Making Polyamory Work
Maintenance S*x with Emily Nagoski
Jul 2, 2024
Emily Nagoski, an expert in sexual wellness and author, discusses the often misunderstood concept of 'maintenance sex' and its potential harm to relationships. She emphasizes prioritizing shared pleasure over obligation, breaking down societal expectations that may hinder true intimacy. The conversation touches on navigating sexual identities, fostering collaboration over conflict, and the importance of authenticity in relationships. Plus, they explore key readings that can deepen understanding of sexuality, particularly for younger audiences.
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Quick takeaways
- 'Maintenance s*x' often stems from societal pressures and can harm relationships instead of fostering intimacy and connection.
- Challenging gendered social norms and engaging in open communication fosters healthier relationships by prioritizing individual pleasure and understanding.
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The Shift from Maintenance to Pleasure
Many individuals approach sex as a frequency requirement to satisfy their partners, often leading to the phenomenon of 'maintenance sex.' This concept revolves around the pressure one may feel to engage in sexual activity not out of desire, but to avoid negative outcomes, such as a partner's unhappiness. Instead of perceiving sex as an obligation or a means to prevent relational issues, it is crucial to understand that sex should be about creating shared pleasure and connection. Recognizing that the value of intimacy lies in enjoyment rather than frequency can significantly enhance overall satisfaction in relationships.
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