Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Conflict, InterdependencySummary: Today I’m honoured to be joined by Stan Tatkin: PsyD, MFT, clinician, author, researcher, co-founder of the PACT Institute and all-around relational ninja. Stan’s ability to help couples navigate the often tricky waters of relationships is truly unparalleled, and in this episode, you’ll understand why. Join us as we discuss attachment theory, the leading causes of breakups and, ultimately, how to co-create a thriving, lasting relationship. Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care.Discover: Why we choose the partners we do, and why we default to certain behaviors while in a relationship Two main reasons relationships don’t last The non-negotiable habits of couples in strong, healthy relationships The mindset shift couples need to make for their relationship to survive and thrive 00:00 Intro01:10 Stan’s background02:57 Why we choose who we choose10:30 Two main reasons relationships don’t last18:02 Attachment theory & why we stay23:24 Interdependency26:29 Purpose-centered love34:42 Creating a relationship that survives and thrives41:32 Relationships are a team sport48:16 Prioritizing repair54:10 Avoid working on each other; only the problemLinks: Website | thepactinstitute.com Instagram | @drstantatkin Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, shares his expertise on relationships through a psychobiological lens. He discusses the importance of maintaining excitement and intimacy in long-term partnerships, emphasizing presence and curiosity. Dr. Tatkin reveals the neurobiological reasons behind partner attraction, pointing out how it often reflects our childhood experiences. He advocates for shared goals and mutual commitment as essential elements of thriving relationships, introducing the concept of the "couple bubble" for increased emotional support.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, a pioneer in couples therapy and creator of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, shares insights on building secure and resilient partnerships. He discusses how early experiences shape attachment styles and the importance of honesty and mutual support in relationships. Practical strategies for navigating differences and establishing boundaries are explored, along with the significance of effective communication and vulnerability. Tatkin also touches on the evolution of his work, emphasizing empathy and collaboration as keys to relationship growth.

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