The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 259: The Trouble With Overgiving and Overcompensating
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Apr 29, 2022 AI Snips
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When Giving Becomes Self-Exploitation
- Overgiving is exploiting yourself under the guise of generosity to feel needed, worthy, or to control outcomes.
- Genuine giving requires boundaries and wholehearted intent, not hidden agendas or self-sacrifice.
The Anxiety Behind Excess Effort
- Overgivers often fear giving less than 100% and end up exceeding their bandwidth to cover imagined deficits.
- They overcompensate in relationships by responding with multiples of effort to control or prevent loss.
Cognitive Dissonance Of Overgiving
- Overgiving creates cognitive dissonance: you suppress your needs while centering on your efforts and blame yourself when others don't reciprocate.
- This mismatch fuels stress, anxiety, and distorted perceptions of the relationship.