This week's question is : What does it mean to be safe in a relationship? Safety in a relationship looks different for everyone.  Our starring guest this week Nick Viall and I talked about a lot, but underneath it, I think this is the core of it… 1) How love hasn’t been safe in the past and 2) how he’s redefining safety within in his new relationship: one that has external threats in the form of public opinion because that’s what fortunately unfortunately happens when two people attempt to share one life" And now Nick is redefining what safety in a relationship means to him. Which leads to asking you “What does romantic safety mean to you?” “Any aha moments after listening to this episode?” Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Nick:  https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/reels/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/@viallfiles/videos Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Download the ZocDoc app for free.  https://www.zocdoc.com/LOVERS For 10% off during your first 3 months with Ritual, go to  https://www.ritual.com/LOVERS For 55% off your Babble subscription. https://www.babble.com/lovers

Who did you become last year? What is something you could not do last year that you want to be able to do by year's end? Shan Boodram shares how 2022 - the most transformative, miserable, lucrative and full year of her life - is grounding her 2023 with these twenty questions in mind. Who did you become? What was the single best thing that happened this past year? What was the single most challenging thing that happened? What is one change you made that improved the quality of your life? What was an unexpected obstacle? What  can you give yourself credit for this year? Were you dishonest with yourself or others last year? What’s your most memorable story What were the best books you read this year? Who poured into you this year, who do you want to thank? What’s something you couldn’t do a year ago that you can do today? What’s something you want to be able to say you can do a year from now that you can’t do yet? What promise do you keep breaking to yourself? What promise will you make to yourself this year? What was the most enjoyable part of your work? What was the most challenging part of your work (both professionally and at home)? What was the best way you used your time this past year? What was your single biggest time waster in your life this past year?  What one word or intention do you hope will define your 2023? What was biggest thing you learned this past year?  What would you do this next year if you knew you could not fail? Thank you to our sponsor Hello Fresh! There is a reason why Hello Fresh is America’s #1 Meal Kit and you can find out for yourself with this incredible offer!  Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 and use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping!  One more time, incase you need that to sink in...  That is http://HelloFresh.com/lovers21 use code lovers21 for 21 free meals plus free shipping.

What happens when you combine love, sex, magic and best friends? In this episode Shan sits down with Erica and Milah, hosts of Good Moms, Bad Choices and together they unravel the goddess experience. What does that look like? How did it happen and most of all…. did it bring them closer as best friends? This episode touches on the importance of platonic intimacy and how through bearing it all with your bestie: the real, the rare, the repulsive and the riveting - can actually make for a natural progression to experiencing and enhancing each other sexually in a VERY explicit, but still VERY plutonic way. This is an episode about how our friends can play an incredibly enriching role in our sex lives and moreover in other creative facets of our being.  Follow Our Guests Erica and Milah:  http://instagram.com/goodmoms_badchoices https://www.goodmomsbadchoices.com/ Follow Matilda Carrol: https://www.instagram.com/iammatildacarroll Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com StoryWorth: Get $10 off of your first purchase at StoryWorth and give the gift they’ll be talking about for years Http://Storyworth.com/lovers Lumi Labs: Microdose http://Microdose.com Use code: LOVERS  Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.  Manscaped: http://www.manscaped.com Use code: LOVERS Get free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .

Singer, songwriter Jessie Reyes candidly opens up about how on her quest for love, she recently played the role of the “bad guy”. For many, especially women, this is something that can be very hard to admit.  Jessie Reyez reflects on how she f***** up, how she tried to right her wrong, how she coped when her apology to her ex wasn’t enough, and what insight she gained from this experience.  Jessie Reyez is a Toronto born singer and songwriter who burst into the scene in 2016 with her platinum single Figures. In 2020, Jessie received her first Grammy nomination for Urban Contemporary Album.  She is admired internationally and has amassed millions of followers and is currently embarking on a national sold out tour. Jessie has collaborated with artists like Eminem, 6lack, and Kehlani. She has also written songs for Calvin Harris, Dua Lipa and Normani. Her new album Yessie, is out NOW. Follow Jessie:  http://instgram.com/jessiereyez/ https://www.youtube.com/@JessieReyez https://jessiereyez.com/ https://open.spotify.com/artist/3KedxarmBCyFBevnqQHy3P Follow Shan:  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com Hello Fresh  http://www/hellofresh.com/ Use code LOVERS18 at checkout! Go to http://HelloFresh.com/lovers18 and use code lovers18 for 18 free meals plus free shipping! There is reason why it is America’s #1 Meal Kit so give it a try for yourself.  Lumi Labs: Microdose http://Microdose.com Use code: LOVERS  Microdose is available nationwide. To learn more about microdosing THC go to Microdose.com and use code LOVERS to get free shipping & 30% off your first order.  Manscaped: http://www.manscaped.com Use code: LOVERS Get free shipping and 20% off by going to manscaped.com and using LOVERS at checkout .

Steelo Brim shares how the culture of toxic masculinity where men are encouraged not to go deep with themselves, almost destroyed his chances at real love both with himself and with women. He also talks about how he and his longtime girlfriend alahna jade chose to break out of the monogamy-one-size-fits-all box in order to create a healthy relationship on their terms and Steelo shares why his last relationship with fiance Conna Walker did not work.  Sterling Brim better known as Steelo is a comedian, podcast host, actor, TV host, producer and musician. You may recognize him from hosting MTV’s show titled Ridiculousness.  Steelo is a host on his weekly podcast called “Wine and Weed” where he and his co host- unpack current events and pop culture. Steelo unpacks what he needed to let go of and lean into in order to create the love he needed in his life. Follow Steelo http://instagram.com/SteeloBrim  http://youtube.com/@wineandweed Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Please help us in showing love to our incredible sponsors by clicking these links to learn more.  Gerber Life Guaranteed Life Insurance No medical exams and no health questionnaire required.  Just go to the website for a free quote. http://GerberLifeFamily.com BetterHelp As the world’s largest therapy service, BetterHelp has matched 3 million people with professionally licensed and vetted therapists available 100% online.  Save 10% off your first month at  http://BetterHelp.com/lovers. 

 In this episode, I sit down with my lover, my partner, my baby daddy, my everything,  Jared. This conversation gets really real. We love our kids but do we still like our life? Do we still like each other? This time in Colombia with my family has sprung up a lot of 'aha' moments: some good and others not so good.  Life after kids is unpredictable and it can sometimes feel like that spark is lost. Which takes me to asking him an important question that to be honest made me nervous.  "Are you happy?" It gets raw, real and made me realize what I need to do more of.. HUGE thank you to the sponsor of this episode, Hello Fresh. There’s a reason why it’s America’s #1 Meal Kit. Fresh and delicious food delivered right to your door with perfectly proportioned ingredients.  Go to http://www.hellofresh.com/lovers65  Use code LOVERS65 for 65% off!  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody Call in to the show to leave a voice note ‪(323) 375-4797 loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Jared: Jared: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/ 

When was the last time your significant other gave you an ultimatum? When was the last time you gave them an ultimatum? In this episode, Shan sits down with Comedian, Actor, and Filmmaker, David So. He breaks down what led him to this breaking point and ultimately how this ultimatum impacted their relationship.... for better or worse? Thanks to the sponsor of this episode ZocDoc. ZocDoc is a FREE app that shows you doctors who are patient-reviewed, take your insurance and are available when you need them. With ZocDoc, you can see real, verified patient reviews to help you find the right doctor in your network and your neighborhood. Go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! It is as easy as search, find and book an appointment, in person or remotely, that works for your schedule. Again, go to http://Zocdoc.com/com/Lovers to try it out for yourself! Thanks to the sponsor of this episode, Apostrophe. Post pregnancy, my melasma was a real struggle. A few weeks ago it was visible in the middle of my forehead, above my eyebrows and my fav, above my lip but last week my MUA was getting me ready, he actually said the melasma was fading. Thanks to the Apostrophe team, I  found a safe treatment for me plus a sunscreen for prevention. It came in a cute box with easy instructions and bonus, some funky stickers. Try it out! http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers First visit for only $5.00 at http://Apostrophe.com/Lovers Follow Shan on Instagram:  www.instagram.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/c/shannontboodram https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Follow David:  https://www.instagram.com/davidsocomedy/?hl=en https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCt8OnQ7ztuLrPrehlj8ZuuQ

How many times have you romanticized your life and where you THOUGHT you’d be by a certain age. For many of us, by 30 we imagine ourselves to be wifed up and thriving in a career.  In this episode, I sit down with Kamie Crawford, the host of MTV’s Catfish and former Miss Teen USA. Kamie is also the host of her very own Podcast called Relationshit. Kamie is the epitome of 30, flirty and thriving!  Last time Kamie was on the podcast, we broke down the lows and hell nos that led to her breakup and now, we are breaking down what she is leaving behind in her 20s and what she is welcoming in her 30s, including... a new love.  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Better Help! For 10% off go to http://betterhelp.com/lovers  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode Gerber Life Guaranteed.  Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting http://GerberLifeFamily.com  Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Kamie  http://instagram.com/kamiecrawford http://instagram.com/relationshit

Does sex HAVE to get less passionate as time goes on in a relationship? Is it possible to keep that “can’t keep your hands off each other” feeling in a marriage? In this episode we explore these questions and share the depressing/ hopeful truth about the secret to good sex in a long relationship.  DID YOU KNOW YOU CAN ALSO WATCH FULL EPISODES OF LOVERS AND FRIENDS? CLICK HERE TO SEE OUR YOUTUBE CHANNEL https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng Fun fact, falling in love is stressful on the body, but being in love is healthy for the body. When we are falling in love we experience an increase in cortisol, the stress hormone, but studies show that when we develop an attachment to someone oxytocin can actually work to inhibit cortisol production and stress response. That’s why researchers say that true love probably begins when the hormonal cocktail stops working.  So long story short maybe the loss of passion in our sex life as we know it, is not such a bad thing Meet the guests of this episode!!! Kevin Fredericks aka KevOn Stage is an actor, stand-up comedian, entrepreneur, podcast developer and host and filmmaker. Kevin is part of a generation of comedians who gained fame online and has accumulated hundreds of millions of views on social media. He is currently on his 3rd SOLD OUT national comedy tour and he is a New York Times bestselling author with his book Marriage Be Hard that he co-authored with his wife Melissa Fredericks who you might know on the internets as Mrs Kevon Stage. Melissa hosts The Love Hour podcast and is best known for her betterment campaigns and advocacy for self-love.  Together, Kevin and Melissa provide a hilarious and fresh master class on what it takes to build and maintain a healthy and lasting relationship. Follow KevOnStage: http://instagram.com/kevonstage http://youtube.com/kevonstage http://kevonstage.com Follow Kev’s streaming service:  Kevon Stage Studios Follow Melissa aka Mrs.KevOnStage http://instagram.com/mrskevonstage http://youtube.com/mrskevonstage https://www.mrskevonstage.com/ Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCSE2Lr9RfYXiFtiX1jk5qng loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com

Dating in your 20s is a lot like being given free range with paint as a toddler. Things can be fun but can get messy really quick. But the beauty is, you're young and have time to clean the mess up. In this episode, that is exactly what we are getting into.   Harry Jowsey and Georgia Hassarati - two on again off again, mid twenties, love birds in the midst of what we just described. Harry, Georgia and myself all met on the Netflix show that I’ve worked on as a sex expert for several seasons, Too Hot to Handle. Harry was a retreat attendee on season one and Georgia, on season three. They met because Harry asked Georgia to be a guest on his podcast, Tap in with Harry Jowsey. Harry and Georgia share a lot of the same things in common: background, career aspirations, sense of humor and the desire for real love in their 20s. They start hanging out, yada yada yada, they fall in love, have a few incredible rom-com-esque months together before things got a little TOO real… too heavy for Harry who then decides to call things off. But in classic-twenty-something-style our boy Harry made another big call a few weeks after that. And that’s where they are today… And if you’re not really clear where that “at” is, don’t worry, neither are they… and that’s kinda the beauty of trying to do the love thing in your twenties…right?  Thanks to the sponsors of this episode! ZocDoc Go to ZocDoc.com/LOVERS to start your search for a top rated doctor today. Many are available within 24 hours.  That’z ZocDoc.com/LOVERS.  Gerber Life Family GerberLifeFamily.com Just answer 4 easy questions to get your free personalized quote instantly, by visiting GerberLifeFamily.com Follow Shan  http://instagram.com/shanboody http://tiktok.com/shanboody http://shanboodram.com loversfriendspodcast@gmail.com Follow Harry- @HarryJowsey http://instagram.com/harryjowsey http://youtube.com/harryjowsey http://tiktok.com/harryjowsey Follow Georgia: @GeorgiaHassarati http://instagram.com/georgiahassarati http://youtube.com/GeorgiaHassarati1 http://tiktok.comGeorgiaHassarati