Neuroscientist Ethan Kross talks about taming head chatter. They discuss techniques such as talking to ourselves in the second and third person, temporal distancing, and going for a hike. They also explore the impact of rumination on anxiety and depression, effective conversations, strategies for managing chatter, and the benefits of nature and perspective.
Distance self-talk can help manage the inner voice by providing objectivity and emotional intelligence.
Temporal distancing reminds us that negative emotions are impermanent and will fade.
Awe-inspiring experiences in nature can shrink the self and provide perspective on our worries.
Deep dives
Managing Negative Thought Loops and Chatter
Chatter, or getting stuck in negative thought loops, is a common problem that undermines our ability to think and perform optimally. It can lead to anxiety, rumination, and a sense of being overwhelmed. One technique to address this is distance self-talk, where you use your own name or second-person pronouns to coach yourself through a problem, gaining perspective and emotional intelligence. Another strategy is temporal distancing, which involves considering how you will feel about a situation in the future, reminding yourself that emotions are impermanent and will eventually subside. Awe-inspiring experiences, such as being in nature, can also help modulate inner voice by shrinking the self and providing a sense of perspective. Compensatory control is another tool, involving creating order and organization in your physical surroundings to counterbalance the lack of control felt during chatter. Understanding and applying these techniques can help harness and manage the inner voice for better emotional well-being.
The Power of Distance Self-Talk
Distance self-talk is a technique that involves using your own name or second-person pronouns to coach yourself through problems. By speaking to yourself as if you were another person, you gain a greater sense of objectivity and emotional intelligence. This allows you to provide wise advice and guidance, similar to how you would help someone else. Distance self-talk can provide quick emotional regulation and perspective, helping to turn down the volume on chatter and engage more constructively with challenges and emotions.
Temporal Distancing: Getting Perspective over Time
Temporal distancing is a form of mental time travel that involves considering how you will feel about a situation in the future. By recognizing the impermanence of emotions and recognizing that they will gradually subside, you gain hope and perspective. This tool highlights the instability of negative emotions and reassures that things will get better with time. Temporal distancing allows you to shift from feeling helpless and overwhelmed in the present moment to recognizing that emotions will fade and promote a more constructive mindset.
Using Awe to Gain Perspective
Awe-inspiring experiences, particularly in nature, have the power to shrink the self and provide a sense of perspective. When encountering something vast and indescribable, such as a beautiful sunset or the vastness of the ocean, we feel smaller in comparison. This perspective allows us to put our problems into context, recognizing that our worries are small in the grand scheme of things. Awe can counterbalance the overwhelming nature of chatter and remind us of the beauty and vastness of the world around us.
Compensatory Control: Creating Order to Regain Control
Compensatory control involves creating external order and organization to counterbalance the lack of control felt during chatter. Activities like cleaning, organizing spaces, or engaging in rituals provide a sense of control and stability. While this tool should be used in moderation and not taken to an extreme, it can help individuals regain a sense of control over their immediate environment, which can positively influence their state of mind and modulate chatter.
Ethan Kross (University of Michigan neuroscientist, author of bestseller Chatter) is one of the world’s leading experts on controlling the mind. I came across his work while researching anxiety and found his perspectives on when and how to tame our relentless head chatter (or monkey mind) refreshing. And wild. Ethan is all about appreciating the “beast” that is the fretty voice in our head, while modulating it artfully.
We chat through some seriously effective tools such as talking to ourselves in the second and third person, temporal distancing, sorting your sock drawer and, yep, going for a hike. A life-hack-ish episode, but with scientific grunt.