In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and AddictionRight View and how it relates to having less fear in your lifeHow right view is always liberatingAsking, “does it help?”“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS LewisThe problem with trying to control your mindTranscendental MeditationHanging out in tasklessnessThe open space of awarenessHow thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditateRelax your grip, and relax back into yourselfIt doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.What it means to relax at the moment of contactRelax into it, stop the resistance of itPain is inevitable, suffering is optionalsuffering = pain x resistanceDean Sluyter LinksHomepageMeditationYoutubeTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50Connection to othersGenerosityThe factors that most contribute to our happinessThe U shape curve of happiness in lifeThe emotional peak of lifeHow our expectations change as life goes onThat our values continue to changeThe fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetimeHow the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durableThe hedonic treadmillWhat to do to be happier at the bottom of the curveThe suffering that comes from social comparisonStaying in the present momentInternal criticismGuilt vs Shame in mid-lifeThe benefits of being other-directed, other-orientedHow the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friendJonathan Rauch LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Courses Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every DayUnderstanding the limits on will-powerSetting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisionsCreating more time in your day for the things you care aboutThe two powerful forces that compete every day for our time“The Busy Bandwagon”The Infinity PoolsQuestioning the “defaults” in our scheduleCreating a highlight for every dayLiving a “someday” lifeFinding more meaningful momentsUrgency, Satisfaction, JoyBatch the little stuffLaser modeTaking back control of your time and energyCreating barriers to distractionManaging your energyBuilding your energyFocusing on the process not the outcomeJohn Zeratsky LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Sources Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm- The number one app that helps you meditate, sleep and relax. For a limited time, get 25% off a Calm premium subscription – giving you access to ALL their content – at www.calm.com/wolfSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful PoetryMarilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…Her book, How I Discovered PoetryHer poem, MississippiHer book, A Wreath for Emmett TillThe poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnetsHer poem, Rosemary for RemembranceHer poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a WreathHer poem, Like His Gouged EyeHow poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silenceThe value of silence in a life well livedSilence, contemplation, and self-knowledgeOur quiet centerHer book, CarverHer poem, Professor Carver’s Bible ClassHer book, Snook AloneMarilyn Nelson LinksHomepageFacebookNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsweep’s free guide, Crushing the 5 Barriers to Growth, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7 day free trialSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…His book, 10 Poems for Difficult TimesSaying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”How poetry helps us in difficult timesThat poetry gives voice to that which is unsayableThe poet Ellen BassHow suffering can soften us if we bow down to itThat you can’t fake surrenderThe opportunity in suffering is growthHow poetry points us in the direction of possibility in sufferingThe poet Maggie SmithThe poet Marie HoweAnnunciation by Marie HoweThe specific pointing to the universal in poetryRoger Housden LinksHomepageTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.compromo code WOLF 20 off first custom sampler setQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing www.getquip.com/wolfand get your first refill pack for freeSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Steven C Hayes, a leading psychologist and co-founder of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), shares his insights on navigating emotions and taking action towards a value-driven life. He discusses the importance of psychological flexibility and how accepting our difficult emotions can lead to personal growth. The conversation highlights the distinction between pain and suffering, the downsides of comparison, and innovative strategies for managing intrusive thoughts. With a mix of personal anecdotes, Hayes inspires listeners to embrace discomfort for emotional resilience.

Paul Hannam has started, owned and managed a number of successful businesses and he taught business and environmental management at Oxford University. His new book is The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time. Before you jump to thinking you know what he’s going to say about this – wait and listen to this episode. You’ll be surprised and intrigued by his insight and recommendations based on this movie.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Paul Hannam and I Discuss…His book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a TimeThe controlled experiment of Groundhog Day (the film)The life skill of experimentationInvestigating our behaviorWorking on changing one variable at a timeKeeping a journalAsking “what is my role in creating my mood?”Looking inward for the answerMaking change 1 day at a timeThe action of our inner lifeNarrowing the spectrum of life through routineThe inner monotonyHow you have everything you need to be happy nowSlowing down with mindfulnessGrounding yourself in your sensesConnecting with natureThe conditioned selfThe authentic selfConditioning, Circumstances and Our MindHow our brain doesn’t like changeThe 5 characteristics of our conditioned selfTry looking at things in a new wayTrying to control our inner stateLetting go of outcomesPaul Hannam LinksHomepageTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeHow it’s in the getting on in life that makes a lifeThat procrastination can be an existential matterWhat he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our livesBeing an active member or your own lifeThe two ways procrastination compromises our healthStressFewer wellness behaviorsTreatment delay “I’ll look after that later”Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behaviorI won’t give in to feel goodGoal Intentions and Implementation intentionsWhen….then…Giving the monkey something to doWhat’s the next action?Keeping it smallHacks to work around our irrational thinkingMotivation and then Action or Action and then MotivationThe meaning behind our goalsMeaning and ManageabilityAsking what will this cost me if I put it off?Prefer tomorrow over todayThinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”Affect forecastingThinking of your future self as a strangerDeveloping empathy for future selfSelf-handicap to preserve self-esteemTim Pychyl LinksHomepageTwitterTim’s Psychology Today PageBlinkist – Join the 5 million people already using Blinkist to read or listen to non-fiction books in 15 minutes or less! Free 7 day trial www.blinkist.com/wolfQuip Electric toothbrush – the perfect stocking stuffer that will be used every day and everyone needs! They’ll think of you every day when they use it. www.quip.com/wolf get your first refill pack freeTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. www.talkspace.com/wolf Promo Code WOLF to get $45 off your first month.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others. RxBar & RxNut Butter wants to build delicious food the right way – with transparency on their simple, real ingredients. Get 25% off your first order of their best seller variety pack. Use URL http://www.rxbar.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF at checkout (the US only)Ancestry DNA- unlock your family story – the perfect holiday gift. To get it for the special price of $59 use URL http://www.ancestry.com/wolfIn This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic SelfThe 7 C’s of our authentic selfThe science and biology of emotionsThe change triangleThe Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual ExcitementThe 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and ShameHow core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressedInhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotionsHow to work The Change TriangleTrauma vs traumaThe power of naming your emotionsOur open-hearted stateWhen our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process themGrounding and breathingThe role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerveAll core emotions have impulses associated with themHow harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can beRelating to ourselves as a small childHealthy shame vs toxic shameHilary Jacobs Hendel LinksHomepageTwitterSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.