Human beings are undeniably complex, and what motivates us can often be a mystery, even to ourselves. So, how do we go about gathering and analyzing the data that will help us answer the most fundamental questions about our lives and our purpose? The answers may lie in an unexpectedly rich source of knowledge, our regrets. While regret is likely to have a decidedly negative connotation for most of us, it is also extremely powerful and can teach us a great deal about ourselves and what we value. It is an emotion that is present in all of us, and social scientists (like anthropologists and sociologists) have been fascinated by the subject for decades. Today on the show, we are joined by one such expert, Daniel Pink, author of the book The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward. In our conversation, Daniel shares details about the research he conducted for his book, how he determined the four main categories of regret, and what we can learn from our regrets by confronting them head-on. We also discuss Daniel’s 2011 New York Times Bestselling title, Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us, and what he thinks about working from home in light of the COVID-19 pandemic. Daniel is an exceptional storyteller and is highly knowledgeable on the subjects of regret, motivation, and the important role they play in our lives. To learn more about the many facets of regret and how it can help you thrive, be sure to tune in today!   Key Points From This Episode:   ●      Understanding regret as an emotion, why it differs from disappointment, and how regret can help us make better decisions. (0:03:00) ●      The four main types of regret (foundation, boldness, moral, and connections) and the methodology Daniel used to determine them. (0:07:30) ●      The role that outcomes play when it comes to boldness regrets. (0:13:09) ●      Why Daniel believes connection regret is so common, and what regret reveals about our values. (0:14:13) ●      The World Regret Survey that Daniel conducted as a systematic survey of regret, and his findings that regrets of inaction tend to stay with us much longer. (0:17:14) ●      What people can learn from past financial decisions that they regret and the challenge of addressing foundation regrets. (0:20:42) ●      The surprising benefits of regrets and how to learn from them. (0:21:31) ●      How regret anticipation can be used to help people save for retirement. (0:22:46) ●      Daniel’s system for addressing feelings of regret, why it’s important to confront them rather than wallow in them, and the importance of being kind to yourself. (0:24:01) ●      The overwhelming amount of decisions we make in our lives, when to choose the best versus something that is good enough, and how to optimize future regret. (0:27:56) ●      An overview of the many complex factors that motivate people, intrinsic and external motivators, and how Daniel’s research on regret affected his perspective on motivation. (0:31:16) ●      Daniel’s thoughts on working from home when considering autonomy, mastery, purpose, and motivation. (0:37:17) ●      The motivational model that Daniel sets out in his book Drive and some of the common misconceptions he has observed in reporting on his book. (0:39:33) ●      Why people are purpose maximizers, not profit maximizers, and how this should impact the leadership of a company. (0:41:26) ●      Daniel’s response to the question “How do you define success in your life?” and why he doesn’t think about the word ‘success’ very much. (0:47:08)       Participate in our Community Discussion about this Episode: https://community.rationalreminder.ca/t/episode-246-daniel-h-pink-how-to-use-regret-episode-discussion/22775   Books From Today’s Episode: The Power of Regret — https://amzn.to/42HArID Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us — https://amzn.to/40jDpl7 To Sell Is Human — https://amzn.to/3K9M2ci Free Agent Nation — https://amzn.to/40knovb   Links From Today’s Episode: Rational Reminder on iTunes — https://itunes.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-rational-reminder-podcast/id1426530582.  Rational Reminder Website — https://rationalreminder.ca/ Shop Merch — https://shop.rationalreminder.ca/ Join the Community — https://community.rationalreminder.ca/ Follow us on Twitter — https://twitter.com/RationalRemind Follow us on Instagram — @rationalreminder Benjamin on Twitter — https://twitter.com/benjaminwfelix Cameron on Twitter — https://twitter.com/CameronPassmore Daniel H. Pink on Twitter — https://twitter.com/danielpink Daniel H. Pink — https://www.danpink.com/

Daniel Pink is a psychologist, speaker and an author.Regret is the most common negative emotion humans talk about. It's even the second most common overall emotion which we talk about after love. And yet our relationship with it is pretty terrible. Having no regrets is not only a bad tattoo from the 90's but also a philosophy that robs of us valuable insights from life.Expect to learn the most common types of regrets people have in life, whether action or inaction is the cause of most suffering, how Daniel suggests we can grow past our regrets, why never looking backward is limiting our growth, how people believe in both free will and things happening for a reason and much more...Sponsors:Join the Modern Wisdom Community to connect with me & other listeners - https://modernwisdom.locals.com/Get 15% discount on Craftd London’s jewellery at https://bit.ly/cdwisdom (use code MW15)Get 20% discount on the highest quality CBD Products from Pure Sport at https://bit.ly/cbdwisdom (use code: MW20)Get a free v60 brewing kit and 40 filters from Pact Coffee at https://www.pactcoffee.com/ (use code: MODERNWISDOM)Extra Stuff:Buy The Power Of Regret - https://amzn.to/3I0UUx9Follow Daniel on Twitter - https://twitter.com/DanielPink Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom-Get in touch.Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillxTwitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillxYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/modernwisdompodcastEmail: https://chriswillx.com/contact/  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Original Airdate: November 21, 2018Is there one sentence that sums up your life? New York Times best-selling author of several provocative books about business, work and behavior Daniel H. Pink says a great person can be summed up in just a few words. Daniel discusses his book, “A Whole New Mind,” which has been translated into 39 different languages. Daniel explains the "six senses" he believes can help you learn to be more creative, successful and live up to your full potential. He offers tangible exercises that will help you find your greater purpose, including one called the “Gratitude Visit” and another called “Picturing Yourself at 90.” Also, Oprah shares what she thinks her one, descriptive sentence would be.

Rather than striving for a life with no regrets, Daniel H. Pink, author of The Power of Regret, suggests embracing regret and learning from it. He outlines the four most common categories of regret and explains how looking back can help us move forward.Learn more about sponsor message choices: podcastchoices.com/adchoicesNPR Privacy Policy

Regret is one of our most powerful emotions -- and also one of the most misunderstood. Over the past two years, author Daniel H. Pink has collected a trove of more than 16,000 regrets from people in 105 countries in an effort to better understand this mysterious emotion. He shares the key patterns that emerged (it all boils down to the same four core regrets, he says) and explains how to transform your own regrets in order to create the life you've always wanted to live. This talk and conversation, hosted by TED current affairs curator Whitney Pennington Rodgers, was part of an exclusive TED Membership event. Hear more from our host Shoshana at the end of the episode on what regret can teach us -- and when it's time to let it go. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.