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The Psychology of your 20s

141. How to get over someone you can't stop thinking about

Nov 7, 2023
38:56
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The podcast explores the psychology behind why we can't stop obsessively thinking about someone and how to get over them. It covers topics such as emotional closure, positive bias for the past, chemical reasons for obsession, anxious attachment, excuses for staying invested, emotional detachment, the science of no-contact, and tips for moving on.
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Quick takeaways

  • Emotional closure is crucial for moving on from someone, as our brains need a clear narrative to conclude that chapter and stop searching for answers.
  • Our tendency to romanticize the past and focus on positive memories hinders our ability to let go and elongates the healing process.

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Lack of Emotional Closure

When we cannot stop thinking about someone from our past, it is often because we lack emotional closure. Our brains need to create a structured narrative to understand why the relationship ended and to conclude that chapter. Without closure, our minds remain uncertain and keep searching for answers, leading to persistent thoughts and memories of that person.

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