Making Polyamory Work

Discover what happens when a new partner transforms your life and connections! Libby shares her powerful journey of awakening through a relationship that challenged her existing marriage. She explores the complex emotions that arise, emphasizing the importance of reframing these experiences as opportunities for growth. Along with personal anecdotes, she offers practical advice to navigate transformative relationships while honoring all involved. Tune in to unravel the layers of love, new experiences, and self-discovery!

Libby tackles a hot topic: should you start a new relationship open or closed? She emphasizes the importance of clarifying intentions to avoid hidden assumptions. Starting with monogamy can lead to resentment if values get sacrificed. Opening an established monogamous relationship is tricky and requires hard work. Libby encourages developing negotiation skills early on, yet stresses that being open doesn't necessitate immediate dating. She also suggests time-bound experiments to explore preferences, balancing alignment with growth.

Emily Nagoski, an expert in sexual wellness and author, discusses the often misunderstood concept of 'maintenance sex' and its potential harm to relationships. She emphasizes prioritizing shared pleasure over obligation, breaking down societal expectations that may hinder true intimacy. The conversation touches on navigating sexual identities, fostering collaboration over conflict, and the importance of authenticity in relationships. Plus, they explore key readings that can deepen understanding of sexuality, particularly for younger audiences.

Emily Nagoski, a renowned expert on sex in long-term relationships and author, reveals fascinating insights about intimacy. She challenges the myth of an elusive 'spark,' emphasizing the roles of mutual pleasure, empathy, and emotional safety. The conversation dives into how complex emotions like fear and grief can shape our relationships and perceptions of pleasure. Emily also discusses the importance of communication in addressing emotional needs, uplifting the idea that intimacy can thrive without solely relying on sexuality.

The Multiamory crew discusses aggressive fairness in polyamory, exploring challenges in achieving equity. They touch on maintaining fairness, financial considerations, open money dialogues, and the impact of aggressive fairness on relationships. The podcast emphasizes genuine care over rigid rules and the importance of clear communication in non-monogamous relationships.

Dating can be a maze, but authenticity is your best guide. Embrace who you truly are to attract meaningful connections, especially in polyamorous settings. Learn how to navigate the pressure of dating apps and find your tribe through community engagement. This conversation reframes rejection as an opportunity for growth, encouraging listeners to shine their light and seek genuine relationships.

Carrie Jeroslow, a bestselling author and advocate for relationship diversity, joins the discussion on embracing the unconventional paths of love. She shares insights on redefining relationships beyond societal norms and the challenges of parenting in diverse family structures. The conversation highlights the importance of self-reflection, inclusivity, and the complexities of navigating hierarchical dynamics in polyamory. Carrie encourages listeners to foster personal growth and compassion, transforming unmet expectations into acceptance and peace.

If you're struggling and need help with your relationships, where should you turn? Libby shares her advice on how to find good help. Meta analyses of studies that show that therapeutic alliance matters more than therapeutic modality for positive outcomes in therapy: https://psycnet.apa.org/PsycARTICLES/journal/pst/55/4 APA article explaining: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2019/11/ce-corner-relationships

What is compersion? Can you cultivate compersion in yourself and in your relationships? Libby invites Marie Thouin, PhD to discuss her research and book on this important and sometimes misunderstood topic in polyamory. Marie's book! https://rowman.com/ISBN/9781538183939/What-Is-Compersion-Understanding-Positive-Empathy-in-Consensually-Non-Monogamous-Relationships Marie's Compersion Resources: https://www.whatiscompersion.com/ Marie's Coaching Website: https://www.loveinsight-dating.com/ Marie's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/love_insight_dating/

Genevieve King, a queer polyamorous relationship anarchist and educator, shares insights on community care and non-monogamous dynamics. She challenges individualistic norms and advocates for collaboration over competition. Genevieve reflects on her 12-year journey in polyamory, highlighting the significance of peer support and authentic narratives. The discussion delves into communal living, the complexities of polyamorous marriages, and the vital role of mutual care in relationships while emphasizing the importance of inclusivity for healthier connections.