Overgive and OverCompensate

When overgive and over compensate, we feel enraged and wounded. The situation can feel acutely painful when the other person blames us for their crappy behaviour or for why things aren't working. When we are truthful about the why behind our so called giving, all things become clear. We acknowledge that we were willing to allow ourselves to be used by others. This means that we have the power to stop this false giving and to start being aware of our motives and behavior. And it's like, is that giving? Or were you hiding behind money, or rescuing because of unresolved hurt from the past, or hiding your needs and letting partners burst your boundaries?