Making Polyamory Work

Emily Nagoski, an expert in sexual wellness and author, discusses the often misunderstood concept of 'maintenance sex' and its potential harm to relationships. She emphasizes prioritizing shared pleasure over obligation, breaking down societal expectations that may hinder true intimacy. The conversation touches on navigating sexual identities, fostering collaboration over conflict, and the importance of authenticity in relationships. Plus, they explore key readings that can deepen understanding of sexuality, particularly for younger audiences.

Emily Nagoski, a renowned expert on sex in long-term relationships and author, reveals fascinating insights about intimacy. She challenges the myth of an elusive 'spark,' emphasizing the roles of mutual pleasure, empathy, and emotional safety. The conversation dives into how complex emotions like fear and grief can shape our relationships and perceptions of pleasure. Emily also discusses the importance of communication in addressing emotional needs, uplifting the idea that intimacy can thrive without solely relying on sexuality.

The Multiamory crew discusses aggressive fairness in polyamory, exploring challenges in achieving equity. They touch on maintaining fairness, financial considerations, open money dialogues, and the impact of aggressive fairness on relationships. The podcast emphasizes genuine care over rigid rules and the importance of clear communication in non-monogamous relationships.

Dating can be a maze, but authenticity is your best guide. Embrace who you truly are to attract meaningful connections, especially in polyamorous settings. Learn how to navigate the pressure of dating apps and find your tribe through community engagement. This conversation reframes rejection as an opportunity for growth, encouraging listeners to shine their light and seek genuine relationships.

Carrie Jeroslow, a bestselling author and advocate for relationship diversity, joins the discussion on embracing the unconventional paths of love. She shares insights on redefining relationships beyond societal norms and the challenges of parenting in diverse family structures. The conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, inclusivity, and the complexities of navigating hierarchical dynamics in polyamory. Carrie encourages listeners to foster personal growth and compassion, transforming unmet expectations into acceptance and peace.

If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help. Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4 APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships

What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory. Marie's book! https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183939/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships Marie's Compersion Resources: https://www.whatiscompersion.com/ Marie's Coaching Website: https://www.loveinsight-dating.com/ Marie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/

Genevieve King, a queer polyamorous relationship anarchist and educator, shares insights on community care and non-monogamous dynamics. She challenges individualistic norms and advocates for collaboration over competition. Genevieve reflects on her 12-year journey in polyamory, highlighting the significance of peer support and authentic narratives. The discussion delves into communal living, the complexities of polyamorous marriages, and the vital role of mutual care in relationships while emphasizing the importance of inclusivity for healthier connections.

Courtney Brame, founder of Something Positive for Positive People, discusses the often-taboo topic of herpes and the stigma surrounding it. He emphasizes the link between mental health and sexual well-being, advocating for open dialogue about STIs. The importance of community support for those living with herpes is highlighted, along with strategies for discussing sexual health openly with partners. Their conversation sheds light on reframing perceptions of herpes, fostering self-worth, and navigating emotional challenges in relationships.

Libby discusses the distinction between offers and requests in relating and how important it can be to make sure you're saying what you actually mean. Kai Cheng Thom's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kaichengthom/?hl=en Spectrum of Consent: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1kvYW4eSVKRuwUt5Mc-DnCyNVzvA036f8/view?usp=sharing Marcia Baczynski on Desire Smuggling: https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/desire-smuggler/ 27 Alternatives to "Is this Okay?": https://askingforwhatyouwant.com/27-alternatives-to-asking-is-this-okay/