Why Communication Advice Fails Women Who Overgive in Relationships

Most relationship advice says relationships are healthy when you communicate. Be open. Share your feelings. Explain your needs. Take responsibility for your emotions. And all of this is true. But it catastrophically fails women with Super Traits.

Not because they are bad communicators. Women with Super Traits are great communicators. But they communicate at the cost of themselves.

At the cost of their self-trust. Their clarity. Their desire. Their turn on. Their self-respect. They soften, explain, repair, and try again, and leave conversations feeling more confused than when they entered.

Women with Super Traits believe in connection. They believe in repair. They believe in hard work. So when something feels off, they communicate more. They clarify. They watch their tone. They adjust their ask. And instead of curiosity or validation, they get minimization, defensiveness, or the script flipped back onto them.

So at the beginning of healing, women with Super Traits actually need to say less. Communicating less is not withdrawal. It is discernment. We speak less because the information gets used against us. Our vulnerability is reframed. The clarity we thought we had leads to confusion. We feel worse after trying to connect than before.

This is why communication advice falls short. It does not work for women with Super Traits who over-function with under-functioners. A receiving woman lets silence do the work. Not sharper words. From that steadiness, clarity returns. Desire returns. Turn on returns. Trust in self returns.

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00:00:00 The Communication Issue 00:00:37 The Iceberg of Communication 00:01:11 The Cost of Over-Communication 00:02:14 The Shift to Less Communication 00:03:02 The Journey to Self-Respect 00:03:50 Understanding Super Traits 00:06:33 The Pattern of Ovegiving 00:09:38 The Importance of Saying Less 100:1:34 The Pleasure Centered Society 00:15:55 From High Achiever to Receiver