

Why You Keep Reacting Badly (Even When You Know Better) | Shankari
Jun 2, 2025
Explore the fascinating world of Internal Family Systems, a therapeutic approach that helps you understand your inner conflicts. Discover how to embrace various parts of yourself, even the challenging ones, for emotional healing. Learn the importance of recognizing and managing your anger through self-awareness. The conversation dives into the intertwining of trauma, neurobiology, and spirituality, highlighting the potential for transformation through compassion and curiosity. Reflect on what it means to live a fulfilled, meaningful life.
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You Are a System of Parts
- Internal Family Systems (IFS) views our mind as made of parts, each with unique feelings and agendas.
- These parts are not broken; our true self harmonizes and holds them with compassion.
Party Night Inner Conflict Example
- Shankari shares a relatable example of deciding to go to a party versus staying home in pajamas.
- This illustrates how conflicting parts within us create internal tug-of-wars.
Pause and Inquire During Triggers
- When triggered by intense emotions, pause and ask yourself how you feel towards that feeling.
- This inquiry creates space, helping shift from being overwhelmed to calming and creative presence.