The Chaser and the Runner: The Pattern that Destroys a Relationship
Jillian on Love
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The Ultimate Unconscious Struggle Between Two People in a Relationship
How to balance togetherness and space becomes the ultimate unconscious struggle between two people in a relationship. If you throw into the mix extreme fear of abandonment with an extreme fear of closeness, it becomes complicated. The truth is that context really matters. One person can be totally anxious in one relationship, they can actually be avoidant in another because who we're relating to matters. I talk about this much more in detail in my episode on anxious attachment,. But let's take away that lens for just a moment. And let's look at this very crucial aspect, this very fundamental aspect of how we humans function relationally. Every single person values their autonomy. We want to do what it is that
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