Ep. 273 - The Doctor Is In Series - Secure or Insecure - What Is Your Attachment Style?

Sep 2, 2024

In this engaging discussion, Dr. Abbie Maroño, a psychologist specializing in attachment styles, unpacks the intricacies of human relationships. She explains the four attachment styles—secure, anxious preoccupied, dismissive avoidant, and fearful avoidant—and their origins in childhood. Dr. Maroño highlights the role of oxytocin in forming bonds and emphasizes the potential for personal growth through understanding these styles. The conversation also sheds light on the impact of social media on modern relationships, advocating for open communication and self-awareness.

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Intro

00:00 • 4min

Understanding Attachment Styles

04:03 • 22min

Understanding Attachment Styles for Personal Growth

26:31 • 2min

Transforming Relationships Through Education

28:15 • 9min

The Importance of Open Communication in Relationships

36:49 • 2min

Navigating Modern Relationships and Attachment Styles

39:16 • 3min

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Attachment Styles. They will talk about the 4 different types, how they are caused and how to grow from an insecure to a secure style. [Sept 2, 2024]

00:00 - Intro

00:16 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:49 - Intro Links

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03:49 - The Topic of the Day: Attachment Styles

05:01 - The Types

05:44 - Secure Attachment

07:32 - Anxious Preoccupied Attachment

09:27 - Primary and Secondary Influences

14:40 - Dismissive Avoidant Attachment

17:42 - Fearful Avoidant Attachment

20:01 - One at a Time

21:09 - Oxytocin Influence

26:30 - The Path Forward

29:51 - See It to Believe It

34:21 - Emotional Well-Being

- Work in Progress - Dr. Abbie Maroño

36:47 - Second Date Sharing

39:19 - Swipe Right

41:15 - Next Month: Judd Shaw

42:12 - Wrap Up & Outro

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