The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who’s doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn’t just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustion, disconnection, and power dynamics no one’s talking about. We’re not fixing a sex problem. We’re naming what’s really going on. The invisible weight. The resentment. The conditioning that tells you to be grateful for crumbs. You are not less sexual. You’re done performing. You don’t need to be fixed. You need space to feel safe, centered, and turned the fuck on. Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start June 25. [Join Here] Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]f

I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I’ve learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it’s one-sided, it becomes a power play. Another unpaid job. One more thing we have to manage. This is about more than sex. It’s about power. Emotional labor. Invisible dynamics that no one teaches us to name. The same super traits that make you successful are blocking your desire. The overfunctioning. The performance. The pressure to fix what was never yours to fix. Sexless relationships aren’t about frequency. They’re about safety. Intimacy. Capacity. Most women I work with don’t need more structure. They need less. Less to do. Less pressure. More truth. More feeling. More pleasure. Take the Pleasure Path Assessment in the show notes to uncover what’s actually blocking your arousal. Your body isn’t broken. You were just never taught how to do intimacy your way. [CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR ASSESSMENT]   Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

You say your husband’s great. Supportive. A great dad. He helps around the house. He doesn’t cheat. So why don’t you want to have sex with him? If everything looks good on paper but feels emotionally lonely, this episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible power dynamics that cause erotic shutdown, especially for high-achieving women with supertraits like empathy, loyalty, and perseverance. Here’s what you’ll walk away with: Why your libido isn’t broken, it’s protecting you How “nice guy” behaviors create disconnection The impact of decision-making imbalances on desire Why performative praise isn’t the same as true partnership How to stop explaining away your unmet needs and start getting fed You're not broken. You’re starving. And your relationship may have never made space for your full erotic self. Take the Pleasure Path Assessment to discover your erotic shutdown style and get your personalized reconnection plan. [CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR ASSESSMENT] Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

You’ve done everything right. The degrees. The success. The personal growth. But still… You feel nothing. Sex feels like another thing on your to-do list. You’re disconnected, exhausted, and quietly wondering, “What’s wrong with me”? I’m breaking down how Superwoman conditioning and invisible power dynamics kill desire. Why therapy, hormones, and even functional medicine haven’t worked. And why it’s not your fault. Because most women don’t have low libido. They have low safety. We’ll talk about how overfunctioning, medical gaslighting, and the wrong relationship scripts keep high-achieving women burnt out, resentful, and sexually shut down. And what actually works to reconnect with your body, your pleasure, and your truth. If you’re stuck in survival mode and wondering why nothing has worked, this is your invitation to finally understand why. Connect with Jordin If you’re ready to uncover the truth behind erotic shutdown and finally reconnect with your pleasure, book your LIVE Pleasure Path Assessment with Jordin. [JOIN HERE] Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]  

You’ve done the therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve tried to fix it. But if you walked away from couples therapy or sex therapy feeling like you were the problem, this conversation will hit home. I’m exposing the quiet harm that happens when traditional therapy fails to account for power dynamics, emotional labor, and the super traits of high-achieving women. Let’s break it down: Why therapy often blames the over-functioning partner while ignoring the underfunctioner How high-capacity women are mislabeled as controlling, anxious, or codependent Why therapy’s focus on saving the relationship often gaslights women into shrinking What happens when your body, your nervous system, and your libido no longer feel safe How to stop blaming yourself and start naming the real reasons for disconnection This is not about doing more. It’s about finally being seen. Because your libido is not low, your body is just done asking. Connect with Jordin -If you’re ready to uncover the truth behind erotic shutdown and finally reconnect with your pleasure, book your live Pleasure Path Assessment with Jordin. [JOIN HERE] -Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] -Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] -#157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE]

Before the pressure. Before the performance. Before checkbox sex. Pleasure used to come naturally. But somewhere along the way, it got replaced by mental gymnastics, performance-based sex, and trying to earn intimacy instead of receiving it. Jordin Wiggins pulls back the curtain on why fingering, that slow, intentional manual stimulation, is the real key to unlocking female pleasure, better sex, and lasting libido. Drawing on her work with thousands of high-achieving women, she shares: Why the traits that made you successful are the same ones killing your intimacy How performance-based sex leaves women stuck in their heads instead of their bodies Why fingering works better for female arousal than goal-oriented penetrative sex How manual stimulation reignites connection, pleasure, and multiple orgasms You deserve sex that starts with a deep exhale and ends with your legs shaking. Not more performance. Not another box to check. If you are ready to reconnect with your body, master your pleasure, and experience the intimacy you crave, join the Pleasure Principles Group Coaching program starting this June. Connect with Jordin Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] Pleasure Centered Anatomy and Finding Your G Spot (Episode 102) [LISTEN HERE] Grab my FREE The Lube Guide [HERE] Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

Is your body keeping a secret that's ruining your sex life? Discover why that lack of desire, connection, and fulfillment has nothing to do with your hormones, stress levels, or sexual techniques.  We’re sharing one of our most popular episodes from 2023 where Dr. Jordin Wiggins reveals the hidden trauma response that's blocking your pleasure—even if you don't identify as a trauma survivor—and how to finally break free from the patterns keeping you from the intimacy you deserve. In this episode, Dr. Jordin is sharing: Why 90% of sexual disconnection isn't about hormones or stress, but about your nervous system's ability to feel safe enough to experience pleasure, presence, and connection How high-functioning, successful women often carry unrecognized trauma responses that make it impossible to truly let go and connect during intimacy Techniques to regulate your nervous system, recognize your unique trauma response pattern (fight, flight, freeze, or fawn), and reclaim your capacity for deep, fulfilling intimacy If you're craving a connection that won't fade, here’s what comes next: The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching. This 12-week journey is your entry point if you: Feel exhausted by over-functioning but aren't sure what's wrong Are experiencing physical symptoms despite "doing everything right" Have a partner who loves you, but you feel miles apart Have tried hormones, therapy, or self-help without success Are ready to understand the science behind why nothing has worked In this intimate container limited to just 10 women, you'll learn the neuroscience of arousal, map your pleasure blueprint, and take imperfect action toward rekindling your desire.   Join our Group Coaching June cohort: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/offers/4JyoPVgu/checkout The Pleasure Mastery Network: This 12-month journey is for you if: You've already tried "fixing" your relationship through therapy or hormone treatments You recognize power dynamics at play in your relationship You're ready to address the root causes, not just symptoms You crave a community of women who will witness your transformation You want access to in-person retreats and deeper nervous system recalibration This isn't surface-level work. This is about reclaiming your relationship to intimacy, turn-on, and pleasure on your own terms through monthly calls, in-person retreats, and a powerful community of women walking alongside you. Listen to The Pleasure Path: https://www.thepleasurecollective.com/alpha Follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drjordinwiggins

That well-f**ked feeling. You know the one—after great sex, a delicious meal, or when the champagne bottle pops and the elevator doors slide open at a luxurious hotel. That feeling of possibility, pleasure, and playfulness. How long has it been since you've felt it? In this intimate episode, Dr. Jordin takes you behind the scenes of her recent Pleasure Mastery retreat, where high-achieving women finally put down their armor of "I'm fine" and rediscovered what it feels like to be truly seen. In this episode, Dr. Jordin is sharing: Why persistent performing of success, sex, and gratitude is costing you your health and happiness How your independence without intimacy has become isolation (and why it's killing your sex life) What happens when women come together in sacred community to witness each other's truths If you're craving a connection that won't fade, here’s what comes next: The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching: This 12-week journey is your entry point if you: Feel exhausted by over-functioning but aren't sure what's wrong Are experiencing physical symptoms despite "doing everything right" Have a partner who loves you, but you feel miles apart Have tried hormones, therapy, or self-help without success Are ready to understand the science behind why nothing has worked In this intimate container limited to just 10 women, you'll learn the neuroscience of arousal, map your pleasure blueprint, and take imperfect action toward rekindling your desire.  Click here to join our Group Coaching June cohort The Pleasure Mastery Network: This 12-month journey is for you if: You've already tried "fixing" your relationship through therapy or hormone treatments You recognize power dynamics at play in your relationship You're ready to address the root causes, not just symptoms You crave a community of women who will witness your transformation You want access to in-person retreats and deeper nervous system recalibration This isn't surface-level work. This is about reclaiming your relationship to intimacy, turn-on, and pleasure on your own terms through monthly calls, in-person retreats, and a powerful community of women walking alongside you. Click here to apply for the Pleasure Mastery Network CLICK HERE to listen to The Pleasure Path. CLICK HERE to follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram

No woman left behind! In this vulnerable and transformative conversation, Dr. Jordin opens up about the evolution happening within The Pleasure Collective as she partners with client, marketing expert, and author of Identity Marketing, Veronica Romney, to redefine how to ensure every high-achieving woman knows what they deserve and the path to receive it. ”The accolades that you are experiencing in your professional life are going to take away from your personal, intimate life.” If that line also makes you want to lean in, the way Veronica did, here’s what these two powerhouses are getting into: How Dr. Jordin is quietly leading a movement of powerful women who are "quietly shaking the world" The powerful legacy being built as women who walk The Pleasure Path begin advocating for other women How a "pleasure-centered relationship" creates ripple effects that transform not just relationships, but families and communities If you also feel like you’re succeeding in every area of your life, except your intimate relationships, here’s how to take the next step on The Pleasure Path: Listen to Dr. Jordin’s private podcast series, The Pleasure Path, where she guides you through identifying the specific blocks keeping you from experiencing deep pleasure, authentic connection, and your fullest potential. Click here to listen. Inside, you'll get instant access to real stories, practical steps, and the truth about what it really takes to break free from burnout and build a pleasure-centered relationship. Ready to transform how you communicate your value without resorting to pushy, fear-based tactics? Veronica Romney's groundbreaking book Identity Marketing offers a refreshing alternative to manipulative "buy this" marketing strategies. Learn how to speak directly to your ideal clients' core identities and create messaging that honors who they truly are. As Dr. Jordin has discovered, this approach isn't just more ethical—it's more effective, especially for high-achieving women who crave authenticity in every area of their lives. Get your copy of Identity Marketing. CLICK HERE to listen to The Pleasure Path. CLICK HERE to follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram

The moment you say, “I’m exhausted,” they say, “but men feel pressure too.” The moment you name abuse, they say, “not all men.” The moment you ask for more, they say, “you’re being too much.” This is not compassion. It’s manipulation.  In this searing episode, Dr. Jordin exposes the subtle and sinister ways women are silenced in the name of "balance"—especially in spiritual and coaching spaces that should know better. She calls out the weaponized softness, the faux neutrality, and the gaslighting dressed up as emotional intelligence. Because when women are talking about femicide, sexual trauma, and generations of unpaid labor—and someone derails that conversation to center men’s pain? That’s not a dialogue. That’s erasure. And if you’ve ever walked away from those conversations feeling like your rage made you the problem, this episode is going to feel like coming home. What we’re getting into: The real reason why “men struggle too” is a silencing tactic, not solidarity How high-achieving women are groomed to over-empathize and under-advocate What no one wants to admit about the power imbalance in your relationship This episode is a reclamation of:🩷Your voice.🩷Your anger.🩷Your pleasure.🩷Your unapologetic womanhood. No more bypassing. No more guilt. Just the raw, inconvenient truth—and the support to finally do something with it. If this hits you in the gut, trust it. Forward it to the woman who’s biting her tongue to keep the peace. Share it. And tell the truth—we're not doing silence anymore. Ever thought, “I don’t even know where to start to fix this"? I want you to listen to my private podcast series, The Pleasure Path. A raw, unfiltered series to help you uncover what’s holding you back from the intimacy, connection, and passion you crave. CLICK HERE to listen to The Pleasure Path. CLICK HERE to follow @drjordinwiggins on Instagram