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354. Greatest Hits with Mary's Cup of Tea: The Virgin/Mother/Whore Paradigm & How to Stop Giving a Shit

Aug 8, 2024

Mary Jelkovsky, a top-rated self-love podcaster and author, delves into the restrictive roles imposed on women by the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. She shares personal insights on self-acceptance, the pressures of societal beauty standards, and the impact of cosmetic procedures. The conversation navigates the importance of thought work in redefining self-worth, emphasizing self-compassion, especially in today's social media landscape. They challenge conventional milestones for women, promoting the freedom to live authentically without societal judgment.

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The podcast highlights the restrictive virgin/mother/whore paradigm that shapes women's identities and societal expectations, urging listeners to challenge these limiting roles.

It emphasizes the importance of thought work in helping individuals recognize and alter subconscious beliefs that negatively affect their self-worth and life choices.

The discussion critiques the self-help industry's narrow definitions of empowerment, advocating instead for self-acceptance and the pursuit of authentic desires free from societal pressure.

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Challenging Beauty Norms

The episode delves into the societal pressures surrounding beauty norms, particularly the internalization of the virgin-mother-whore paradigm that stems from patriarchal ideals. This framework imposes restrictive categories on women, often leading them to feel inadequate if they do not conform to established roles. The discussion emphasizes the importance of addressing these constructs and encourages listeners to question their motivations for adhering to beauty standards, such as Botox, which may stem from societal judgment rather than personal preference. By fostering self-awareness, individuals can detach their worth from societal expectations, thus empowering them to embrace their authentic selves.

Intro

2min

Empowering Thought Work

6min

Reframing Women's Milestones

13min

Embracing Humanity in Recovery and Self-Compassion

2min

Exploring Self-Compassion and Feminist Perspectives in Therapy

2min

The Cycle of Thoughts and Emotions

6min

Embracing Neutrality and Self-Acceptance

16min

Navigating Self-Worth in a Social Media World

3min

As women, we're often placed in prefabricated boxes that come with their own roles and expectations -- also know as the virgin/mother/whore paradigm. But what if you don’t want to be stereotyped into these roles? Is it even possible to just stop giving a shit and live your life the way you want?

In this re-release of one of my favorite interviews I've done in the last year, I sat down with top-rated self-love podcaster and author Mary Jelkovsky on her podcast, Mary’s Cup of Tea, to break down the sexist roles and expectations placed on women. We dive into the virgin-whore dichotomy and the maiden/mother/crone paradigm, explore the constantly shifting expectations women face (including a very spicy discussion about Botox), and discuss how to stop giving a shit about other people’s opinions. Hit play to listen now!

Get full show notes and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/354

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