The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

Something so simple but so hard for high-achieving women to accept is that we were taught male-centered love, male-centered relating, and male-centered sex. The truth that I denied for months after reading the original research is that marriage benefits him more than it benefits you. He lives longer, he is healthier, he receives emotional stability, caretaking, and the invisible workload, while your life expectancy is shortened, and you slowly find yourself erased in the roles of mother and wife. This is called the marriage benefit imbalance. Our super traits of empathy, loyalty, and responsibility make us successful, but in love, they keep us stuck. They keep us loyal when we should have left, forgiving when nothing changes, and working harder when we should be doing less. Over time, this imbalance leaves us exhausted, disconnected, and blaming ourselves. It is not your hormones, it is not that you are asking too much, it is not that you just cannot be happy. We have been surviving in a system that was never designed to fuel us. Our brilliance is undeniable, but without a new framework, our relationships will continue to drain us rather than nourish us. This is why I created the pleasure-centered method. It is a reeducation in sex, love, feeling, and living. It rewires us from survival and overgiving into intimacy and erotic connection. If you are ready to reclaim your clarity, your power, and your ability to be fully met. Join me for the eight-week live group coaching intensive and learn to put pleasure back into all areas of your life. Take the Super Trait Quiz HERE    You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]  

I have been hearing from so many women lately. They are separating, considering separation, rebuilding after infidelity, or trying to date again as superwomen with super traits. No matter where they are, they cannot keep going the same way they have been. There is an element of doneness. Super traits like empathy, loyalty, hard work, and forgiveness are the qualities that make us successful. They are also survival skills. Without this lens, we can spend years and thousands of dollars repeating the same loops. With it, the truth becomes clear. Loyalty is one of the most common super traits. It makes you dependable and trustworthy, the woman who stays through thick and thin. But when loyalty is not reciprocated, it becomes a leash. It keeps you tied to relationships that are already costing you your peace, your health, and your intimacy. Loyalty without reciprocity is not love. It is self-abandonment. You do not need another hormone panel or more therapy sessions. You need a relational map that shows what is really happening.   Take the Super Trait Quiz HERE  and join me live for the Super Trait Masterclass on October 2 at 1 pm Eastern or grab the REPLAY.   You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   LISTEN TO EPISODE #194 SUPERTRAITS HERE   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]  

JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass,  October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE   Women with super traits are praised for their loyalty, empathy, and hard work. These traits make you successful in your career, but they leave you exhausted, resentful, and sexless in your relationships. You give more, you bend over backwards, and you still do not feel met. I am sharing the habits of the most well-loved and well fucked women I know. These women feel their emotions instead of pushing them down. They are their own best lovers. They understand how their super traits show up in intimacy. They choose pleasure over extraction. And they surround themselves with community, so they never carry everything alone. When you embody these habits, you stop performing sex and start receiving pleasure. You stop tolerating crumbs and start feeling connected, magnetic, and desired. Take the free Super Trait Quiz in the show notes to see which trait is keeping you stuck. Register for the FREE LIVE Super Trait Masterclass on October 2nd at 1 PM Eastern to understand why successful women struggle in sex and love and how to become well-loved and well fucked. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]  

JOIN US FOR THE FREE Super Trait Masterclass,  October 2nd at 1pm ET/10am PT. The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy HERE High-achieving women are praised for their empathy, loyalty, and hard work, but these same super traits often become survival strategies that leave them exhausted, lonely, and stuck in relationships. The very qualities that help women succeed in their careers, families, and communities are the ones that quietly drain their desire, connection, and pleasure. For nearly two decades, I have worked with women in every stage of rebuilding after infidelity, illness, divorce, or the collapse of a business. No matter the circumstance, the pattern is the same. Women with super traits give more than they get. They overfunction, carry the invisible workload, excuse harmful behavior, and think 20 steps ahead for everyone else. Over time, this imbalance destroys intimacy, leaves them unfulfilled, and convinces them that they are the problem when the real issue is their conditioning. Super traits are not flaws. They are amplified strengths that become over-functioning survival strategies. Without understanding them, women waste years blaming hormones, childhood, or communication styles while repeating the same painful patterns. Take the free Super Trait Quiz through the link in the show notes to discover the number one high-achieving quality that helped you succeed but now blocks your ability to receive rest and love. Join me live on October 2 for the Super Traits Masterclass, JOIN HERE, where you will learn why effort and patience have not brought the intimacy you crave and the first step to creating a relationship that feels mutual, alive, and sustainable. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Join us by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]  

Join the FREE Super Trait Masterclass October 2nd, 2025 @ 1pmET/10amPT The Truth About Why Successful Women Struggle In Intimacy. JOIN FOR FREE HERE   I am feeling direct today, and it could be the eight cortados I had while writing content. There are a few things that are always true after working with thousands of women with super traits. If he cannot handle your tone, he is never going to be able to handle the full force of your desire, your orgasm, and your passion. Tone policing is not about communication; it is about control. When your needs and frustrations get dismissed because of how you said them instead of what you actually said. Your nervous system learns it is not safe to be fully expressed. That same shutdown shows up in the bedroom and is the reason so many women with super traits feel exhausted, resentful, and sexless in their marriages. Tone policing keeps women performing instead of receiving, and it robs intimacy and desire. Therapy and communication tips often fail for women with super traits because they miss the real issue. Power dynamics, not hormones, not stress, and not communication formulas are the barrier to real intimacy. If you are wondering why you can orgasm alone but not with your partner, why you feel shut down, or why your marriage feels sexless, this will give you the language and clarity you need. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE to discover your top traits and learn how they are shaping your relationships. You can also apply for my Creating Pleasure-Centred Relationships for Women with Super Traits 8 Week Intensive - Stop Fixing the Wrong Problem and Finally Create the Relationships (and Orgasms) You’ve Been Craving. Join us in by CLICKING HERE. Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 15ST, 2025   Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]  

Most high-achieving women don’t even realize they are living in an extractive relationship. You give and give in your relationship, in your career, and at home, and wonder why you feel exhausted, unseen, untouched, and unfulfilled. You blame your hormones, your libido, your partner’s attachment style, or your parents. You go to therapy, plan date nights, and try lingerie, but none of it works because the real issue isn't communication; it is extraction and power dynamics. The invisible dynamics are silently draining your health, your desire, and your power. Super traits like loyalty, empathy, forgiveness, and brilliance make you a high performer in your career, but destroy intimacy when they go unchecked. Sex becomes transactional; you carry all the emotional labor, and your body starts shutting down to conserve energy. An extractive relationship feels like survival, resentment, and going through the motions. A pleasure-centered relationship feels mutual, alive, and sustaining. The pleasure path is the reset that helps rebuild your nervous system, unlearn survival strategies, and reclaim your right to be fully met. You don’t need to leave to start healing, but you do need a new map. Claim your spot inside Relationship 2.0 and start building the pleasure-centered relationship you deserve. Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025 Summer is almost over, and I see a lot of my clients getting caught up in loops. You know that version of you that shows up on vacation. The one who laughs more easily, who says yes to sex, who feels lighter and more present in her body. Or maybe, like me, you have lived years experiencing a vacation from a bird’s-eye view, outside of your body, because of how burnt out you were. That woman isn’t fake. That’s you. But on vacation, you are not free to show up day to day either. Vacation sex is a lot like affair sex. All of the dopamine, none of the responsibility. If your relationship feels like a job and you only feel sparks or connection when you are away from your real life and responsibilities, this conversation is for you. You might be wondering why you only feel desire on vacation, why you crave sex when you are stress-free, but shut down as soon as you are home. Desire is not gone. It is buried under responsibility, gender roles, patriarchy, and nervous system overload. Vacation sex is not proof that your relationship is fine. It is proof that your desire remains. We are looking at the patterns that keep you blaming hormones or libido when what is really happening is your body protecting you. We are talking about bread crumbing, over-functioning, and super traits like empathy and achievement that erode intimacy without you even realizing it. Your erotic power and your desire do not need an escape. They need a new map. This is the first step on the pleasure path and the reason therapy, communication tips, or sex hacks have not worked. Once you can name the invisible dynamics at play, the path back to erotic aliveness and pleasure-centered relationships becomes clear. Take the FREE Super Traits Quiz HERE EP198 Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Join us in the Pleasure Principles™ Group Program with Dr. Jordin Wiggins ND HERE  Let's start rebuilding Safety, Desire & Intimacy. BEGINS OCTOBER 1ST, 2025   I was asked recently why successful, hardworking, intuitive women stay in emotionally harmful relationships. This was me. This is many of my clients. The truth is, we have super traits. The same traits that make us incredible in our careers, the ability to handle anything, to anticipate needs, and to stay calm under pressure, can also keep us from seeing just how harmful the relationship really is. Last week alone, I had a client discover her partner’s affair. I had another navigating her partner’s drinking. And another who found out her husband had opened another business and invested a large amount of their shared money without her consent. These are not small things. They are moments that rip the blinders off and make you see the truth you have been avoiding. In this episode, we talk about how super traits work against us in love, why we tolerate what should never be tolerated, and what it takes to finally stop normalizing the unacceptable. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Most women don’t need another date night, another vacation, or better communication strategies. What they need is a radical unlearning of everything they were taught about love and intimacy. Because even the good relationships are built on extraction. Not reciprocity. Not mutuality. Not pleasure. If your relationship feels like a second job, if your body is numb, if you’ve been blaming your hormones or your libido and nothing ever really changes, this episode will hit deep. You’ve been rewarded for self-sacrifice your entire life. You are the one who holds it all. The one who fixes. The one who over-functions while feeling like your needs are too much. That’s not connection. That’s performance. That’s survival. And it’s killing your desire. This is where we name what’s really going on. The invisible emotional labor. The power imbalances are hiding in plain sight. The way women with super traits are conditioned to have their power extracted and their pleasure pathologized. So what does a pleasure-centered relationship actually looks like? A relationship where mutual joy, emotional safety, and erotic connection are prioritized. Not logistics. Not roles. Not appearances. A relationship where your nervous system can soften, your needs are valid, and your body is safe to receive. If you’re ready to stop performing pleasure and start feeling it, take the Pleasure Path Assessment [TAKE IT BY CLICKING HERE] and find out where you are. And if this resonates with you, I’ve opened two private coaching spots [APPLY HERE] this fall for women who are ready to transform everything about the way they love. You don’t need to leave your relationship. But you do need to leave the version of yourself that disappears inside it. Connect with me on Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create a deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]

Your nervous system already knows what your mind has been trained not to see. “He’s a great guy.” “He’s a good dad.” “He means well.” These are the phrases that keep brilliant, high-achieving women stuck in sexless, disconnected, emotionally manipulative relationships. I’m naming the pattern you’ve been taught not to see… the good guy gaslighter. It’s the new face of power and control and it’s quietly draining your desire and destroying your self-worth. And might be the reason you are not feeling like showing up intimacy for your parter even when you know you want it. I’m breaking down DARVO tactics, tone policing, covert control, and how the very traits that make you successful, your super traits, are being used against you in intimacy. If you’re performing connection while starving for it. If you’re craving sex but feel invisible. if you’re doing all the work and still not getting your needs met. This one’s for you. Connect with Jordin Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. PRIVATE COACHING- Success, intimacy, pleasure,  you don’t have to choose. Learn how to create deeper connection and better sex without sacrificing who you are or what you’ve built. [APPLY HERE]