The Pleasure Principles with Dr Jordin Wiggins

You’ve read the posts, tried the tips, downloaded the workshops, and still feel nothing. You can orgasm by yourself, but struggle with a partner. Or maybe you’re shut down completely and convincing yourself you’re over it. You’re not. You’ve just been stuck in survival. High-achieving women with super traits are doing sex backward. You’re performing instead of receiving. Doing instead of feeling. Googling techniques when your nervous system is too shut down to hold sensation. I’m walking you through why orgasm isn’t about skill, it’s about safety, why all the tips fall flat when your body isn’t regulated. And why do we start with nervous system work, not doing more? Not more effort. This is your invitation to stop performing and start receiving. If you’ve ever asked yourself, Is this all there is, and I don’t get to have mind-blowing orgasms, This episode is the answer. Take the Pleasure Path Assessment HERE to uncover your shutdown style, the super traits blocking your intimacy, and your next steps for reconnecting with your body and desire. Private Coaching for High-Achieving Women Who Want It All [Apply Here] #157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE] Connect with Jordin Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]  

The high-achieving women that I work with fall into two groups. Low desire and checked out because intimacy has become a performance, a task, a source of resentment. Or high desire and confused because sex is one of the only ways they feel close, but their emotional needs aren’t being met. And then they’re blamed for wanting it too much. No matter which group you're in, you're trapped. And it’s invisible unless you know what to look for. On the surface, it looks like a libido issue. But what we’re really talking about is emotional labor, power dynamics, and a nervous system that no longer feels safe. Whether it’s vacation-only sex or craving touch from someone who doesn’t meet you emotionally, your body is trying to protect you. I’ll walk you through real client examples of what this looks like and why women who have it all are still unfulfilled in intimacy. These women don’t need more communication tips. They need nervous system safety, emotional equity, and relationships where they can finally let go. If you've tried therapy, the books, the hormone panels, and you’re still wondering what’s wrong with you, this is your episode. You are not broken. You are burned out. And your body is smarter than you think. Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start on June 25. [Join Here] Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] Claim one of the final two spots in my 12-week Pleasure Principles group coaching program. Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles.[Join Here]

Superwomen, we need to talk about your pelvic floor. If you’ve ever apologized during a pelvic exam, felt broken because sex hurts, or wondered if leaking when you laugh is just part of being a mom, this conversation is for you. Pelvic floor physiotherapist Aliya Dhalla joins me to answer the questions most of us are too ashamed to ask. We talk about vulva appearance, labiaplasty, pelvic tension, postpartum trauma, and the invisible ways stress shows up in our bodies, especially in the pelvic floor. You’ll hear how porn and patriarchy have warped our ideas of what’s normal and why so many women are walking around in pain without ever being diagnosed. We go deep into: Why do women apologize for how they look, smell, or show up in the exam room What’s actually normal when it comes to vulva anatomy and hair How stress, trauma, and overthinking get stored in your pelvic floor Why painful sex is not something you should push through The connection between clenching, safety, and self pleasure Your body is not broken. You are not too much. You just haven’t been told the truth.   Grab your live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Connect with Aliya Website: https://boxwellness.co/ The Not Your Mother's Pelvic Floor Podcast   Connect with Dr. Jordin Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]    

Why you don't need to communicate better and other weaponized advice from couples therapy and Instagram influencers. These are the things keeping you stuck in your sexless marriage. If your relationship feels like a never-ending conversation with no lasting change, chances are you don't need to communicate better. You need to understand the concepts of coercive control and power dynamics. Most high-achieving women are not evil at communication. They run companies. They run households. However, in their relationships, they are over-functioning and over-communicating, yet still not getting their needs met. You do not need better scripts. You need a better framework. Join the Pleasure Principles group coaching program and get the tools that actually shift your relationship from burnout to turn on. Listen To: #157 - The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire (& How to Shift From Resentment to Deep Connection) HERE   Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start on June 25. [Join Here] Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]  

You’ve read the sexy prompts, saved the dirty talk guides, maybe even worked up the courage to send a flirty text and still nothing changes. The card games, therapy scripts, I statements, sandwich feedback, even Nonviolent Communication and it still hurts. You feel alone. It reinforces the belief that you’re the problem. But you’re not. I’m sharing the 5 questions couples having great sex are asking each other and why communication advice does not work for high-achieving women with super traits. You’ll learn: – Why high-desire women chase emotional unavailability in the bedroom – What’s really happening when low libido makes sex feel not worth having – How dysregulated nervous systems shut down pleasure, connection, and truth – The difference between fantasy and reality when it comes to intimacy advice This is part one of a two-part series on why communication will not fix your sexless marriage and what actually might. Because if you’re still not touched in the way you want to be, still feeling unseen and dismissed, the script you’ve been handed is broken. Let’s rewrite it together.   Listen to #157 - The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire [LISTEN HERE]   Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start June 25. [Join Here] Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

He wants you to initiate. You want to feel seen, supported, and safe. Every week I get a DM from a man asking how to get his wife to initiate sex again. And every time I think, are you really ready to hear the answer? MAKE SEX WORTH HAVING This one is for the woman who’s doing it all. The emotional labor. The logistics. The mental load. Desire doesn’t just disappear—it gets buried under exhaustion, disconnection, and power dynamics no one’s talking about. We’re not fixing a sex problem. We’re naming what’s really going on. The invisible weight. The resentment. The conditioning that tells you to be grateful for crumbs. You are not less sexual. You’re done performing. You don’t need to be fixed. You need space to feel safe, centered, and turned the fuck on. Pleasure starts when the pretending stops. Join me for the next round of Pleasure Principles. We start June 25. [Join Here] Not ready for the full program but craving clarity? Start with the live Pleasure Path Assessment and get the answers you've been looking for. [Grab your spot here.]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]f

I used to be the doctor on national television telling couples to schedule sex. I even wrote about it in my book. But I’ve learned so much since then. Not because scheduling sex is inherently wrong. But for high-functioning women like us, it becomes another setup. Another task. Another way to fail. Scheduled intimacy only works when both partners truly want it. When desire is shared., but when it’s one-sided, it becomes a power play. Another unpaid job. One more thing we have to manage. This is about more than sex. It’s about power. Emotional labor. Invisible dynamics that no one teaches us to name. The same super traits that make you successful are blocking your desire. The overfunctioning. The performance. The pressure to fix what was never yours to fix. Sexless relationships aren’t about frequency. They’re about safety. Intimacy. Capacity. Most women I work with don’t need more structure. They need less. Less to do. Less pressure. More truth. More feeling. More pleasure. Take the Pleasure Path Assessment in the show notes to uncover what’s actually blocking your arousal. Your body isn’t broken. You were just never taught how to do intimacy your way. [CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR ASSESSMENT]   Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT]   Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

You say your husband’s great. Supportive. A great dad. He helps around the house. He doesn’t cheat. So why don’t you want to have sex with him? If everything looks good on paper but feels emotionally lonely, this episode is for you. We’re talking about the invisible power dynamics that cause erotic shutdown, especially for high-achieving women with supertraits like empathy, loyalty, and perseverance. Here’s what you’ll walk away with: Why your libido isn’t broken, it’s protecting you How “nice guy” behaviors create disconnection The impact of decision-making imbalances on desire Why performative praise isn’t the same as true partnership How to stop explaining away your unmet needs and start getting fed You're not broken. You’re starving. And your relationship may have never made space for your full erotic self. Take the Pleasure Path Assessment to discover your erotic shutdown style and get your personalized reconnection plan. [CLICK HERE TO GET YOUR ASSESSMENT] Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]

You’ve done everything right. The degrees. The success. The personal growth. But still… You feel nothing. Sex feels like another thing on your to-do list. You’re disconnected, exhausted, and quietly wondering, “What’s wrong with me”? I’m breaking down how Superwoman conditioning and invisible power dynamics kill desire. Why therapy, hormones, and even functional medicine haven’t worked. And why it’s not your fault. Because most women don’t have low libido. They have low safety. We’ll talk about how overfunctioning, medical gaslighting, and the wrong relationship scripts keep high-achieving women burnt out, resentful, and sexually shut down. And what actually works to reconnect with your body, your pleasure, and your truth. If you’re stuck in survival mode and wondering why nothing has worked, this is your invitation to finally understand why. Connect with Jordin If you’re ready to uncover the truth behind erotic shutdown and finally reconnect with your pleasure, book your LIVE Pleasure Path Assessment with Jordin. [JOIN HERE] Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] Instagram [@drjordinwiggins]  

You’ve done the therapy. You’ve read the books. You’ve tried to fix it. But if you walked away from couples therapy or sex therapy feeling like you were the problem, this conversation will hit home. I’m exposing the quiet harm that happens when traditional therapy fails to account for power dynamics, emotional labor, and the super traits of high-achieving women. Let’s break it down: Why therapy often blames the over-functioning partner while ignoring the underfunctioner How high-capacity women are mislabeled as controlling, anxious, or codependent Why therapy’s focus on saving the relationship often gaslights women into shrinking What happens when your body, your nervous system, and your libido no longer feel safe How to stop blaming yourself and start naming the real reasons for disconnection This is not about doing more. It’s about finally being seen. Because your libido is not low, your body is just done asking. Connect with Jordin -If you’re ready to uncover the truth behind erotic shutdown and finally reconnect with your pleasure, book your live Pleasure Path Assessment with Jordin. [JOIN HERE] -Check out The Pleasure Principles Group Coaching [CLICK HERE TO CHECK OUT THE JUNE COHORT] -Instagram [@drjordinwiggins] -#157 The 5 Super Traits Blocking Your Desire  [LISTEN HERE]