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2193: Five Things To Do When Someone Needs You Too Much by Dr. Margaret Rutherford on Relationship Advice

Jun 2, 2024

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Dr. Margaret Rutherford discusses managing emotional dependence in relationships, emphasizing setting boundaries, seeking professional help, and prioritizing emotional health. She highlights the challenges of feeling trapped and emotionally blackmailed, stressing the importance of supporting, listening, and loving without trying to fix. References books on understanding different personality types and advises on taking care of oneself while navigating complex relationships.

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Quick takeaways

Recognize unhealthy dependence vs. healthy support in relationships.

Proactively set boundaries and seek therapy to address emotional manipulation and maintain balance in relationships.

Deep dives

Recognizing Healthy Support Versus Intense Dependence

Distinguishing healthy support from intense dependence in relationships is crucial. While friends may confide in each other during tough times, chronic dependence can lead to one-sided relationships where your needs are overlooked. Feeling emotionally drained and possibly manipulated indicates problematic dependence, necessitating professional intervention for a balanced dynamic.

Navigating Emotional Dependency in Relationships

6min

Navigating Relationships with Those Who Need You Too Much

3min

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Episode 2193:

Dr. Margaret Rutherford delves into the complexities of dealing with someone who relies too heavily on you emotionally. She provides five actionable steps to manage this dynamic, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries, seeking professional help, and maintaining your own emotional health.

Read along with the original article(s) here: https://drmargaretrutherford.com/5-things-to-do-when-someone-needs-you-too-much/

Quotes to ponder:

"I don’t know how I would make it if I didn’t have you to talk to."

"You feel trapped and perhaps even emotionally blackmailed."

"It’s their very difficult battle to fight. You can support, listen, love. But not fix."

Episode references:

I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me: https://www.amazon.com/Hate-You-Dont-Leave-Understanding/dp/0399536213

Stop Walking on Eggshells: https://www.amazon.com/Stop-Walking-Eggshells-Borderline-Personality/dp/1572246901

Disarming the Narcissist: https://www.amazon.com/Disarming-Narcissist-Surviving-Thriving-Self-Absorbed/dp/1608827607

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl

ZenCare: https://zencare.co/

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