The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Relationship Therapist: "This Statistically Is The Best Age To Get Married So You Don't Get A Divorce!", "Men Should Not Split The Bill", "80% Of Women Want Men Over 6ft When Only 15% Are 6ft!"

Mar 11, 2024

Lori Gottlieb, a psychotherapist and bestselling author known for her insights on relationships, joins the conversation to share vital truths about love and partnership. She discusses the statistically ideal age to marry to reduce divorce risks and why men should typically cover the bill on dates. Lori also emphasizes that many women prefer partners over six feet tall, contrasting with the actual statistics. The conversation digs deep into unrealistic dating expectations and the impacts of modern loneliness, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating relationships.

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Lori Gottlieb

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Marriage after 30 increases divorce risk, emphasizing the importance of timing in relationships.

Gender expectations impact dating dynamics, posing challenges in matching educational and financial status.

Uncertainty in defining gender roles necessitates open communication for navigating modern relationship complexities.

Paying on a first date symbolizes safety and respect, influencing dating dynamics and societal norms.

Deep dives

Impact of Age on Marriage and Divorce

Statistics show that getting married after 30 increases the likelihood of divorce with each additional year, puzzling many. Renowned therapists emphasize the importance of couples counseling and finding compatibility beyond initial butterflies on first dates. Unrealistic expectations like expecting a partner to be a best friend and match all interests can strain relationships, highlighting the importance of understanding individual needs and qualities for enduring partnerships.

Embrace Emotional Maturity and Set Higher Standards in Relationships

03:47

Power dynamics in relationships: The victim position

01:31

Timing and Communication in Relationships

01:26

Navigating Fear of Change and Sabotage in Therapy and Personal Growth

01:58

Intro

2min

Understanding Self-Awareness and Relationships

2min

Navigating Modern Relationship Expectations

7min

Navigating Modern Relationship Expectations

24min

Redefining Self-Worth in Modern Dating

23min

Understanding the Optimal Age for Marriage and Its Impact on Divorce Rates

5min

Unraveling Self-Worth Through Storytelling

19min

Understanding Dreams and Heartbreak

14min

The Fundamental Need for Connection and Love

3min

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Navigating Loneliness in a Digital Age

6min

11.

Exploring the Depths of Personal Growth and Relationship Fundamentals

2min

Relationships and romance aren't easy, but are you making it harder than it needs to be?

Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and a bestselling author, she is also the co-host of the ‘Dear Therapists’ podcast. Her New York Times bestselling books include, ‘Maybe You Should Talk to Someone’ and ‘Mr Good Enough’.

In this conversation Lori and Steven discuss topics such as, why men should always pay for the date, the best age according to statistics to get married, what women really want in a man, and the simple trick to show what is missing in your relationship.

(00:00) Intro

(01:08) How to Live the Life You Want

(04:06) Lack of Human Connections Leads to Relationship Pressure

(05:21) Why the Majority Aren't Satisfied with Their Relationships

(07:01) The Need to Be Understood

(08:47) Why Men Struggle More Opening Up in the Relationship

(15:34) Setting Unreal Expectations When Looking for a Partner

(18:40) We're Too Picky on Dating Apps

(23:57) High Expectations, Can They Be Lowered?

(27:04) Gender Differences in Dating

(32:44) The Type of People That Seek Bad Partners

(34:11) How to Help Those People

(35:49) Financial Differences in Dating

(41:53) People Are Choosing Not to Have Kids and Get Married

(48:02) What Happens When a Woman Earns More in the Relationship

(50:08) The Big Debate on a First Date

(55:35) Red Flags in First Dates

(58:51) The Age You Marry Is Linked to Divorce Risk

(01:02:32) You Need to Learn to Unknow Yourself

(01:04:35) The Impact of Seeking Approval

(01:11:20) When Your Friends Sabotage You When You Try to Change

(01:19:46) Do Women Express More Emotion Than Men?

(01:21:38) Do Our Dreams Have True Meanings?

(01:24:08) The Safety of Self-Compassion

(01:25:55) The Opposite of Depression Isn't Happiness

(01:28:46) The Grief of Heartbreak and How to Recover

(01:36:53) How to Help Someone Going Through Heartbreak

(01:44:02) Last Guest Question

You can find the link to the graph on age and divorce risk here: https://bit.ly/49KpKrM

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The Diary Of A CEO with Steven Bartlett

The Relationship Therapist: "This Statistically Is The Best Age To Get Married So You Don't Get A Divorce!", "Men Should Not Split The Bill", "80% Of Women Want Men Over 6ft When Only 15% Are 6ft!"

Episode guests

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Deep dives

Impact of Age on Marriage and Divorce

Challenging Traditional Relationship Expectations

Gender Dynamics and Relationship Challenges

Role Ambiguity and Communication in Relationships

Importance of Safety in Gender Dynamics

Interpreting First Date Behavior

Relationship Red Flags

Optimal Age for Marriage and Divorce Probability

Embrace Emotional Maturity and Set Higher Standards in Relationships

Power dynamics in relationships: The victim position

Timing and Communication in Relationships

Navigating Fear of Change and Sabotage in Therapy and Personal Growth

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The Relationship Therapist: "This Statistically Is The Best Age To Get Married So You Don't Get A Divorce!", "Men Should Not Split The Bill", "80% Of Women Want Men Over 6ft When Only 15% Are 6ft!"

Episode guests

Podcast summary created with Snipd AI

Quick takeaways

Deep dives

Impact of Age on Marriage and Divorce

Challenging Traditional Relationship Expectations

Gender Dynamics and Relationship Challenges

Role Ambiguity and Communication in Relationships

Importance of Safety in Gender Dynamics

Interpreting First Date Behavior

Relationship Red Flags

Optimal Age for Marriage and Divorce Probability

Embrace Emotional Maturity and Set Higher Standards in Relationships

Power dynamics in relationships: The victim position

Timing and Communication in Relationships

Navigating Fear of Change and Sabotage in Therapy and Personal Growth

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