What is the significance of creating a shame-free environment in the healing journey from complex trauma? The unburdening process is a pivotal component of trauma recovery, allowing individuals to confront and release emotional burdens such as fear, hurt, and shame that often stem from past traumatic experiences. Tanner, an advocate for this process, underscores its necessity by illustrating how trauma is internally held and the significance of releasing it for genuine healing. With a background shaped by the Internal Family Systems model, Tanner stresses the creation of a shame-free and supportive relational context to facilitate this unburdening, enabling individuals to approach their internal experiences with greater peace and neutrality. They acknowledge that resistance may arise due to the fear of facing uncomfortable truths, yet they encourage embracing such resistance as an opportunity for deeper understanding and personal leadership. Tanner also points to the diverse modalities that incorporate unburdening practices, attesting to the practical effectiveness of these approaches, even if they initially appear unconventional to some. Key TakeAways - Resistance in the healing journey can signal a need to confront uncomfortable truths or fears and leakage of energy towards unproductive areas. - Unburdening is crucial for healing complex trauma and involves working with parts or energies that hold onto burdens from traumatic experiences. - Creating a no shame environment is essential during the unburdening process for deeper alignments and true self emergence in complex trauma recovery work. - Recovering from CPTSD within relationships involves setting clear boundaries, holding space without taking on someone else's energy or emotion, and building trust through secure commitment. - Establishing energetic boundaries in partnership allows for emotional closeness while maintaining energetic separation, promoting individual self-leadership in the journey of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder recovery. Actionable Insights - Confront uncomfortable truths or fears during healing journey - Create a shame-free environment for unburdening process - Set clear boundaries in relationships for CPTSD recovery - Establish energetic boundaries to witness partner's negative emotions without taking them on - Build trust in relationships by committing wholeheartedly and eliminating ambiguity Quotes: “In my opinion, unburdening is essential, required, non-negotiable for permanent healing of CPTSD.” — Tanner [08:40] “Trust is critically important in small and big ways.” — Tanner [23:29] “Relationships are the perfect, ideal training ground for complex trauma recovery.” — Tanner [27:27]  

Why is it important for partners to understand the protective instincts in trauma survivors? The CPTSD recovery apprenticeship introduced by Tanner offers a novel approach to healing for survivors of childhood trauma, integrating the 5 Circuits of Healing Power and five Directional Callings of the CPTSD Wheel of Life. This comprehensive curriclum is designed for those seeking leadership within the CPTSD recovery community, emphasizing the empowerment of individuals to draw on their own wisdom rather than depending on outside experts. Tanner views this apprenticeship as a transformative journey that not only aids in personal healing but also has the potential to influence the trajectory of human evolution. Having experienced the profound impacts of deep healing work, Tanner stresses the significance of rebuilding within intimate partnerships, which often mirror the attachment contexts crucial for recovery. CPTSD Medicine is dedicated to creating a paradigm shift in mental health services, where reclaiming personal wisdom becomes the cornerstone of lasting healing. Key TakeAways - The apprenticeship is designed for CPTSD survivors actively recovering from childhood trauma, aiming for permanent healing and leadership roles in the CPTSD recovery community. - Protective Parts in individuals recovering from trauma are survival instincts deeply intertwined with trauma, making it challenging to unravel them. - Partners of trauma survivors must navigate and support protective parts, as individuals work towards releasing survival coding and discovering their true selves. - Recognizing and supporting partners in 'I must' energy is crucial, offering assistance and collaboration to help them feel supported, leading to intimate connections. - Partners should address the 'I can't' Protective Instinct with compassion, as reacting negatively can plant seeds of disrespect and unworthiness. - Creating a supportive environment with boundaries and accountability in relationships is essential for partners to engage in healing work and contribute to collective healing energy. Actionable Insights - Recognize and support a partner in 'I must' energy by offering assistance and collaboration - Differentiate between survival instincts and True Selves for healthier relationships - Address 'I can't' Protective Instinct with compassion to restore dignity and emotional healing - Create a supportive environment with boundaries and accountability in relationships for healing work - Provide a safe space for partners to engage in healing work while contributing to collective healing energy - Navigate and support protective parts in relationships as loved ones work towards unburdening and releasing survival coding Quotes: “It’s very hard to change behavior, especially if it was an adaptive strategy or something that you inherited or were socialized to believe is the way from your family of origin.” — Tanner [11:02] “Working on our partnership directly affects our children as well.” — Tanner [17:29] “You’re keeping the path clear for your partner to do the healing work, but you’re not doing the work for them. You’re simply keeping everything open and clear so that the work is easier to do.” — Tanner [42:44] “If you weaponize Parts Work, you are creating an unsafe experience for parts of each other to feel that they can trust to be vulnerable.” — Tanner [45:24]  

How can partners create a safe space for each other to express themselves? Effective communication within a partnership is crucial for nurturing a healthy and fulfilling relationship, serving as the cornerstone for intimacy, trust, and mutual understanding. Tanner's perspective on partnership communication underscores the importance of open and honest dialogue between partners, advocating for addressing issues directly within the relationship rather than relying on external validation or advice. With a focus on maintaining intimacy and trust, Tanner views the partnership as a sacred union where all matters should be discussed candidly to strengthen the bond. Her experiences highlight the value of prioritizing communication within the partnership framework, emphasizing its role in fostering a supportive and resilient relationship. Key TakeAways - Creating a safe space for all energies to be witnessed is essential for healthy expression and breaking free from harmful patterns. - Addressing value mismatches directly and finding middle ground is crucial for partnership viability and maintaining healthy relationships. - Taking ownership of personal wounds and not relying on partners for healing is key for true growth and nurturing environments. - Focusing on the present state of a relationship, taking responsibility for past wounds, and building together creates a strong foundation for a fulfilling partnership. Actionable Insights - Create a safe space for partners to express themselves without judgment - Address value mismatches directly with your partner instead of complaining behind their back - Take ownership of personal wounds and focus on individual healing journeys - Focus on the current state of the relationship and work together to build a strong foundation Quotes: “It’s one thing to listen to something, and it’s another thing to integrate the knowledge; embody it through your actions; and see how it lands and shapes what you do day to day.” — Tanner [02:21] “It takes so much courage to change, and change happens over time when we align with a particular identity that shapes our habits.” — Tanner [02:36]  “If there is an urge to turn to somebody else to talk about your partner; complain about your partner; talk about the partnership, this is an immediate sign that you need to turn toward your partner and start sharing some of this with them.” — Tanner  [13:38

Why is it important to collaboratively revise the relationship story for partners healing from past traumas? Healing trauma, particularly from complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD), is a profound journey that can be significantly influenced by the dynamics of partnership. Tanner Wallace, in her insightful exploration on The CPTSD Medicine Podcast, emphasizes the transformative potential of supportive relationships in this healing process. With a focus on revising the narrative of their relationship, Tanner suggests that partners can build deeper connections and mutual understanding, which are crucial for individuals dealing with trauma. By encouraging honest dialogue and embodying compassion, Tanner believes that partners can address unmet needs and protective behaviors, creating a context that honors their shared realities. This approach not only fosters individual healing but also transforms the relationship into a nurturing space for growth and a purposeful, loving life together. Key TakeAways - Partnerships can serve as training grounds for healing trauma and personal evolution. - Co-creating a revised relationship story based on reality and respect is crucial for growth and compassion. - Individual healing work and unburdening past hurts are essential for fostering healthy relationships. - Partnerships provide a relational field for healing, growth, and tapping into compassion and love. Actionable Insights - Work together with your partner in the healing process - Reflect on the evolution of your relationship story and acknowledge different narratives - Engage in mature and honest conversations with your partner - Address past hurts and unburden yourself to foster healthy relationships Quotes: “[A relationship] is a training ground in the relational field for every human, but particularly for humans that have betrayals in the attachment context of their childhood.” — Tanner  [10:49] “There is no other training ground than CPTSD and the relational field to tap into those codes.” — Tanner  [11:19] “When I retreat and get on my own team, and see you as the enemy, I’ve separated from love.” — Tanner  [12:56] “The more flexible and adaptable and open we are to revisions, to evolution, to learning, the better off we all are.” — Tanner  [13:56]  

Season 11 of the podcast focuses on support for partners of those recovering from CPTSD. Tanner shares her personal and professional background, emphasizing the importance of coming together as a couple. Topics include navigating trauma in relationships, intentionality in partner conversations, and creating a transformative space for healing.

Explore the benefits of energetic stewardship for CPTSD recovery and its relation to key aspects of daily life. Learn about the four milestones in the CPTSD Recovery framework: unblending, unburdening, integration, and embodiment. Discover the importance of energy work in the unburdening process. Understand the impact of energetic stewardship on financial well-being. Focus on making aligned decisions and taking actions out of love for sustainable recovery. The host shares their decision to take a break, prioritize alignment and nourishment, and discusses upcoming plans for live shows and investments.

Learn about the impact of dark energy in CPTSD recovery, how to recognize and transform it. Discover the importance of energetic stewardship to protect against dark energy. Explore the challenges of identifying and addressing dark energy within oneself. Get insights into the unburdening process and upcoming Instagram show.

In this episode, the hosts discuss their recent workshop on energetic stewardship and the importance of unburdening for CPTSD recovery. They explore finding new edges in recovery, recap the workshop and announce future offerings. The episode also covers self-leadership and using Instagram for personal growth, legacy burdens and inherited trauma, and embracing co-creation and personal growth.

How can I amplify my Self Energy when working with Parts? Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) recovery is a profound journey towards healing and self-discovery, often requiring individuals to navigate the intricate web of past traumas to transform their lives. Tanner, a CPTSD recovery coach and mentor, brings a unique perspective to this journey, shaped by his personal experiences and professional insights. She envisions a life liberated from the protective barriers erected by CPTSD, focusing on achieving genuine intimacy and connection without the burden of overanalyzing. Tanner stresses the significance of breaking free from the chains of intergenerational trauma and survival codes, encouraging a shift towards inspiration and fulfillment that transcends fear. Her approach is rooted in helping individuals attain closure and completion in their recovery process, empowering them to embrace the present moment fully and live life with renewed purpose and grace. Key TakeAways - Tanner emphasizes the importance of grounded recovery based on desires and possibilities. - Individuals can effectively navigate and address deep-seated trauma and legacy burdens within their internal system by understanding and amplifying self energy. - Andrew stresses the significance of living as one interconnected system, recognizing that all parts of oneself can generate self energy. - Tanner offers healing containers like DEVOTED and 5 Circuits of Healing Power for CPTSD recovery and connecting to source energy. - Building a community for CPTSD Recovery involves providing dedicated resources and support for individuals on their healing journey. Actionable Insights - Embrace novelty in working with Parts to amplify Self Energy - Recognize interconnectedness of all parts within oneself for healing - Utilize simple structures as pathways to connect with Source Energy - Join a community for CPTSD recovery with structured resources and support Quotes: “Notice and try to get in touch with what Part bumped you out of staying with me. What Parts still don't feel like it's safe to be in stillness, to give yourself some time to be held, to be nourished, to be inspired, to be supported, to be motivated.” — Tanner  [08:05]   “The first time I was integrating elemental medicine into my Parts Work, I felt so stupid. I felt like I was pretending. I felt like I was performing. It just felt so awkward.” — Tanner  [22:12]    “As I stuck with it, and I continued to try it, I then released myself from it having to look the way that I'd seen other people do it. And I started to just do it the way that truly resonated with me. And then it started to become more authentic.” — Tanner  [22:28]   “It helps to be exposed to a lot of different ways of connecting with Source Energy. So that you can pick and choose from different mentors, different examples, what really lands and has resonance in your experience.” — Tanner  [23:12]   “If you don't embrace the novelty and get past the awkward, ‘this is ridiculous’ stage, you won't come to discover what Medicine is truly meant to be yours.” — Tanner  [23:41]   “We're all one system that has been fragmented, and some parts may not realize that they're you fragmented off, and the sooner your system can realize that you're all one entity under your leadership, the sooner massive Unburdening can happen.” — Tanner  [26:11]   “This is a community. We are building a new paradigm of CPTSD recovery that when the next human discovers they have CPTSD they don't go online and have no resources to turn to.” — Tanner  [39:10]  

In what ways can Unburdening help in healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD)? In complex PTSD healing there is a "meeting yourself for the first time" stage that includes the intricate process of reconnecting the Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit to facilitate healing and personal growth. This stage emphasizes radical honesty and embracing all facets of oneself, especially those influenced by past traumas, to foster self-awareness and empowerment. Tanner views this journey as essential for comprehending and accepting one's internal milieu, advocating for a genuine encounter with oneself that is free from the need for external validation or solutions. She stresses the significance of facing internal distortions and misunderstandings, suggesting that by doing so, individuals can discern between their Self Energy and the energies of other internal parts. This introspective approach not only aids in building trust with one's inner self but also leads to a more profound understanding of one's internal landscape, paving the way for integration and authenticity. Key TakeAways - By recognizing and understanding protective parts within ourselves, we can facilitate unburdening effectively. - Acknowledging and accepting all parts of ourselves is essential for achieving inner harmony and healing. - Self-discovery and radical honesty are emphasized in Circuit Three for internal exploration and healing. - Unburdening is crucial for healing from Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and requires consent from all parts of oneself. - Emotional regulation and self-connection are key to building trust with inner parts and staying connected to self-energy for growth and healing. - Engaging in intentional parts work daily helps build trust within oneself and leads to healing by releasing powerful energies. - Consistency in unburdening work is vital to expanding energetic capacity and holding space for all aspects of the self. Actionable Insights - Acknowledge and accept all Parts of yourself, regardless of familiarity, love, hate, or origin - Honor internal projections and distorted sense-making for navigating internal complexities - Engage in daily intentional Parts Work and Unburdening for healing - Practice emotional regulation and self-connection for growth and healing - Recognize the interconnectedness of Mind, Body, Heart, and Spirit in unburdening work - Tap into Divine archetypal resonances to strengthen Self Energy and healing - Initiate the communication process to restore internal attachment and trust-building Quotes “Parts [of us] can show up mostly in our mind but they also have a body, heart, and spirit imprint as well, but some of those are harder to access depending on the part.” — Tanner  [10:34]   “No one wakes up and cheers you on. You have to somehow find something inside of you that is so deep, so raw, and so convicted that you wake up and reconnect with nature and your body, and you say to yourself, ‘Okay, begin again.’” — Tanner  [25:00]   “The more challenging it gets the closer I will come to myself. This is a period of the journey that is absolutely solo work.” — Tanner  [34:17]   “You are not separate from your system.” — Tanner e [36:31]   “True Self is not just Self Energy in my experience. True self is an amalgamation of all sorts of things.” — Tanner  [42:18]