Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

When your partner says she’s “just not in the mood,” it’s easy to hear it as rejection. But what if it’s not about you at all? What if “not in the mood” is actually a signal about what’s missing long before you ever get to the bedroom? In this Language of Love Bite, we flip the script on low desire. I’m breaking down exactly why she’s not in the mood and how to shift that dynamic quickly, without pressure, manipulation, or guessing games. Because for most women, desire doesn’t disappear for no reason. It shuts down when her system doesn’t feel ready. We explore: Why “I’m not in the mood” is rarely about sex itself and what it’s really signaling. The 3 things women need to feel to access desire (and what happens when one is missing). How true foreplay begins outside the bedroom, in everyday moments of appreciation. The exact words to use to initiate without pressure and create emotional safety. One transformative move to try when she says no. If this episode gives you a new perspective, make sure to follow the Language of Love podcast  on your favorite podcast platform. Want to continue the conversation? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com and tell me: What do you think puts someone out of the mood faster than anything else? And if you’re ready to go deeper, visit my website and explore resources designed to help you build better sex, deeper connection, and the relationship you truly want. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this special Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with Libby Ingram, a speech therapist, grieving mother, and a central voice from the groundbreaking podcast The Telepathy Tapes. Libby shares the extraordinary story of her son, John Paul, a non-speaking autistic man with a genius level intellect, a deep telepathic connection to his peers, and a mission that continued even after his physical passing. Together, we step into the world of spellers, non speaking individuals who use letter boards to communicate. Libby helps us see a reality where these souls are not disabled, but differently abled, operating from a place of deep spiritual awareness. She describes how John Paul and his friends met daily on “The Hill,” a metaphysical gathering place where they shared knowledge and prepared for a purpose the world had not yet caught up to. Libby also talks about the ways communication never stopped, through numbers, songs, red roses of protection, and even a life saving pause at a traffic light. Her story reminds us that grief and joy are not opposites. They walk side by side, with our loved ones still very much present, cheering us toward life. We explore: What The Telepathy Tapes reveal when told through a mother’s lived experience How spelling unlocks intelligence hidden behind motor and sensory challenges Why non-speaking autistic children are deeply aware, connected, and conscious The metaphysical meeting place known as “The Hill” and how children connect there What telepathy looks like when it’s lived, not theorized How connection continues after death through signs, numbers, and symbols Why certain messages from loved ones arrive again and again How signs before a passing only make sense once you look back What it means to hold grief and joy at the same time without betraying love Why death doesn’t end love, it changes how love speaks Remember to explore the full depth of this story by listening to The Telepathy Tapes podcast, and connect with Libby on Instagram or through her community for resources on spelling and communication methods. You can also explore The Grief Healing Collective for ongoing support, workshops, and the upcoming Love Mama Retreat. And if you need a direct line, email anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Most men don’t realize that the biggest mistake they make in bed has nothing to do with size, stamina, or technique. It is something far simpler and far more powerful. And it is the one mistake that quietly turns a woman off, shuts her body down, and keeps you from being the lover she dreams about. In this Language of Love Bite, I break down the number one mistake men make in bed and how to fix it starting tonight. It is the difference between sex that feels rushed, mechanical, or pressured, and sex that feels electric, safe, intimate, and unforgettable. You will learn why focusing on performance instead of connection sends a woman into her head, why she stiffens or pulls back even when you are doing everything right, and how presence rather than perfection is what actually turns her on. I share what women truly crave: a man who is tuned into her breath, her body, her pace, and her emotional temperature, not someone who is trying to win at sex. I reveal how slowing down, literally cutting your rhythm and your touch in half, becomes the most erotic reset you can offer her. You will learn why softer warm-up touch ignites trust in her nervous system and how one simple question, What kind of touch do you want tonight?, instantly boosts her desire. We explore: Why performance pressure shuts her body down How connection rather than technique predicts her satisfaction The micro cues in her breath, sounds, and movement that guide you The dance between slowing down, tuning in, and following her lead Why safety opens her body more than any bedroom move The exact warm-up touches that turn on her nervous system The simple after sex shift that makes her feel cherished How the way you stay afterward matters more than how you move during sex And at the end, I share the bonus tip most men never think about. The post-sex moment that tells her, without a single word, that this was not just sex. It was connection. That is the moment she remembers. That is the moment she comes back for. If this Language of Love Bite inspires you, follow the show on your favorite podcast platform or email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You deserve to feel confident, connected, and deeply in sync with your partner. You’ve got this. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does intuition feel normal, but psychic still makes people squirm? Why are so many of us feeling more sensitive, more aware, more affected by the world than ever before? Something is shifting. People aren’t just asking for answers anymore. They’re asking about their soul, their abilities, their inner knowing. Is consciousness changing, or are we finally paying attention? In this episode of Language of Love, I sit down with John Holland, one of the most respected psychic mediums of our time and a true pioneer in spiritual communication. For more than three decades, John has helped people understand intuition, mediumship, and the ongoing relationship we continue to have with our loved ones after physical death. We talk about how human consciousness is changing and why people are no longer just seeking answers about the future. More and more, we are asking questions about our soul, our purpose, and our own intuitive abilities. John has a beautiful way of making these experiences feel grounded and accessible, while still honoring how sacred they are. We also talk openly about grief, including the loss of a child, shared death experiences, and deathbed visions. John explains why no one ever crosses over alone and how communication does not end when the body dies. It simply changes form. Signs, synchronicities, numbers, sensations, and quiet knowings become the new language of love. John shares why mediums are not meant to be a permanent bridge, but more like a jumper cable. They help us remember that every one of us has the ability to access guidance, connection, and love from the other side. At the end of the episode, he offers five simple and practical ways to strengthen your intuition, tools you can begin using right away to trust what you feel and sense. This conversation is both comforting and empowering. It is a reminder that grief does not disconnect us from love, and intuition is not something we have to learn. It is something we remember. We explore: Why intuition and psychic ability are natural to all of us How and why collective consciousness is changing. The difference between intuition, psychic ability, and mediumship How loved ones communicate after death through signs and synchronicities Shared death experiences and deathbed visions explained Why no one ever transitions alone How grief softens when we understand the soul continues The role of mediums and why you do not need one forever How sensitivity can be both a gift and something to learn how to manage Five ways to strengthen your intuitive connection Why love does not end with death, it changes how it speaks Remember, your intuition is simply the language your soul uses to speak to you. If you feel called to explore and develop those gifts more deeply, you can dive into John’s books, including The Psychic Navigator, or join his intimate Soul Community. You can also connect with John on his Website or Instagram to stay up to date with his work. And if you’re walking a path of grief or healing, you don’t have to do it alone. The Grief Healing Collective offers ongoing support, and you’re always welcome to reach out by email at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story truly matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever gone through a breakup so painful it made you question who you even are? The kind that leaves you replaying every moment, wondering what went wrong, and feeling like a stranger in your own skin? When love ends and your identity goes with it, how do you start again? In this Language of Love session, I answer a heartfelt question from Heather, who writes in after a devastating breakup that shattered her sense of self. She’s stuck in a loop of rumination and regret, trying to figure out how to stop looking back and begin moving forward. We talk about how some breakups don’t just end relationships; they awaken old pain that’s been waiting beneath the surface. I explain why trauma “loves an open door,” how grief and loss can resurface long after we think we’ve healed, and why true recovery starts with rediscovering who you are beyond anyone else. We dive into:  How old trauma gets triggered by new loss The difference between self-esteem and self-worth Why your sense of self must come from within, not from your partner The power of trauma-informed therapy in heartbreak recovery What the Runaway Bride movie can teach us about self-discovery How to figure out “what kind of eggs you like,” literally and metaphorically Why being centered in your worth changes who and what you attract How heartbreak can become the doorway to your most authentic self If you’ve ever lost yourself in love, this episode will remind you that healing isn’t about finding someone new; it’s about finding you. Don’t forget to visit my website and explore the resources there. They’re all designed to help you create deeper, more fulfilling love in your life. You can also take the free quiz, “What Do You Really Want in Love?” It’s a great way to get clear on what your heart’s truly looking for. And if you have a question or want to be part of a future Language of Love session, just email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Did you know you can make a woman crave you without saying a single word? Really so much of attraction has nothing to do with pickup lines, fancy outfits, or trying too hard. It’s your presence. Your energy. Your body language. It’s the way you walk into a room and the way you feel in your own skin. Confidence speaks long before your mouth ever does. In this Language of Love Bite, I reveal how to make a woman crave you without saying a word. This is not about pickup tricks or performance. It is about the deeper masculine signals a woman feels the moment you enter a room. From the way you breathe to the way you hold your posture and your gaze, these subtle shifts create desire without effort. You will learn how breath grounds your confidence, how stillness becomes a turn on, how eye contact creates micro tension, and the one shift almost no man knows that instantly makes you more magnetic. You will also learn how to flirt without touching her at all by using mirroring, energy projection, and true presence. I explore: The way women sense your energy before they ever look at you How slow, grounded breathing signals calm confidence and inner control Why moving with stillness pulls her in more than trying to impress The one second eye contact rule that builds tension she feels in her body How to flirt without touching her through subconscious mirroring The power of filling the space between you with sensual energy How chasing weakens attraction while presence strengthens it The subtle embodiment shift that makes her crave you without a single word The secret is simple. When you are fully in your body, she feels safe, seen, and drawn in. Presence is the most erotic language a man can speak without ever using his voice. If you liked this Language of Love Bite, follow the show on your favorite podcast platform. Questions or comments? Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is it that the person you love most can also trigger the fears you thought you left behind? What if your partner’s most irritating habit isn’t really about them at all, but a faint echo from your childhood still asking to be healed? And what if that same repetitive fight about laundry or tone of voice isn’t a sign something’s wrong but actually a sacred doorway, a classroom, for your deepest growth? In this episode of The Language of Love Conversations, I sit down with Dr. Alexandra Solomon, clinical psychologist, Northwestern professor, author of Taking Sexy Back, host of the Reimagining Love Podcast, and the beloved voice behind Relational Self-Awareness. As two “talking doctors” who have been married for a combined 52 years, we ditch the theory and dive straight into the real, messy, sacred work of modern love. We explore why today’s relationships demand so much more from us than past generations ever had to navigate, and why true intimacy now requires a “soul to soul” connection rooted in deep self-awareness.  We also delve into:  The surprising reason relational self awareness is the real heartbeat of modern love How childhood wounds secretly script your adult conflicts without you knowing Whether some healing must happen alone or can truly happen inside the relationship How to tell when it’s a trigger… and when it’s genuine emotional danger What to do when a partner can name their wounds but refuses to change the pattern The exact moment your trigger gets activated and how to catch it in real time The hidden story your emotional pain is trying to tell you Why tone is often louder than words and how it shapes safety Alexandra’s go to regulation tools for coming back to calm fast How shorter, slower conversations create deeper intimacy The power of conscious pauses to stop spirals before they start How to truly witness your partner’s feelings so they feel seen and safe Why certain tones feel like danger and how to talk about it without blame Fast, body based tools to steady your nervous system in the middle of conflict How to offer a real, repair focused apology that actually rebuilds trust What it really means to be a relational leader and how to step into that role Alexandra’s five micro moments that instantly strengthen connection and bonding Remember to check out her groundbreaking book, Taking Sexy Back, for a deeper dive into moving from performance to presence in love and life. You can also explore my book, Quantum Love, for the science and spirituality behind using energy to transform your relationships. For workshops, teachings, and her wonderful podcast Reimagining Love, visit alexandrasolomon.com. Find Alexandra on Instagram @dralexandra.solomon for daily wisdom. And if this conversation opened something in you, if you saw your own “relational ghost” in our stories, I’d love to hear about it. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Your story matters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When someone you love dies, people tell you to “move on,” but what does that even mean? How do you move forward when your heart still feels stuck in yesterday?  In this Language of Love session, I answer a question from Susan, who lost her partner a year ago and still feels like she’s just going through the motions. We talk about why grief has no timeline, why some hearts feel it more deeply than others, and how to begin healing not by letting go, but by learning to hold love differently. Because grief isn’t something to get over, it’s something to move through. We explore:  Why there’s no “right time” to stop grieving How to move through pain without getting lost in it Why feeling your feelings is the only way to release them The six pillars of grief healing and how they can support you in your journey Why your loved one’s energy never disappears, it simply changes form How to stay connected to someone you’ve lost through love, not longing What it means to become a more awakened version of yourself through grief If you’ve ever felt pressure to “get over it,” this episode will remind you that healing is not about forgetting. It’s about remembering differently. Remember to visit my website and explore The Grief Healing Collective, a community designed to support your healing with resources, practices, and connection. You can also check out my Good Grief Course for deeper guidance on navigating loss with compassion and understanding. And if you’d like to send your questions or join a future Language of Love session, reach out at languageoflovepod@gmail.com,  I’d love to hear from you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why is it that some men leave an imprint on a woman’s body, her heart, her energy, her memory, and sometimes even her soul… while others are forgotten by morning? What if the only difference is that the unforgettable ones have mastered powerful sex magic secrets, not the basic bedroom tips everyone already knows? In this Language of Love Bite, I dive into sex magic, not porn magic, not pickup tricks, but the real energetic, emotional, spiritual practices that turn sex from mechanical into magnetic. I break down the five sex magic secrets that give you more control, more depth, and more connection than any technique ever could. From breathing that expands your arousal instead of cutting it short, to intention-based touch that opens her body and her trust, to the one move most men skip that opens her body and her soul like nothing else. You really can’t afford to miss that bonus move. I explore: Why sex isn’t just an activity but an energetic transaction that imprints you on her body, mind, and memory The shocking reason you should stop “releasing” your orgasm energy/sperms  aimlessly  and start harnessing it like fuel How circulating your sexual energy turns you into the man who feels powerful, magnetic, and impossible to forget Why presence is the real aphrodisiac and how women can sense it before you even touch them How your breath secretly controls your arousal, your stamina, and the depth of the connection The hidden power of intentional touch that opens her body and unlocks her trust Why orgasm isn’t the finish line but a doorway to deeper pleasure, insight, and intimacy The heart to heart connection move she will never forget and the one most men don’t even know exists Let me know in the comments which one of these secrets you are trying first. And if you want to go even deeper or learn more about sex magic, check out my book Sex Magic. Have comments or questions? You can always reach me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of The Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with theologian and author Meggan Watterson, whose books Mary Magdalene Revealed and The Girl Who Baptized Herself have transformed the way countless people understand Christ, the Divine Feminine, and their own inherent worthiness. Meggan opens up about her own spiritual journey as a child, having profound experiences of divine love that her secular, feminist upbringing couldn't explain. She shares how her first encounter with the traditional New Testament literally made her break out in hives, a visceral reaction to the missing feminine essence she intuitively knew belonged there. We explore the Gospel of Mary Magdalene and the Acts of Paul and Thecla, texts that were deliberately excluded from the Bible, and how they reveal a Christianity that was originally subversive, egalitarian, and empowering for women. Meggan explains how these texts teach us that heaven isn't a destination after death, but a state we can access now, in these very bodies. We get into the beautiful, practical concept of the "mind of the heart" or the "spiritual eye of the heart," the internal compass that guides us to our truth when the thinking mind fails. Meggan shares a simple, powerful "three breaths" practice that anyone can use to access this inner wisdom, even in the busiest moments of life. We explore:  How patriarchal erasure shaped our spiritual inheritance and why reclaiming feminine texts matters The radical teachings of the Gospel of Mary and why Jesus chose to reveal them to a woman Thecla’s story and why her three days of silence mirror a modern spiritual awakening The difference between the inner critic and the authentic voice of the soul Why our worth is inherent, not earned How childhood wounds shape our patterns of choosing unavailable love The seven stages of spiritual transformation and how they unfold in real life What it means to embody divine love in the physical body How to access the mind of the heart and connect with the Beloved within The simple three-breath practice that anyone can use to return to their inner truth Remember to check out her latest book, The Girl Who Baptized Herself, a profound reimagining of Thecla’s hidden gospel.You can also explore Mary Magdalene Revealed to discover the seven powers and the heart-centered teachings Jesus entrusted to Mary. For workshops, retreats, and upcoming teachings, visit megganwatterson.com. Find Meggan on Instagram and LinkedIn for her latest writings and teachings. And if this conversation opened something in you, I’d love to hear your story. Email me anytime at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices