Jillian on Love

The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern that Destroys a Relationship

Dec 19, 2022
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Beyond Attachment: Key Relationship Dynamic

  • Relationship dynamics between closeness and autonomy go beyond attachment styles like anxious or avoidant.
  • Everyone struggles internally and relationally balancing need for connection with need for individuality.
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Autonomy vs. Togetherness Tension

  • Every person values autonomy even in close relationships.
  • Maintaining individual identity within "we" is a core tension in relationships.
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Forced Commitment Breeds Distance

  • Prematurely forcing oneself into relationships disrupts honoring individual readiness and autonomy.
  • This can appear as emotional unavailability or avoidant tendencies but often reflects internal conflict.
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