Lori Gottlieb, a renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author, discusses the transformative power of storytelling in our lives. She emphasizes how we all craft unreliable narratives, which can shape our emotions and growth. The conversation dives into the importance of self-compassion and listening to others' experiences for real change. Gottlieb also highlights the role of therapists as editors in rewriting personal stories, nudging us toward healthier perspectives and relationships.
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Unreliable Narrators
Everyone is an unreliable narrator, shaping stories based on their perspective.
We often misinterpret others' actions, coloring narratives with our biases.
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Therapeutic Editing
Therapists, like editors, help refine and challenge personal narratives.
They ask questions to reveal blind spots and offer alternative perspectives.
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Compassion Types
Idiot compassion blindly supports friends without challenging their narratives.
Wise compassion probes deeper, helping friends see their patterns and grow.
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A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
Lori Gottlieb
In 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Lori Gottlieb presents a dual narrative where she recounts her experiences as a psychotherapist working with various patients and as a patient herself, seeking therapy after a sudden and devastating breakup. The book introduces several patients, including a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with terminal cancer, a senior citizen contemplating ending her life, and a young woman struggling with alcoholism and poor relationship choices. Through these stories, Gottlieb sheds light on the therapeutic process, highlighting the complexities of human emotions, the importance of connection, and the universal quest for meaning and inner reconciliation. The book is known for its candid and humorous approach, offering insights into the human condition and the transformative power of therapy.
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
A Therapist, Her Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed
Lori Gottlieb
In 'Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,' Lori Gottlieb presents a dual narrative where she recounts her experiences as a psychotherapist working with various patients and as a patient herself, seeking therapy after a sudden and devastating breakup. The book introduces several patients, including a self-absorbed Hollywood producer, a young newlywed diagnosed with terminal cancer, a senior citizen contemplating ending her life, and a young woman struggling with alcoholism and poor relationship choices. Through these stories, Gottlieb sheds light on the therapeutic process, highlighting the complexities of human emotions, the importance of connection, and the universal quest for meaning and inner reconciliation. The book is known for its candid and humorous approach, offering insights into the human condition and the transformative power of therapy.
Ryan speaks with Lori Gottlieb about the profound effect that stories have on our lives, why we are all unreliable narrators, how we can make real steps toward positive change by practicing self-compassion, understanding other peoples’ experiences by listening to their stories, and more.
Lorr Gottlieb is a physiotherapist, writer, speaker, and podcast host whose work focuses on the role that stories and storytelling take in shaping our mental landscape. She obtained an undergraduate degree at Stanford University and a Masters of Clinical Psychology from Pepperdine University, and she is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She published the New York Times bestseller, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone in 2019, which she repurposed into a journal version in 2022 titled Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: The Journal. She also writes the weekly “Dear Therapist” advice column for The Atlantic and is the co-host of the iHeart Radio podcast "Dear Therapists." Her TED Talk was one of the top most-watched talks of 2019. Her work can be found on her website lorigottlieb.com.
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