Ep. 269 - The Doctor Is In Series - The Fears That Drive Self-Sabotage

Aug 5, 2024

Dr. Abbie Maroño, a psychologist, dives deep into the phenomenon of self-sabotage and its psychological roots. They explore fears like failure and success, how low self-esteem plays a role, and the impact of critical past experiences. Dr. Maroño shares actionable strategies to combat these destructive behaviors, emphasizing the importance of therapy and self-compassion. The conversation highlights the benefits of journaling for self-discovery and offers tools for those seeking to break free from self-sabotage patterns.

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Intro

00:00 • 6min

Understanding Self-Sabotage

05:36 • 21min

Overcoming Self-Sabotage: Strategies for Building Resilience

26:22 • 4min

Building Self-Esteem Through Self-Reflection

30:14 • 2min

The Psychological Benefits of Journaling for Self-Discovery

32:06 • 2min

Understanding Self-Sabotage and Psychological Insights

33:54 • 2min

Welcome to the Social-Engineer Podcast: The Doctor Is In Series – where we will discuss understandings and developments in the field of psychology.

In today’s episode, Chris and Abbie are discussing Self-Sabotage. They will talk about the different ways people keep themselves from moving forward and how you can try to realign this misguided way of thinking. [Aug 5, 2024]

00:00 - Intro

00:17 - Dr. Abbie Maroño Intro

00:44 - Intro Links

- Social-Engineer.com - http://www.social-engineer.com/

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- CLUTCH - http://www.pro-rock.com/

- innocentlivesfoundation.org - http://www.innocentlivesfoundation.org/

04:57 - The Topic of the Day: Self-Sabotage

05:35 - Definition & Types

09:09 - Fear of Failure

11:13 - Fear of Success

13:55 - Low Self-Esteem

17:11 - Fear of Scrutiny

19:22 - Avoidant Personalities

23:27 - Help!

26:21 - Fighting Back

30:13 - Write Away

33:55 - Wrap Up

- The Doctors Corner

35:18 - Next Month: Attachment Styles

35:44 - Outro

- Work in Progress - Dr. Abbie Maroño

- www.social-engineer.com

- www.innocentlivesfoundation.org

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Pappo, M. (1983). Fear of success: The construction and validation of a measuring instrument. Journal of Personality Assessment, 47(1), 36-41.

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Peel, R., & Caltabiano, N. (2021). The relationship sabotage scale: an evaluation of factor analyses and constructive validity. BMC psychology, 9, 1-17.

Peel, R., McBain, K., Caltabiano, N., & Buckby, B. (2017, January). How is self-sabotage presented in romantic relationships?. In 16th Australian Psychological Society Psychology of Relationships Interest Group National Conference (APS-PORIG). University of Southern Queensland.

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