Stan Tatkin

Themes: Relationships, Attachment Theory, Conflict, Interdependency Summary:  Today I’m honoured to be joined by Stan Tatkin: PsyD, MFT, clinician, author, researcher, co-founder of the PACT Institute and all-around relational ninja. Stan’s ability to help couples navigate the often tricky waters of relationships is truly unparalleled, and in this episode, you’ll understand why. Join us as we discuss attachment theory, the leading causes of breakups and, ultimately, how to co-create a thriving, lasting relationship.  Dr. Tatkin is an assistant clinical professor at UCLA, David Geffen School of Medicine. He maintains a private practice in Southern California and leads PACT programs in the US and internationally. He is the author of We Do, Wired for Love, Your Brain on Love, Relationship Rx, Wired for Dating, What Every Therapist Ought to Know, and co-author of Love and War in Intimate Relationships, and the upcoming, In Each Other’s Care. Discover: Why we choose the partners we do, and why we default to certain behaviors while in a relationship Two main reasons relationships don’t last The non-negotiable habits of couples in strong, healthy relationships The mindset shift couples need to make for their relationship to survive and thrive 00:00 Intro 01:10 Stan’s background 02:57 Why we choose who we choose 10:30 Two main reasons relationships don’t last 18:02 Attachment theory & why we stay 23:24 Interdependency 26:29 Purpose-centered love 34:42 Creating a relationship that survives and thrives 41:32 Relationships are a team sport 48:16 Prioritizing repair 54:10 Avoid working on each other; only the problem Links: Website | thepactinstitute.com Instagram | @drstantatkin Sponsors: Cozy Earth | Use code GROVES for 40% off sitewide at cozyearth.com Create the Love Cards | Use code CTLCARDS15 for 15% off at createthelove.com/cards

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, a leading expert in the psychobiological approach to couples therapy, delves into the neuroscience of love. He discusses the significance of secure attachment styles and the concept of a 'couple bubble' that protects partners from external pressures. Tatkin highlights the complexities of communication in relationships and the importance of shared rituals for emotional connection. Listeners can learn practical strategies to strengthen their partnerships and embrace challenges as opportunities for growth.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, a relationship expert and co-founder of the PACT Institute, explores the intricate world of attachment styles and their profound impact on intimacy. He argues that all humans have struggles in relationships due to our inherent complexities. The conversation highlights the significance of mutual effort, effective communication, and understanding individual attachment styles for maintaining connections. Tatkin offers insights into reigniting intimacy and fostering deeper emotional bonds, emphasizing the biological foundations of love and the importance of shared experiences.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, shares his expertise on relationships through a psychobiological lens. He discusses the importance of maintaining excitement and intimacy in long-term partnerships, emphasizing presence and curiosity. Dr. Tatkin reveals the neurobiological reasons behind partner attraction, pointing out how it often reflects our childhood experiences. He advocates for shared goals and mutual commitment as essential elements of thriving relationships, introducing the concept of the "couple bubble" for increased emotional support.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, a pioneer in couples therapy and creator of the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy, shares insights on building secure and resilient partnerships. He discusses how early experiences shape attachment styles and the importance of honesty and mutual support in relationships. Practical strategies for navigating differences and establishing boundaries are explored, along with the significance of effective communication and vulnerability. Tatkin also touches on the evolution of his work, emphasizing empathy and collaboration as keys to relationship growth.

Dr. Stan Tatkin, a renowned psychologist and author of "Wired for Love," discusses the importance of secure attachment in relationships. He emphasizes creating agreements to avoid conflict and foster fairness. Tatkin explains how different attachment styles affect adult connections and shares the transformative 'welcome home ritual' to enhance emotional bonds. He also delves into interdependence versus codependence, underscoring the value of shared purpose in both parenting and partnerships.

Relationship expert Stan Tatkin discusses the bond between hate and love in relationships, exploring childhood injustices and attachment theory. He emphasizes the importance of balance and cooperation in maintaining healthy partnerships, while also delving into topics like prenuptial agreements, hiring challenges, and the significance of shared principles in relationships.

Attachment specialist and couples expert Stan Tatkin discusses adult pair bonding, insecure vs secure attachment styles, abandonment fears, raising secure children, and the polarization in the world. He explores 'island' and 'wave' attachment styles, nervous system responses to threats, and navigating attachment styles in relationships.

Stan Tatkin, relationship expert and author, discusses the ins and outs of repair for healthy relationships. Topics include telehealth in therapy, understanding procedural memory, insecure attachment, secure functioning, attachment in polyamorous relationships, healthy interdependence, and the importance of gender inclusivity.

Marriage and family therapist Stan Tatkin shares strategies for improving communication in relationships. He emphasizes the importance of working through conflicts instead of pushing partners away. Topics discussed include facing challenges together, navigating conflicts productively, the impact of the pandemic on relationships, establishing governance and embracing differences, the impact of stress on relationships, prioritizing the relationship over self-interest, and the importance of cooperation in a relationship.