Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Why does it always seem like déjà vu when it comes to your love life? Ever catch yourself wondering, “Why does every guy I date end up cheating, no matter who he is?” Or maybe you’re on the flip side thinking, “Why does every woman I date always seem to have anger issues?”  It’s almost like you’re stuck in a dating loop, attracting the same person in a different body. But why does this keep happening? In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with therapist and relationship expert Jessica Baum, author of new book Safe, to explore why our love lives so often play out like déjà vu. Jessica takes us far beyond attachment labels like “anxious” or “avoidant.” She reveals how our parents’ nervous systems wire our own from infancy, shaping the way we connect, attach, and seek safety. Those early wounds often live in our bodies as sensation, surfacing later when a partner pulls away, rolls their eyes, or simply doesn’t show up the way we need. If you’re ready to stop repeating old patterns, this episode is your first step. We explore:  Why traditional attachment labels don't tell the whole story and what does. How to tell the difference between your "thinking" left brain and your "feeling" right brain. The surprising reason you keep attracting the same type of partner (and how to break the cycle). Why "triggers" are actually invitations for healing and how to reframe them. How memory is stored not just in your mind, but in your gut, heart, and muscles. What it truly means to heal in a relationship, and why you can't do it alone. The subtle signs your nervous system is scanning for to answer, "Are you with me?" A powerful, real-life example of rupture and repair between a parent and adult child. Practical steps to start creating safety within yourself and your relationships. Remember to check out Jessica’s other books, including Anxiously Attached. And don’t forget to preorder your copy of Safe, coming out on October 28. It’s the manual your relationships have been missing. As a special gift for listeners, she’s offering free bonuses, including a deep-dive healing blueprint and a rare interview with her mentor. You can find her at jessicabaumlmhc.com and on Instagram @jessicabaumlmhc  If you want to share your own love story, I’d love to hear it. Send me an email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Want to know what you really want in love? Take the quiz  now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when everything looks good on paper, yet your heart keeps whispering that something’s missing? You love your partner. Nothing’s really wrong. And still, you can’t shake the feeling that maybe you’re settling, or maybe you’re expecting too much. In this Language of Love session, I respond to an anonymous listener who’s been with their partner for several years. The relationship checks all the boxes, but a nagging sense of absence lingers. Is it a red flag, or just fear keeping them from leaning all the way in? In this session, we talk through: Why “something missing” can mean very different things, and how to tell which applies to you The hidden danger of making excuses for a partner’s shortcomings How unhealed wounds, depression, or anxiety can disguise themselves as relationship doubts Why the only way to experience real love is to risk heartbreak If you’ve ever second-guessed your relationship and wondered whether it was intuition or insecurity talking, this conversation will speak directly to your heart. And if this resonates with your own story, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, your experience could help others feel less alone.Want more tools for navigating love and intimacy? Visit my website and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into building authentic, lasting connection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever wondered what sexual fantasies really mean? Is there something deeper to them? In this Language of Love Bite, I unpack what science and symbolism tell us about fantasies, and how they’re often a mirror of your true desires. If you want to take this deeper, check out my book ⁠Sex Magic⁠ for a full guide to creating erotic intimacy that feels sacred and deeply satisfying. And don’t forget to subscribe to the⁠ Language of Love podcast⁠ so you never miss a bite-sized tip to level up your love life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We all long to feel connected to our loved ones after they have  crossed over. That ache to speak with them again never really goes away. But is it possible to make that conversation real? Can it be instinctual, natural, like you're just talking to someone beside you? In this  Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with psychic medium and spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco to explore the unseen support surrounding us. MaryAnn shows how connecting with spirit guides isn’t reserved for the gifted; it’s something every single one of us can do. Talking with her feels like being handed a secret key to a whole new world, one where guidance shows up in the middle of everyday chaos, not just in moments of perfect stillness. MaryAnn shares her own journey of learning to trust her intuition and explains how our guides, angels, and loved ones work together to support us. We dive into why so many of us feel blocked, how to tell the difference between our own thoughts and true guidance, and what happens when we finally stop forcing and start trusting the path that’s meant for us. Here’s a sneak peek… The difference between guides, angels, and loved ones on the other side Why guidance often sounds like your own voice How to know when it’s intuition speaking or just fear What to do when life feels stuck or off-track How your guides can help you manifest what you want Ways to reconnect with loved ones who have passed The surprising role your guides play in healing old wounds Why you don’t need to be psychic to receive powerful guidance If this episode resonates with you, I invite you to explore more of what MaryAnn DiMarco has to offer at maryanndimarco.com You can follow her journey on Instagram and Facebook, and if you’re feeling called, pick up one of her books or preorder her newest one, The Guide(s). If you’ve had a sign, a spiritual moment, or something meaningful you'd like to share, I’d truly love to hear from you. Feel free to reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com.And if you're navigating loss, take a look at the Good Grief Course. It’s a gentle, structured path through grief designed to help you move forward while still honoring your connection. You don’t have to do this alone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies.  Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence. I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. In this session, we’ll cover: Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life. If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human. In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection. We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also  guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love What unspoken resentment does to desire How safety and routine can dull erotic energy What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me. We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily. We dive into: How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving The best ways to support a child on the grief journey   The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you. Want more from Tembi? Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website. Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn. And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into my Good Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss. If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does something that happened years ago still show up in the bedroom today? Why can you trust your partner completely, and still feel yourself pull away the moment intimacy begins? And why, when all you want is closeness, does your body react as if it’s still living in the past? In this Language of Love Session, I respond to two heartfelt listener questions that touch on some of the most vulnerable parts of our intimate lives. The first comes from Renee, who shared that after experiencing sexual trauma years ago, she still finds herself freezing or dissociating during intimacy even with a partner she deeply trusts. I talk about why this happens, why it’s actually a normal and adaptive response, and the steps you can take to reconnect with your body.  The second question comes from Angel, who admitted she’s always been shy about talking about sex, even though she has desires and fantasies she wants to explore. I offer concrete strategies for starting those vulnerable, exciting conversations with a partner in a way that feels safe and empowering. In this episode, you’ll hear me share: Why dissociation during intimacy is a normal trauma response and how healing begins Somatic practices that can help you stay grounded in your body Gentle ways to reintroduce intimacy after trauma A three-column exercise to let go of shame and reclaim your desires How to talk to your partner about fantasies and needs without fear If you’d like me to answer your question on a future episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Don’t forget to check out: The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, the Hakomi Institute for locating Somatic Experiencing therapists, and traumahealing.org, which offers a full directory of practitioners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the honeymoon phase ends? That early period in a relationship, full of excitement, ease, and constant attraction, doesn’t last forever.  Most people assume that this means the excitement is over and they are stuck with a lackluster intimate life. But the end of the honeymoon phase can mark the start of the real love story. In this Language of Love Bite, I explain why  the end of the honeymoon phase is actually one of the best things that can happen in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are keeping their sexual connection alive for 20 or 30 years aren’t just relying on heat alone? They’re learning to cultivate it intentionally and with ongoing practice. I also guide you through a powerful, heart-opening practice called the Desire Memory Ritual. It’s perfect for long-term couples who want to reconnect with their erotic roots, reignite attraction, and let those feelings flow through them once again. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why the honeymoon phase ends and what it does What your brain is doing during and after that phase How couples stay connected over the long term Why being present matters more than trying harder How attraction changes over time How to do the Desire Memory Ritual If you want help with intimacy and sexual connection, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, as well as Sex Magic. And always remember: true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Language of Love Conversation, I welcome Suzy Miller, a former pediatric speech pathologist whose world was turned upside down when a nonverbal four-year-old boy named Riley communicated with her telepathically.  Riley revealed a stunning truth: he needed Suzy’s help to integrate his “light body” with his physical form. This encounter launched Suzy on a journey to redefine autism not as a deficit, but as a superhuman ability, a different way of being that holds a mirror to our own unhealed energies and invites us into a more authentic, heart-centered existence. Together we explore: How those on the spectrum act as mirrors, reflecting the unacknowledged emotions of those around them Why many people with autism struggle with being fully “in their bodies” and what that means energetically The mismatch between their high vibrational frequency and the dense conditioning of our physical world How so-called “problem behaviors” can be understood as communication and energetic processing Practical tools like the Blue Sphere technique for releasing heavy emotions and raising your vibration Ways parents, teachers, and loved ones can authentically connect with these extraordinary beings Suzy’s work is a beautiful call to action for parents, educators, and all of us to shift our perception, embrace deeper authenticity, and learn the language of energy and love. Want to go deeper? Explore Suzy’s book, AWESOMISM!:, and her incredible resources at SuzyMiller.com. Have a story about neurodiversity or awakening? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. For more tools to support your journey of connection and growth, visit my website and explore my courses, including the Good Grief program to help you stay connected to those you love, both here and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices