The Mark Groves Podcast

#247: How to Create a Lasting, Healthy Relationship with Dr. Stan Tatkin

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Dec 5, 2022
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INSIGHT

Familiarity Drives Pair Bonding

  • We choose partners by familiarity mixed with novelty, often mirroring family dynamics.
  • Attachment memories trigger protective behaviors that look hostile to partners.
INSIGHT

Human Nature Adds Relationship Bugs

  • Human primate tendencies—righteousness, xenophobia, comparison—compound couple problems beyond attachment.
  • Expecting partners to be other-than-human sets relationships up to fail.
ADVICE

Create Purpose-Centered Agreements

  • Define your relationship's purpose and make explicit agreements about what must happen and what must never happen.
  • Use those agreements as governance rather than relying on fluctuating feelings.
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