#370.5: Derek Sivers on Developing Confidence, Finding Happiness, and Saying “No” to Millions (Repost)

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May 11, 2019

Derek Sivers, a philosopher-king programmer and founder of CD Baby, shares insights from his remarkable journey. He discusses the transformative power of saying 'no' using his 'Hell Yeah or No' philosophy, emphasizing the importance of passionate pursuits. Sivers also reflects on his growth from musician to entrepreneur, highlighting how addressing psychic pain can foster genuine success. Additionally, he explores the significance of 'now pages' for personal engagement and critiques the impact of consumerism on happiness, offering wisdom rooted in minimalism.

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ANECDOTE

Circus Clown Career

Derek Sivers worked as a circus clown for 10 years, starting at age 18.
This unexpected career stemmed from a gig at a pig show and taught him valuable stage experience.

ADVICE

Say Yes to Everything

Say yes to every opportunity, especially early in your career.
These "piddly little gigs" can be lottery tickets to unexpected success.

INSIGHT

Focus on the Audience

Focus on giving the audience what they want, not on self-consciousness.
Recognize that performances are about serving the audience, not personal validation.

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