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CARE-FRONTATIONS: Three Keys for Giving & Receiving Criticism (Best Of)

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Jun 21, 2025
Explore the fascinating psychology behind how we react to criticism and the defense mechanisms at play. Discover a three-part recipe for effective 'care-frontations' that promotes healthier communication. Uncover the surprising relationship killer that isn’t conflict and how embracing challenges can actually bring people closer together. Personal anecdotes about parenting and feedback reveal the complexities of navigating criticism, emphasizing the need for understanding and acceptance in building stronger connections.
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ANECDOTE

Small Town Parenting Confrontation

  • Glennon Doyle shares a story about addressing her son Bobby being mean to his friend Charlie in a small community.
  • The parents collaboratively created a plan for better behavior, showing investment in the kids' friendship and long-term relationship.
INSIGHT

Brain Defends Against Criticism

  • Our brains instinctively defend against criticism by reshaping the message to protect self-image.
  • Criticism triggers threats related to safety and belonging, not just self-esteem.
ADVICE

How To Give Effective Feedback

  • When giving critical feedback, approach with kindness and clear investment in the person's best interest.
  • Collaborate on actionable steps and consequences to promote positive change.
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