The Secure Love Podcast with Julie Menanno Take Me Out to the Ballgame: Navigating Attachment Fears and Finding Co-Regulation
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Jul 3, 2024 A couple in therapy faces challenges at a baseball game, exploring attachment fears and communication breakdowns. They delve into feelings of panic, overwhelm, and avoiding emotions. The therapist guides them to understand their deeper fears and support each other better, offering practical insights for improving their connection.
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Feeling Into Words In Session
- Julie contrasts talking about feelings intellectually with feeling into them in session.
- She says authentic felt experience, not canned words, enables lasting change in couples.
Baseball Game Panic Trigger
- Drew describes panicking at a crowded minor league baseball game and stepping away to the concourse to regulate himself.
- That escape intended to manage humiliation and loss of control but left Melissa alone with the kids and escalated conflict.
Naming Hides The Pain Beneath Avoidance
- Julie slows Drew down to help him name shame, humiliation, and panic under his reaction.
- Naming those feelings reveals his avoidant regulation is actually a defense against deep pain, not indifference.