Language of Love with Dr. Laura Berman

Have you ever felt too shy or embarrassed to talk about your sexual needs, even with a partner you trust? This episode might be for you! In today’s Language of Love Session, I’m answering a question from a listener who’s struggling to open up about her desires and fantasies.  Maybe you received messages growing up about what’s “appropriate” or things you witnessed that made you feel ashamed of your desires… I’ll walk you through how to start untangling those beliefs and embrace your sexuality with confidence. I also talk about how to communicate your sexual needs with your partner, even when it feels awkward or cringey. It’s all about creating a safe space to have that conversation, and I’ll give you some tips on how to open up without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. In this session, we’ll cover: Why sexual inhibitions often come from external sources, not you How to identify and release shame-based beliefs around sex How to start the conversation with your partner about trying new things in the bedroom How to communicate your desires in a positive, low-pressure way You deserve to have the sex life you want, free of shame and judgment. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, learning how to talk about what you want and exploring your desires is key to a fulfilling, beautiful sex life. If you have a question or want to share your story, I’d love to hear from you. You can always email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com, and I’m here to support you as you learn how to love and be loved better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Like it or not, attraction can dim even in the brightest, most loving relationships. Maybe you're loyal. Maybe you care deeply. Maybe you've built a life together. But that spark? It flickers. And when it does, you're left with questions, guilt, maybe even shame. It’s heavy, confusing, and painfully human. In this Language of Love Bite, I break the silence around why you may not feel attracted to your partner anymore and guide you back to the root of your own erotic energy. Because when desire fades, it’s not a sign of failure… It’s a call to deeper awareness and reconnection. We explore the four core reasons attraction fades and why this doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. And I also  guide you through a gentle, powerful embodiment practice called the Pleasure Mirror Practice, a ritual designed to help you reconnect with your own sensuality, aliveness, and desire, from the inside out. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why attraction naturally ebbs and flows in long-term love What unspoken resentment does to desire How safety and routine can dull erotic energy What happens when you disconnect from your own sensuality How nervous system trauma or stress can suppress arousal How to do the Pleasure Mirror Practice to reignite your erotic energy If you want support with intimacy, sexual connection, or rediscovering your own sensual fire, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, and my book Sex Magic. Because true attraction isn’t something you lose, it’s something you learn to consciously recreate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Raising a child while carrying the weight of grief after losing your husband is no easy task. Learning to love again, knowing that loss is always a possibility, adds another layer of complexity. In this Language of Love Conversation, I sit down with the incredible Tembi Locke, actor, advocate, and New York Times bestselling author of From Scratch, which many of you may know as the hit Netflix series she co-created. Tembi’s newest project, Someday, Now, is a fully immersive audiobook that completely moved me. We talk about her journey through grief, caregiving, and parenting after the loss of her beloved husband Saro. How do you keep going when the person you planned your future with is no longer here? Tembi shares how her grief has transformed over the years, what it was like to raise her daughter while healing herself, and how she still feels her husband’s presence in everyday life, from hummingbirds outside her window to cherished memories in Sicily. We dive into: How grief evolves over time and why it never really ends The surprising ways caregiving prepares (and fails to prepare) you for loss What no one tells you about the physical exhaustion of grieving The best ways to support a child on the grief journey   The quiet ways our loved ones continue to guide us after they're gone Why so many of us are grief-illiterate and what we can do about it What it means to show up for others in grief, even when words fall short How becoming an empty nester stirred up old wounds and new revelations What it really takes to open your heart to love again after devastating loss What makes this conversation so special is how honest Tembi is. She doesn’t shy away from the messy truths about the physical toll of grief, the emotional fatigue of caregiving, and the quiet courage it takes to choose love again. Whether you're grieving, supporting someone who is, or simply wondering how to keep going when life breaks your heart this one is for you. Want more from Tembi? Explore Someday, Now and her memoir From Scratch at her website. Follow her on Instagram: @tembilocke or LinkedIn. And if you’re on your own healing journey, I’d love to invite you into my Good Grief Course, a safe space filled with tools, practices, and support to help you grow through loss. If this conversation touched you, I’d love to hear from you. Share your story or a sign you’ve received at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Why does something that happened years ago still show up in the bedroom today? Why can you trust your partner completely, and still feel yourself pull away the moment intimacy begins? And why, when all you want is closeness, does your body react as if it’s still living in the past? In this Language of Love Session, I respond to two heartfelt listener questions that touch on some of the most vulnerable parts of our intimate lives. The first comes from Renee, who shared that after experiencing sexual trauma years ago, she still finds herself freezing or dissociating during intimacy even with a partner she deeply trusts. I talk about why this happens, why it’s actually a normal and adaptive response, and the steps you can take to reconnect with your body.  The second question comes from Angel, who admitted she’s always been shy about talking about sex, even though she has desires and fantasies she wants to explore. I offer concrete strategies for starting those vulnerable, exciting conversations with a partner in a way that feels safe and empowering. In this episode, you’ll hear me share: Why dissociation during intimacy is a normal trauma response and how healing begins Somatic practices that can help you stay grounded in your body Gentle ways to reintroduce intimacy after trauma A three-column exercise to let go of shame and reclaim your desires How to talk to your partner about fantasies and needs without fear If you’d like me to answer your question on a future episode, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com Don’t forget to check out: The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis, the Hakomi Institute for locating Somatic Experiencing therapists, and traumahealing.org, which offers a full directory of practitioners. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What happens when the honeymoon phase ends? That early period in a relationship, full of excitement, ease, and constant attraction, doesn’t last forever.  Most people assume that this means the excitement is over and they are stuck with a lackluster intimate life. But the end of the honeymoon phase can mark the start of the real love story. In this Language of Love Bite, I explain why  the end of the honeymoon phase is actually one of the best things that can happen in your relationship. Did you know that couples who are keeping their sexual connection alive for 20 or 30 years aren’t just relying on heat alone? They’re learning to cultivate it intentionally and with ongoing practice. I also guide you through a powerful, heart-opening practice called the Desire Memory Ritual. It’s perfect for long-term couples who want to reconnect with their erotic roots, reignite attraction, and let those feelings flow through them once again. Here’s what you’ll hear in this episode: Why the honeymoon phase ends and what it does What your brain is doing during and after that phase How couples stay connected over the long term Why being present matters more than trying harder How attraction changes over time How to do the Desire Memory Ritual If you want help with intimacy and sexual connection, check out my free Quantum Sex course on my website, as well as Sex Magic. And always remember: true connection begins when we stop performing and start seeing each other, soul to soul. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this episode of the Language of Love Conversation, I welcome Suzy Miller, a former pediatric speech pathologist whose world was turned upside down when a nonverbal four-year-old boy named Riley communicated with her telepathically.  Riley revealed a stunning truth: he needed Suzy’s help to integrate his “light body” with his physical form. This encounter launched Suzy on a journey to redefine autism not as a deficit, but as a superhuman ability, a different way of being that holds a mirror to our own unhealed energies and invites us into a more authentic, heart-centered existence. Together we explore: How those on the spectrum act as mirrors, reflecting the unacknowledged emotions of those around them Why many people with autism struggle with being fully “in their bodies” and what that means energetically The mismatch between their high vibrational frequency and the dense conditioning of our physical world How so-called “problem behaviors” can be understood as communication and energetic processing Practical tools like the Blue Sphere technique for releasing heavy emotions and raising your vibration Ways parents, teachers, and loved ones can authentically connect with these extraordinary beings Suzy’s work is a beautiful call to action for parents, educators, and all of us to shift our perception, embrace deeper authenticity, and learn the language of energy and love. Want to go deeper? Explore Suzy’s book, AWESOMISM!:, and her incredible resources at SuzyMiller.com. Have a story about neurodiversity or awakening? I’d love to hear from you! Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. For more tools to support your journey of connection and growth, visit my website and explore my courses, including the Good Grief program to help you stay connected to those you love, both here and beyond. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What if the thing you crave most is the one thing you can’t say out loud?  You love your partner. The sex is good. But there’s more inside you—a desire you’ve never voiced. Not because it’s wrong… but because you’re terrified of what might happen if you do. Will they judge you? Will they feel like they’re not enough? Could it change everything?   In this Language of Love session, I connect with Kelly, who’s been married for five years and loves her husband deeply. Their sex life? Pretty solid. But there’s a part of her that wants more. She has desires she’s never shared—and she’s terrified that voicing them might hurt his feelings or make him think he’s not enough. So what do you do when you want to grow sexually with your partner, but you’re afraid it could backfire? In this session, we talk through: Why it’s not a great idea to talk about fantasies in the middle of sex (and when to do it instead) How to open up these conversations in a way that feels safe, honest, and even exciting The “Fantasy Box” game I love recommending to couples who want to spice things up together How to find creative middle ground when your fantasies don’t totally match If you’ve ever held back something in the bedroom because you didn’t want to rock the boat, you’re going to feel seen in this one. And if Kelly’s story sounds a little like yours, I’d love to hear from you. Email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com—your story could help someone else feel less alone. Want more tools for connection and pleasure? Head over to my website, and check out my latest book, Sex Magic, for a deeper dive into unlocking spectacular intimacy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When that desire for sex hits hard, like I need this now, have you ever paused and thought… is this really about sex? Or is it something else? A need to feel safe? Held? Less alone? In this Language of Love Bite, we’re talking about the kind of sex that doesn’t always come from turn-on, but from a deeper part of us that’s craving regulation. Because the truth is, your nervous system plays a much bigger role in desire than most of us realize. We talk about how your body might be reaching for sex not out of passion, but as a way to self-soothe and how to gently tell the difference. I also share a simple body-based practice you can use anytime to check in with yourself and get really honest about what you’re actually needing in the moment. This isn’t about shame. It’s about choice. And giving yourself the chance to have sex that feels nourishing… not just numbing. We explore: Why your body might crave sex when it’s actually craving safety How past experiences shape the way we reach for intimacy The subtle signs you might be using sex to regulate your emotions A go-to somatic practice (“Body Yes / Body No”) to check what’s really going on inside How to shift from survival sex to sacred, satisfying connection   Ever had sex and felt more empty afterward? You’re not alone and there’s nothing wrong with you. There’s just more going on beneath the surface. If you’re ready to explore the deeper layers of your intimacy, grab my book Sex Magic, a powerful invitation to challenge everything you’ve been taught about your sexuality and self-worth. Because sex should feel like coming home to yourself, not like you’re trying to fill an invisible gap. Want to uncover what’s holding you back in bed and beyond? Take the free quiz on my website to get clarity and personalized insights into your intimacy blocks. And while you're there, don’t miss 7 Days to Better Sex, a practical, transformative program that helps you get in the driver’s seat of your sex life, actively creating the passion and connection you truly desire. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Liz Entin didn't believe in an afterlife. She wasn’t spiritual, and she avoided thinking about death. That changed after she  lost her father. His death didn't just bring grief, it sparked a search for answers. In this episode, Liz shares how that search led her into quantum physics, reincarnation research, and mediumship. We talk about how she went from skeptic to believer after encountering evidence she couldn’t ignore. She even tested psychics using fake names and burner phones, trying to confirm or debunk what they said. Liz is the author of WTF Just Happened?!: A Sciencey-Skeptic Explores Grief, Healing, and Evidence of an Afterlife and the host of the WTF Just Happened?! podcast. What makes her story unique is that it’s based on firsthand experiences and real evidence, not blind faith. Liz discusses: The moment she realized life after death couldn’t be dismissed The University of Virginia’s reincarnation studies that shifted her perspective Her secret tests of mediums with Google Voice numbers, fake names, and burner emails The signs and synchronicities that changed everything for her How she accidentally gave her own mediumship reading How afterlife awareness shifts the grief journey  Liz’s story is about more than loss. It’s about discovering something deeper in the wake of tragedy. If you’ve ever questioned what happens after we die, or if you’re hoping for a sign from someone you’ve lost, this episode is for you. Want to learn more about Liz? Check out her books, her podcast, and her grief-meets-science salons at wtfjusthappened.net Follow her on Instagram: @wtf_just_happened_ And if you’re curious about your own healing, I invite you to explore my Good Grief Course. It's filled with tools, practices, and support to help you connect and grow through loss. If this episode touched your heart, or if you have a story or sign to share, email me at languageoflovepod@gmail.com. We’re in this together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

So the date’s going really well. The drinks are flowing, the laughter is effortless, the chemistry? Off the charts. One thing leads to another... and you sleep together. Now you’re lying in bed, wondering: Was that a mistake? Should you have waited? Does having sex so soon make you seem less serious—or just honest about your desires? Can it create real connection, or does it shut the door before anything deeper begins? In this Language of Love Session, I  respond to a heartfelt question from Susie, who finds herself second-guessing her decision to have sex on the first date. I explore the emotional landmines of modern dating—especially in a world of ghosting, dating apps, and conflicting advice. You will learn: Why dating apps have changed the rules—and how to protect your heart How delaying sex can reveal true intentions (without playing games) What oxytocin does to your brain (and why it matters after sex) The truth about “earning” intimacy—and how it builds mutual respect Why your sexuality is a gift, and how to share it with intention When first-date sex does work—and what to watch for if it doesn’t If you’ve ever second-guessed sleeping with someone too soon—or felt like you gave too much too fast—this one’s for you. And if someone disappears after sex, I explain why that says everything about them, not you. Have your own story to share or a question for Dr. Berman? Email languageoflovepod@gmail.com. You might hear it featured in a future session. For more on navigating intimacy and dating with confidence, visit my website or check out my newest book, Sex Magic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices