Please Support The Show with a DonationAdyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.our inner life. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...Eric's awakening experienceThe awakened state in perpetuityThe shift in perception that happens with awakeningThe paradox of wanting something like awakening yet wanting it stands in the way of having itWill gets you to the cushion and once there, it's important to let go of itDoes one need a spiritual teacher when seeking awakening?The teacher evoking something from vs the teacher giving something to the studentHow people work with unconscious patternsHow you can't not be awakened - even if you don't feel it, it's thereEmotional conflictPaying attention to what's recurring in youAnything that's happened to us that was too big for us to remain conscious while we experienced it, gets trapped in our system - turned into some other emotion or it just gets stuffed and is now just there waiting for you. The universe is now asking, "can you experience this now?"Being fine with being sadLet everything be exactly the way it isHow dealing with life's experiences as they come transforms youA clinched fist vs an open hand metaphor"Let" vs "Let go"If you can't let it go, can you let it beFailure as part of triumphFailing your way through something consciously can cause a sort of transformationWhat it looks like to build a spiritual practiceDaily quiet meditation, Engage in some precise self-inquiry (a wonderment of "being")How spirituality is the direct investigation of YOUR experienceThe only way to get self-inquiry wrong is not to be ruthlessly honest about what's happening in your experienceThe fear of getting something wrongThink of your spiritual teacher kind of like a college professorPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please Support The Show with a DonationMark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He's currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms - even the clinging to inner peace - abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over YourselfThe duality that we all struggle withFreud and the Buddha's nearly identical conclusionWhat it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concernsThe clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over lifeThe clinging to that which nurtures our egoThe eightfold path of the BuddhaThe conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this bookRight View - being realistic about one's self and the nature of thingsHow change and death is happening all of the time, moment to momentTrying not to try as it relates to meditation"Take the backward step" in meditationFInding balance in "right effort"Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapyThe link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to othersHow anything that's happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditationHow useful it is to name a feelingMaking a feeling "intelligible" by naming itHow useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the bodyWhen your mind is not aware of what's making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it's important to put the words on the feelingsWhether or not all emotions show up in the bodyHow clinging takes many forms - even the desire for inner peace"Don't chase her, let her find you."That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control thingsPlease Support The Show with a Donation  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

 Please Support The Show with a DonationBarbara Bonner started as an art historian and then went on to spend much of her professional career in nonprofit management, fundraising and philanthropy. Most relevant to this show, Barbara is the author of two books; Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage. In this episode, she talks about both, using beautiful poetry, powerful quotes, and illustrative real-life stories. If you've ever wanted to cultivate these two qualities in your life, then this episode is for you. If there's one thing Barbara does through her work, it's inspiring action towards both of these qualities in the lives of everyday people.RxBar 25% off first order www.rxbar.com/wolf promo codeWOLFNutrafol 100% drug-free hair growth, made in an FDA approved facility, first months supply for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF  In This Interview, Barbara Bonner and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer books, Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring CourageThe power of putting ourselves in the way of inspirationHow we're different at the end of a book than at the beginningReframing how we look at generosityHow generosity flows from a sense of abundanceHow a sense of abundance flows from being generousThat generosity and courage are action verbsThe fact that you should feel a pinch when you act generouslyThat saying the loving-kindness meditation can be generousWhat it means to lead a courageous lifeHow no one who was courageous seems to claim courageThe spontaneity of courageHow authenticity seems to coincide with courageThat you see a pattern of courage throughout people's livesPost-traumatic growthHow a strong childhood isn't necessary in order to lead a full lifeThe role of listening in generosity and courageHow important listening is in all of lifeThe correlation between generosity and couragePracticing generosity and courage and growing the ability to act on these qualities over timeHow to live a life of meaning you have to step forward"Do something every day that doesn't compute" - Wendell Berry Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please Support The Show with a DonationUlrich Boser is a best selling author and senior fellow with The Center for American Progress. He has been a contributing editor for US News and World Report and his work has appeared in the NY Times, Wall Street Journal, and Huntington Post. His latest book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything, will equip you with actual skills to get better at what some have called the ultimate survival tool: learning how to learn. This topic is relevant to literally everyone. To be alive is to learn and grow and change (whether we're aware of it at times or not!) so it's important to sharpen our skills in order to get better at getting better. What is discussed in this episode will confirm some of what you know about how people learn, challenge some beliefs you might have about this topic and teach you a few things in the process that will make you a better student of life. Bombas - enter offer code WOLF at checkout for 20% off your first purchase www.bombas.com/wolfIn This Interview, Ulrich Boser and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About AnythingLearning how to learnGetting better at getting betterThe ultimate survival toolBeing actively engaged in the learning processMaking meaning out of somethingThe hypercorrection effectGiving our brain time to make sense of the information, reflectionHow critical it is to understand relationships between thingsVarying the circumstances in which we learn/apply informationHow it's easier to remember something new if you can hang it on to something oldA systematic approach to learning somethingValue: valuing what you're learningTarget: learning small pieces of info at a timeDevelop: practice & get feedbackExtend: elaborating on something, looking at it from different anglesRelate: analogies are the essence of thought, relating something to other thingsRethink: take time to process informationMetacognition: thinking about thinkingWhat are you going to learn and how will you know that you know it?How intertwined emotion and cognition areDigestible parts: learn less at a timeAt 90 minutes of learning, adults are kind of doneActive learning strategiesHypotheticals: what would happen if...Why it's important to stay away from crammingPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

 Please Support The Show with a DonationTim Freke is a truly pioneering philosopher. His many books, talks, and retreats have touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Tim is the author of 35 books, the newest being Soul Story: Evolution and the purpose of life. As you listen to this interview, your ah-ha moments will grow in scope and scale throughout the conversation. He is a radical thinker and one of the great minds of our time. His big view of where we've been, where we are and where we're going will hit you as perhaps surprising, remarkably realistic and fundamentally inspiring. Listen and see for yourself. Molekule for $75 off your first order, visit www.molekule.com enter promo code WOLFIn This Interview, Tim Freke and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Soul Story: Evolution and the Purpose of LifeThe deeper level of evolution going on inside of ourselvesThe evolution of the psychePerhaps it's all one evolutionary journey: physical evolution, biological evolution and then an evolution of the psyche or soulWhat if rather than the concept of God creating the universe, we've evolved such that we've created a godMaybe God is where we're going towardsIn life - the deepest things happen at the endAn arriving of conscious onenessThe point of view that life in the world is getting better over timeCreativity is the heart of the universeThe great religions of the world were created at a time when people still thought the world is flat. We've moved on and so can our recognition of spiritualityThe ark of time pointing towards a better world nowRather than the passing of time, perhaps it's the accumulation of the past meeting the possible.The past meeting the possibleThe weight of the past that can limit us and pull us backParalogical thinking: both AND (not either or)Transcend and IncludeHow he teaches others to have the experience of "deep awake"Allowing vs. Pushing AwayBeing pulled towards the better while living in the presentBeing a spiritual being in an animal, human bodyCause and Effect, Meaning and Magic - all of the levels are interacting all of the timeThe power of realistic thinking that's inspirationalDeep Awake: being spiritually awake, you experience the oneness of life and that feels like loveWaking up doesn't mean we ditch our individualityThe form of consciousness that comes through our senses which are rooted in the bodyThe form of consciousness that is in the psyche and imaginationThe form of consciousness that questions itself and realizes that our essential nature has no form  Please Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please Support The Show with a DonationCheri Huber is the author of 20 books and has been a student of zen for 35 years. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Peace Center, both in California, where she and other monks teach workshops and hold retreats. She is also a truth telling, light hearted delight to listen to. In this interview, she talks all about what is going on in our mind and how we can better work with it to produce a better experience in life. Her wisdom is so practical and so powerful. See for yourself in this transformative episode.Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the worldIn This Interview, Cheri Huber and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about itHow the process IS the outcomeThat now is the only moment there isHow the quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attentionEverything comes into being, togetherShe doesn't believe that there's anything that ISN'T GodOur dualistic thinkingAll of the ways to refer to the egoThe unique ability that humans have to experience themselves as other than lifeThe ego is a survival systemBelieving we are not connected to lifeEverything is a verb! A gerundThe illusion of being separate from lifeMy ego is the no to life's yesAlways asking what's lacking, what's missing, what's wrong keeps the ego as the center of the universeHow we are deeply conditioned for negativityAwareness being able to watch the conditioned mindI hear it in my head, it sounds like me, it must be me, it's who I amApproach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying itRecording and ListeningMake recordings of what's true, what I appreciate, what I loveHearing what's true for you in your own voiceTalking ourselves into a life that's trueHow we direct our attention is the be all and end all in lifeWe have these tendencies to see what's negative so we need to bring ourselves to what is true that isn't negativeWe transcend the conditioned mind, we don't resist itThe key is to turn your attention away from the negative voices not to change what they are sayingThe habit of going with the conversation in your head is so powerfulIf we can wake up out of it, we can decide to go somewhere else in our attentionHear Cheri Huber talk about her book,  I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about itCheri Huber teaches that the process IS the outcomeCheri Huber explains what she means by this: your ego is the "no" to life's "yes"Do you believe that we are deeply conditioned for negativity or hardwired for negativity?Here's a tip: Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying itThe quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attentionPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Please Support The Show with a DonationRick Hanson, PhD is a Neuropsychologist, teacher and author of many books. He is the founder of the Wellspring Center for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley. This is the 2nd time Dr. Hanson has been a guest on the show and we invited him back because of how great his work really is. In this episode, he talks all about the fact that who we become is a result of what we grow inside of ourselves. Using the analogy of tending a garden, he teaches us very practical ways to grow and enrich ourselves through the experiences in our lives. Get a pen and paper - you'll probably want to take notes on this one!Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the worldIn This Interview, Rick Hanson and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Resilient: How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength, and happinessWho we become is a result of what we grow inside ourselvesHow you manage your challenges, protect your vulnerabilities, Increase your resources: out in the world, in the body, and in the mindGrowing resources in our mind is a good focusConverting an experience into lasting changeSlowing down content delivery so that the nervous system in our brains has a chance to receive it and rewire accordingly5 ways to enrich a beneficial experience:Extend the experience (make it longer)Intensify the experience (really lean into it)Embody the experience (how does it feel in your body and your mind)Freshen the experience (see what's novel about it? Bring a beginners mind)Value the experience (see the relevance to you)Asking what is the challenge? What resource would be the most beneficial?The mind is like a garden - to grow things, focus on:Mindful witnessingMindful releasing of what's negativeMindful receiving (replace what we release or simply receive what would be beneficial)Fighting what's negative only makes it workGrowing a fundamental core of resilient wellbeingSafety, Satisfaction, and Connection are basic needs we haveHow it takes time to tend a gardenHow adversity isn't the only way to grow in lifeWe have to experience what we want to grow insideWe have to turn that experience into some kind of lasting change in the brain   Please Support The Show with a Donation See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Jeff Warren, former journalist and meditation teacher, discusses meditation for busy brains and how to overcome the belief that you can't meditate. They explore the role of meditation in living with depression, the constant chatter in our minds, and the importance of changing our relationship with our thoughts. They also emphasize finding joy and pleasure in meditation practice and cultivating an attitude of welcoming experience and bemusement.

Please Support The Show with a DonationRobert Wright is an author and a scholar. His most recent book, Why Buddhism is True, is an analytical look comparing the ancient concepts of Buddhism and the more recent findings of modern science. The title of his book may be a bit provocative, but we challenge you to hear him out before assuming what he writes about in his book on the topic. We think you'll find this interview thought provoking and interesting as well as instructive and helpful. Whatever your reaction to the episode, we'd love to hear about it. $30 off your first week of Hello Fresh www.hellofresh.com Enter Promo Code Feed30 UltraMax 3 Ultra Pure Omega 3s www.tryomax.com/wolf box of Omax 3 UltraPure for freeIn This Interview, Robert Wright and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Why Buddhism is TrueEvolutionary PsychologyThat according to Evolutionary Psychology we're wired to do what's best to propagate our genes into the next generationAnd how sometimes doing that might not be what's best for ourselves or the worldThat we're wired for a recurring dissatisfaction or discontented so we'd keep doing the things that would move us toward our goal of passing our genes on to the next generationCraving and AversionNot following craving and aversion as guides are central to BuddhismAccording to Buddhism if we don't run from unpleasant feelings like sadness, anxiety etc, they will actually become less painful over timeThat the Buddha intuited a lot of things that we now know to be true according to modern science and evolutionary psychologyHow our thoughts can sometimes subtlely influence us - ex Cognitive BiasCognitive Bias being driven by emotion rather than being rational & Buddhism teaches thatThe Buddhist conception of the mind/brain and modern psychology's conception of the mind/brain are very alignedIn the cognitive battle for attention, the thought that "wins" is the one that has the most feeling attached to itHow meditation can help give you clarity on thoughts and feelings and the difference between the twoCBT & questioning your thoughts and feelings in BuddhismMindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral TherapyAllowing and observing rather than acting on our strong feelingsThe anguish we add to physical pain by the anticipation of it or the lamenting of itEssences that we impute into thingsThe idea of not self and what it meansThe benefit of parceling out the things that we identify - like anxious feelings - as not being ourselvesThinking you're not cut out for meditationPlease Support The Show with a DonationSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.