture that overuses the term.
Key Takeaways:
Don’t confuse judgment for feedback: True feedback is sharing your experience, not labeling or controlling the other person.
Safe connection takes time: If someone has never experienced feedback as love, they may need consistent safety before they engage.
Stay powerful, even when others aren’t: You get to choose self-control, honor, and clarity, regardless of how the other person responds.
Build trust with repetition: Healing relational dynamics takes practice, courage, and time—not a one-time conversation.
Repentance isn’t promises—it’s change: When trust is broken, words don’t restore it—consistent changed behavior does.
Join the Conversation:
Have you ever struggled to give feedback to someone who wouldn’t receive it? What helped you stay connected and powerful? Let us know by leaving a review or connecting on socials.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell
Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.
Apr 7, 2025 • 25min
Live from New Castle: How to Stay Connected Even When Emotions Run High
When fear, anger, and disconnection enter a relationship, it’s easy to slip into control, self-protection, or power struggles. In this episode of The KYLO Show, Danny and Brittney answer live audience questions from the KYLO Show Tour and talk about the battle to stay connected even when emotions run high. They share personal stories about rebuilding trust in marriage, navigating conflict with respect, and overcoming deception in relationships. If you want to create a culture of love, accountability, and healthy communication, this episode is packed with practical wisdom and encouragement.
What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
How to stay courageous when building trust in a wounded relationship.
Why connection—not control—should be your goal in conflict.
Practical ways to manage fear and anger without damaging connection.
How to recognize and respond to deception without breaking relationship.
Why feedback, accountability, and a listening posture protect healthy connection.
Key Takeaways:
Connection heals fear: Staying connected in the middle of conflict is more powerful than rushing to fix or control the situation.
Courage builds trust: Committing to connection, even when you feel hurt or scared, transforms relationships over time.
Self-awareness is key: Recognizing your own fear, anger, or self-justification is critical to building safe, lasting connection.
Feedback protects growth: Inviting honest feedback and staying accountable to others helps you stay out of deception and isolation.
Join the Conversation:
Where have you experienced the power of connection in the middle of conflict? We’d love to hear your story! Share with us on social media, leave a review, or send us a message.
Stay Connected:
Website: www.LovingonPurpose.comInstagram: @dannylovingonpurposeInstagram: @brittneyserpell Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.


