Relationships Made Easy 221. The Five Reasons People Pick Fights and Three Things to Do About It
Jan 3, 2023
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Why People Pick Fights Unconsciously
- People pick fights unconsciously as a defense mechanism to feel control or due to self-sabotage.
- They do this because they feel uncomfortable when things are going well or anxious about losing control.
Fighting Is Learned Communication
- Some people pick fights because it's the only way they learned to communicate.
- Fighting may be their way to try to connect or show they care, despite doing the opposite.
Fighting as a Self-Fulfilling Prophecy
- People may pick fights to create a self-fulfilling prophecy of rejection.
- They test others' love or loyalty by provoking fights and then expecting abandonment.